Friends with benefits

So. I am a 17 year old lesbian. I am 100 percent sure that i am gay and will fall in love and spend the rest of my life with a woman. The problem is i really want to have sex with a guy. I have a good guy friend and have had my mind made up for a while about starting a friends with benifits relationship with him. But because i am gay (out and proud) i dont want to lead him into thinking that we could have a relationship becuase i know he has had feelings for me in the past. How can i make this work?

maybe you should honestly voice your feelings. let him know what you think. since you out and proud (congrats!) then i think he'll understand that its pretty clear youre not looking for something more. i think letting him know right away is something that can help absolutely. it can go one of two ways; where he'll agree to have a friends with benefits but as long as you two are fully sure of there no feelings being hurt in the situation, or the worst case he says no. in which case you will have to move on and maybe think about if there is another guy you might be interested in having sex with. it could mean that your bisexual in that case you can still be in love with a woman and spend the rest of your life with her but since youre young enough you want to experience everything which is certainly not a bad thing to do! just be sure of what you want for your own heart's sake ! i wish you the best of luck!