How do I leave him.....

Hi all..... I am 22 been with my boyfriend who is 31 for 3 years, been living together for 1. Recently are relationship has gone really down hill he has turned into a control freak and I feel suffocated, I tried to go on a night out with my friends and he turned up, he admitted the other day he doesn't really trust me. I can not understand why he has gone so insecure, I like that he is protective but there is a limit. What makes it worse is for the last 6 weeks he has been working 16 hour days and he never takes time off to see me.... so he wants it both ways to control what I do but hardly ever see me. We don't seem to agree on anything our morals are so far apart. I wonder how I ever moved in with someone so opposite to me. The only reason I stay with him now is because I am so scared of what my family and our friends will say and that I will look the bad one. my 2 best friends go out with his cousins and living in a tight knit community I feel like I would end up friend less....this is not a reason to be so un happy surely? ADVICE PLEASE

Hi,CAZZY 22. First of all, do you still love him? Both of you have been together for 3 years and living together now. Are you ready to let go? If both of you are willing to work on your relationship,i believe there are always solutions to your problem. Sometimes people always make the mistake where they look for solution outside the relationship when the problem is actually inside the relationship.Thats why they can't find a remedy at all. What you need now is to look into the issue of your relationship.Why is your bf turning into a control freak? Has he been acting like this all these while or just recently? When ? why?Could it be due to your action or behaviour lately that make him feel insecure? Could it be he is not feeling comfortable with your relationship with your friend?Identify the issue and deal with it. Sometimes a relationship is worth saving,i'm not sure whether he is a nice boyfriend to you or not, but if he is jealous and insecure,it is proven he cares and he loves you. Well,nobody is perfect in relationship,if you give up your relationship now and look for another one,there may other issues in your next relationships.Either way you still have to deal with it,you can't be escaping everytime your relationship has a problem.What you actually needed now is a healthy communication with your boyfriend. But of cause all of these can only happen if you still want to work on your relationship. If you really don't love him anymore, then just slowly cut off the connection with him. I think you seem caring too much of how people look at you,you are not being yourself at all. Just be open to them how you feel,i believe your family and friends will understand you. Anyway,if your bestfriends are really your bestfriends.There will not leave you for any reasons. Unless they don't treat you as real bestfriends,then why bother to remain friends with them. God bless! Blissrelationship

Wow so I know how you feel. Moving in and it not going right, worried about what family feel. Do you have children if not really think do you love this man. Is he depressed or over tired and thats why hes gone like this. Ive beem in a controlling relationship and he got to the point where he smelt the pillow cases in case it smelt of another man. I mean how far do you let things go before you think I cant breathe!!! We have one life and its actually quite short. Be selfish. Be happy. Be honest with him. Dont get hurt x