Please suggest me what should I do?

I was in a relationship for seven years.My ex boyfriend was employed for one year out of nine years.He is 31.Stays with his parents.He is lazy.But he is loving and caring.He has a great sense of humour.But I got frustrated about his unemployed situation.I started liking someone else.I told this to my ex,he got mad.I asked him for some time for me to settle my mind and asked him to find a job.He commanded me to make all things normal instantly.I denied.He slit his wrists.He told all my friends and family what I did.He threatened to post my nude pics in social netwrorking site.I broke up finally.After that he kept on calling me texting me.I didn't respond.He told me if I dont accept,he will everyday come and convince me until I agree.I told ok.But that was only to make him go.After that I stopped taking his calls.In between,this new guy,helped me alot.He became a great support system for me.I fell in love with him.My ex hacked my email account and retrieved all the chats between us.He forwarded all these chats to my family friends evryone.This new guy is not ready to commit yet.I told everyone taht I myself wrote all those things to get rid of my ex.So,now everyone hates me.I am lonely like hell.I have nobody.My ex has threatened the new guy,that if we get married,my ex will commit suicide.So,this new guy,he is scared to advance our relationship in this fear.I dont know what to do??Am I the guilty in this whole situation???

I'm so sorry about whatever has happened to get you so upset. So heres the word for your ex, LOSER! Its a normal female instinct to be attracted to strong and successful individuals and if someones been unemployed and did nothing about it for so many years, its only inevitable that you had to break up! Now as far as his threats to kill himself are concerned, since thats the most serious thing here, your ex has a borderline personality (as you mentioned he slit his wrists). Its actually a personality disorder, you should read about it. You should talk to your close family friends that they've been unfair, they must hear you out. You must speak out and tell them that you are NOT bound in anyway to stick with an individual you no longer have feelings for and its your right to move on and find happiness. If he threatens you that he'll release your explicit photos, I'm sure the police or other cyber protection authorities have a solution, talk to an expert on how to prevent such situations. You don't have to be miserable and guilty, we live only once, and we deserve to have the right to choose! With the new guy, open up, tell him all your fears, speak your heart out and tell him that you are ready to proceed with this relationship!