Sex and Intimacy Forum: Discuss Relationships, Sexual Health, and Personal Experiences

(Keep in mind there's a human behind this post. I will ignore trolls anyways : I'm saying this to remind people that there's no "vilain" to search for. The title may seem "harsh" but that's just the reality of things, it doesn't change how nice and empathetic I can be. Thanks.) I hate this situation. There's many things in my life that m...

Ok this is really hard to confess too. When i (f) masterbate i think of my step dad. I seem to really get off on it. I’m not attracted to him, he is very old now. But he has been in my life since I was very young, I’m in my 40s now. And no as far as I’m aware he has never touched me in any way so it’s not like trauma making me do this. I must be really messed up in the head i guess. I just...

Last night I had the hottest sex dream about an ex and I don’t know what this means for my current relationship. I saw my ex in passing yesterday he was walking to the gym- he didn’t see me. I guess that meant he was on my mind. I would like to state that for the record I haven’t had any contact with this ex since being with my current man and me and the ex never actually had sex- the dre...

Broke my 3 year celibacy today and I feel absolutely horrible and terrible about myself. I regret it very much. I very much dislike sex, and every time in my life I've felt obligated and pressured to do so. I do it and have done it because it's expected of me. I want to cry. I feel good about myself when I abstain. I feel at peace and connected to and with myself. I feel pure and a clea...

Hi, 50 years young music producer / IT developer here. Married for 15 years, family with a stepson 24 and our song 13. I am here to say out loud whats been bugging me lately a lot, and it's a sexual problem. I really like my wife and our marriage and I would like to stay with her until the end. She really makes me the man that I want to be. BUT. There is a big elephant in the room and tha...

Hi, looking for advice and or feedback from others with similar experience. I’ve been married to my husband for 14 years and whilst we are great friends, we’ve not had any intimacy for 12 of those. He’s just not interested and won’t discuss it. We do love each other but it feels just as friends now. I miss the sexual spark and the feelings related to that…to be honest we never had...

Thoughts? F (35 m (38) We've been together almost a year and are living together. Im a very sexual person and would love to do it everyday. I stay in shape, keep myself manicured etc. He said every other is really more his pace. We've had discussions 3x now because it's more like 3-5 days in-between and that's a long time for me! And if I initiate 9 out of 10 times I'm tu...

I’ve been diagnosed with hypersexuality, and basically it gets in the way of everyday life, I’m constantly thinking about it, and I want to be able to have conversations about sex with my boyfriend but I worry that he’ll be uncomfortable. How can I avoid making him view me differently from this?...

I am a female, and I am currently dating another female. Our relationship, overall, is good, until the idea of sex comes up. She has experience with both genders, I have literally none. The other day, we were going back and forth joking about what we'd do to each other and all that good stuff, but then she asked me if I was really being serious about everything I had said or not. Now, we'...

Aug 18th I had unprotected sex with a tinder hook up. Told her to get plan b she said she got it and took it. Then 6 or seven dats later she says it didn’t work and she’s pregnant and needs the money for an abortion. I give her the money. She tells me she’s done it. The next day after she asks me for money to buy food and pads as she needs them. I tell her sorry I’m broke. She says she doe...

I’m really struggling to be more dominant, I guess you could say, with my wife in the bedroom… We’ve been married since June and together for over 2 years now, and every aspect of our relationship/marriage is and always has been amazing. She’s my best friend and the love of my life all in one. She’s also the first person I have ever slept with, and I am perfectly happy with that. She...

About a year ago o found my partner obsessed with anal sex, watching it on porn sites discreetly. HE wanted me to try it and for the past 9 months or so I have, iv even tried anal toys etc but I still can't relax. The pain is agonising! And he belittles me saying I'm not a real women then and that there's no point in us being together if I can't pleasure his needs? ...

I cannot find anywhere on Google or web search this problem specifically, they had one close to it and the rest are to help the majority issue of not being able to achieve orgasm. I have tried to ask other friends if anything similar has happened to them but I am too embarrassed to go into detail so we end up joking about how anyone would love my problem. This has happened off and on since...

