What to do with a stubborn ex boyfriend

Hi there, I have never done this before and I feel a little silly but friends and family are made to say nice things to you. So here goes, My boyfriend and I have dated for 2 years. We broke up a while back because of a lot of things that came before. After three weeks (with some contact) he came back and we managed to sort everything out. We have been so happy and we really did sort out all the previous nonsense. We do live together, well did I suppose. The other night we had a major fight and he just stormed out saying it was over because I don't trust him (which is utter nonsense) his friend was there and I feel he was trying to show he was a man and if he wanted to leave he would leave. It has all just gone to far now (it's been a week) he has been getting drunk every night which I know is how he hides things he doesn't want to think about. He knows he is being ridiculous (he said so) and then after I sent an email saying if he was done then it was most definitely over! that night he called to pick up his razor and toothbrush, which I think was an excuse to see me because he could have easily bought new ones. I have messaged him that I have found the notebook he was looking for (its NB for work) and he said thank you. The big question is when he comes by to pick it up do I talk to him and appeal to his logic and explain or do I just leave it and wait until he comes around again. (Which will most likely be when he comes to get more stuff or the rest of it) Sorry for rambling and thank you for any advice.

Hi, To me it sounds like there is a lot going on and it is with him. I don't know from what you said if maybe in your talk/fight you brought up something and it sparked this but... Men have break downs too and sometimes they act out in such awful ways you have no choice but to push them away which could be the goal. Now all that being said, do i think him getting a piece of his stuff at a time is basically is a sign of him not knowing where to go, yes. If he wanted out he would get his things but he is doing this slowly like he is not sure. Maybe his drinking is his way of dealing with whatever is going on and his doesn't want to give it up yet? Or maybe he doesn't feel like he can share things with you for some reason that is because of a miscommunication somewhere in the past. I am just spit balling here in terms of trying to think of what he might be feeling. What you need to decide is if he makes you happy and if that happy out ways the bad. To me relationships are build around finding someone you want to work on things with, that way they become a true partner in all your life. So if he is your partner and you know you want to work on things then fight for it. Maybe he just wants to see you try for him. Now I am just going on, sorry. But you seem like you have a good head on your shoulders reaction wise so super awesome! State facts and feelings, don't use emotions or point fingers and at least you will be trying. Good luck and I hope something in here helps. :)

Wow! I can understand now why these forums are used to often. Thank you both for you input. I should clarify that he doesn't generally drink a lot it is mainly when things are just too much to handle. I really appreciate both of your replies and have definitely taken it to heart. I will let you know if anything changes :) Thank you again