Question

I have been with this girl for 8 months and the issue at hand is whether or not she is using. The day of are first date I smelled the alcohol on her breath. And often I could smell it on her but I just ignored it until she started drinking to the point where she was passing out, she eventually agreed to stop drinking and did so for a few months but then Icoud tell she started up again. One night wen I came over to her house to spend the night she said she was going to go over to her friend’s house for an hour or two but she ended up staying out all night. When I called her to tell her I was leaving for work she came home prolly cuz she thought I left for work but I could tell she was drinking cuz I could smell it on her but I could also tell by her eyes that she was doing coke, which she later admitted to. Her drinking once again escalated to the point where she was drinking to pass out again but once again I convinced her to stop drinking, the issue now is the other day I was in her garage and found empty beer cans and noticed cocaine on a table as well, when I asked her about it she said an old friend came by to let her dog out while she was away for the weekend and it was his.. because I don’t know if she is being truthful or not because she admitingly was very dishonest in the past about her usage I asked her to take a drug test and she got really pissed off at me yelled at me and hung up but latter said she would take it if that’s what I needed but not without allot of attitude.. Should I make her take it or not??

Yes. Make her take it because she's expecting you not to let her take it. Then if it come up + tell her it's over and if it comes up - tell her, I'm sorry. I just needed to know the truth and this was the only way. Now you have my complete trust