3 years ago my partner became very very ill (life in danger, on a ventilator in intensive care type of ill.) It was very sudden and a horrific time. Since then he has made some recovery (he will never be back to how he was, but is loads better then he was 3 years ago.) We haven’t had any kind of sexual relationship since he became ill, literally nothing. Before he was ill we had a very a...

So I just turned 27 and am still a virgin. I haven't even kissed anyone before. Due to social anxiety I've never put myself out there enough to get close to developing a relationship with someone. Recently I started trying to date through causual meetings and dating apps. The one thing that keeps going through my mind is that sex will be inevitable and I feel like I won't be ready b...

So...it may be a bit unbelievable, but here goes... I've been married for a long time--as in 42 years. I have two children, both conceived within 3 years of marriage. Sexual contact dwindled down--after a time--to absolutely nothing. My sex drive also diminished...and I simply went with it. Fast forward to 16 months ago. I went to the hospital got an MRI, and a benign tumor was ...

Hello and thank you for taking the time to read this. I'm looking for honest feedback and whatever advice anyone may have. I'm a 53yo lady that's finalizing a divorce after a 30 year marriage. We've been separated for 5 years and I'm relieved to be done with it officially, very soon. We've both had other relationships and there are no lingering feelings or unresolv...

Well since this is a sex sub, so I ought to ask this here. I have found myself in a very grey area. I need to get this off my chest, as I can't seem to get pass this. I need reassurance/validation on this please. I don't know if this is me fell for my husband seduction, or he was somewhat forceful. Sorry for English is my third language. I'm from Shanghai. Me and my husb...

Hi dear people! I need some help/advice please! So after 5 years of not dating and trying to heal from a past relationship and heartbreak after loosing some very close family members i signed up on Bumble and a day later found a guy that i connected with. I really just swiped right 4 times, i was playing it very safe. We started chatting right away and we did so for 2 and a half months. ...

Brace yourselves, this is gonna be a really long one. So usually on Saturday evenings, I (26M) visit this small dog park right next to my apartment. About 2 months ago, I was playing catch with my dog sitting on the park bench and this girl (22F), lets call her Emily, is also sitting on one of the benches and she’s crying. I could see that she was upset so I didn’t disturb her. After a while s...

I have an issue that I'm struggling with that I'm too embarrassed to see a doctor about. I've been in a fully committed relationship for the past year with a great guy. Since the start, everything between us has been great. Dreamlike really. The only issue we've had is sex. He isn't my first. In fact, I've been with plenty of guys, as a top and bottom and I'v...

So me and my husband have been together 16 years 4 kids who are all now starting to grow up and do there own thing. So now we are left with each other and although we get on amazingly well our sex life has taken a hit. We are both self conscious especially me (stretch marks and sagging bits) I would like ideas on how you have spiced things up or even how you've over come body image as I know ...

Husband has ED since his heart attack 3 years ago. Short story is that due to my frustration he told me to find a boyfriend. found that a bit insulting, but after 2 years of no sex and quite by accident I found one, a perfect FWB. Now I am sort of upset that my husband has displayed absolutely no jealousy. I know that it would bother me, and for the majority of marriage he constantly pester...

I'm separated, having been reduced to a non-working man last year. My partner found herself another man (a work colleague). Recently, I was in town, when I spotted a familiar face. She was in a cafe. My Maths teacher at school (I was 16 then, she was 35), Mrs Gordon. She was alone, so I approached. I told her who I was, and she asked if I was on my own. I accepted the invitation to sit down...

My husband and I have been married for quite a few years and things lately have gotten a little stale; we both work a lot and there doesn't seem to be a lot of passion left between us. I am looking for something we can do together to get us back to where we used to be. I was thinking of couples counseling but I don't know that it is too serious. We talked about having someone join us but...

Hello all. So, I got married and had kids way too young, just out of high school, with someone who turned out to be really emotionally abusive to myself and my children until we escaped that situation. I've been trapped in some nowhere town with no family or friends I moved to shortly after that marriage, where the general culture here is nothing like me, and eventually I started working fo...

I am 18 and I cant get a girlfriend my age as I am not that good looking. One of my neighbours is a retired, really nice lady aged 67, who I do shopping for and then have a chat and a cuppa afterwards. One day I told her about the problems I was having getting a girl my age, and she asked whether I was a virgin. I said I was, and she said "I would have you anytime". I laughed it off a...

you don't know any because going on dating sites for sex is dangerous....

So I am a young 25 year old married man and I have been with my wife for a couple years (prior to marriage). Our sex life is great, when it's active. There are occasional "dry periods" where my wife is not as sexually engaged as she normally is. What is my responsibility here? Should I be working harder on sexual appeal and seduction or do I let her come to me when she is ready? ...

I met my husband in 2013 on a dating site. We clicked immediately as we had the same likes/hobbies. I moved in with him 6 months later and then the sex stopped. We have not had sex for 6 years now. I've tried but no response from him. He doesn't bathe or shower. He hasn't washed for 2 years ! I have asked him too but he says no every time. Please advise me ! I want to leave him bu...

In December my boyfriend face timed me wearing a french maid's outfit I was shocked and surprised, he was made up,in stockings and suspenders and wig, he then masturbated, I had no idea!when we had sex he was in full drag and he has face timed me several times since in drag! I've tried telling him that I prefer him out of drag and he always says he's going to throw the stuff away an...

I am grown up so no issues there. However I was shocked to learn that there are eleven pornographic images in a gallery on a porn site of my own mother. I was even more shocked to learn that the images are not owned by my Mother but the site does have consent from her to display them, and therefore I could not have them removed even though I tried. However my Mother is absolutely mortified that ...

I've always noted how in adult videos, it's better to be loud. When I do it, I can't seem to make noise except for my occasionally shaking breath, you know, yeah. You get that. I sometimes wonder if my partner would feel down because of this or would be turned off. I mean I feel good, but I just don't moan. What do you think, should I practice moaning now?? But I feel like...

Ok. I have a coworker who is in a sense my boss and I am extremely attracted to him. Many girls are, he is gorgeous and muscular, and somehow he doesn’t seem to realize the power he holds over women bc he is shy and raised in a religious home. I’ve tried the trick of imagining him doing disgusting human things to get over his sex appeal, like him pooping/smelly farts/stinky feet or somethi...

A few months back, I went to a small party with a few of my 'friends' and their friends. I got really drunk and I ended up taking drugs, which was the first time I'd ever taken drugs. I was ruined, I cant remember any of the night, I slightly remember because put to bed by my friend but barely. In the morning my friend woke me up and said she can't believe that she can'...

So I’ve been friends with my best friend since 2015. We met in Australia and became close over a short period of time. I have since moved back to my home town (in a different country) and we still keep in regular contact. He and I never had anything more than platonic friendship. When I lived in Australia it was brought to my attention that he had fallen in love with me. I was the first girl he ...

I wasn't sure how many man in here, I want to know if a man used to hire hooker monthly, after marriage will he change? He promised he will, but I thinking after 10 years down the road in marriage, he may do it again and then the girl will be too old to date another one. However, my girlfriends said most guys don't tell you but most of them did call hooker in their life or calling hooker...

I somewhat recently had to confess to my husband that I have been sexually assaulted in the past. We’ve been together for more than 5 years. Honestly, I never really planned on telling him. I had never told anyone. It doesn’t affect me anymore on a regular basis and if it does somehow pop into my mind I can usually get over it quickly. However, one night we were being intimate and he cover...

I have been married for 6 six years and together for 10 years. My wife simply refuses to make love to me, she consummated the marriage on the first night but ha simply refused to have intimate relations since. I am 62 she is 58. I masturbate to relieve the sexual feelings but she says that I am betraying her. I simply do not know what to do. Plaese help....

We’ve been married 10 years, friends long before that and nothing we rushed into. No wedding, just togetherness, and it was enough knowing we could have a wedding /some day/. There was a lot of passion and excitement for several years, but it’s been a struggle financially and emotionally. We both have emotional issues we are in therapy and taking medications for, mine manifesting in anxiety an...

I’ve been together with my fiancé for over 2 years now. We felt deeply in love right away after the first date and the first couple of months together were paradise.... and the sex was absolutely awesome! After about 5-6 months of relationship I kinda stopped feeling aroused (not only by him... just in general) I was like dead down there. However I loved him more every day. He would try to ...

I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years and we have lived together for the last 2 years. We met when we were 16 and he's the only person I've ever been with. He's my best friend in every way and I love the relationship we have. We are both happy (we've obviously had our ups and downs over the years) and we have a good sex life. I reckon he will be the guy I marry and have ...

Me and my partner have been together for 6 years, we don't live together and are isolating because of coronavirus. For my birthday this year boyfriend asked me what I would like. I advised that I wasn't sure, but suggested for him to make plans to take me out for a nice meal once we can meet again, or for him to buy me a gift voucher for a shop that I like. Boyfriend had jokingly sugg...

This is the most ridiculous situation I’ve ever been in but I need advice or any kind of input will be appreciated. Yesterday a used condom was in the bush out the front of my apartment, a lady pointed it out to me on her way out of the carpark as I was coming in so I figured I would dispose of it no worries. I went inside got a glove and paper towel and put it in the bin and tied the ...

Not sure if this belongs in the Sex category, but I talk a lot about sex and that’s what the issue has the worst affect on for me. He’s 29 and I’m 23. We’ve been together for 3 years and overall we have a pretty damn good relationship. He’s my best friend and we have a great chemistry together, and have always had great sex as well. We’re expecting a baby girl in January and I could...

I love my boyfriend. We have been together for three months now. So far, he has been my healthiest relationship. The only problem is that I’m super sexually frustrate. Every time we are having sex, he finishes in 3min literally, and also cannot have a second round. Sometimes we put music on just in case we get too “loud”, and he finished before the first song is over. Now, I feel doomed. I...

So my ex and I broke up ages ago and I matched with his friend on tinder. Then I readied back on Snapchat and he never really spoke to me on it so I didn’t think much of it. But one night I was at a party and he was swiping up on my story and the next day I seen we had a conversation and I didn’t think anything of it lol. But then one night he text me asking did I want to go for a drive with h...

I’ve been with my boyfriend since we were 12, it sounds stupid I know. Almost six years later we’re still together. Long story short, I have PTSD regarded an incident that happened four years ago with my mum’s ex-partner, an incident when he “sleptwalked” into my room, knelt down beside my bed and started to run his fingers up and down my leg and over my body when I was asleep. I believe...

I am 39 years old, single and live alone. A couple of months ago, new neighbors moved in on my street, a few houses down, and I became friendly with them. It's a couple around my age and their 14 year old daughter. For whatever reason, their daughter has taken quite the liking to me. It started with her being giggly and making eyes at me when we mt on the street or at the mailbox, for exam...

My boyfriend is 43- I am 28.. we have been dating for about 3years. Awhile ago now all of a sudden he lost all sexual attraction toward me.. Well what I feel has happened, even though he assumes me he has not. So we had a very active sex life to begin with.. Now it is a rare act.. when we do it is crapy morning sex and very vanilla.. nothing exciting. I have tried everything to figure ou...

There's 14 years between myself and my partner of 3 years we have a beautiful 2 year old boy together and don't get me wrong our sex life is passionate and amazing but he is very traditional make love. I have always been adventurous and up for anything new and exciting. I changed and calmed myself down for him but I'm starting to get frustrated as everytime I try to try somthing new...

Oh god. I can't believe I'm posting this. I don't even know what to say. First and foremost I'm being entirely truthful here and I'm not trolling or anything. I cut myself last month (on the wrists) for sexual pleasure. My brain is really weird and that's actually something I enjoy. I'm not going to pretend to understand the psychology behind it because I don...

r/AskReddit Wonderful-Tomato-1811h Been seen but not being seen I posted this in another forum also to get feedback. I don't know that it is harming my life but can sometimes can consume my mind but here goes. First off, I don't know what to call this. Maybe it has a name, I don't know, but it is sort of specific but hard to describe but I will try because it has sort o...

I'm not ashamed to admit that I love to be dressed up as a sexy girl. I was at my house and having fun in my sexiest outfit and my outfits are on the slutty side. I'm in a tight skirt, size small thongs, black thigh high stockings garter belt and 6 inch stilleto heels. I had a real hair wig and I had my Mom's friend to come over for my make up. I have to be honest, I was born for th...

Actually, I think she has had a crush for longer than she admits. My wife and I have been married 4.5 years now and she recently told me that she thinks about this guy sometimes when we have sex or she plays with a toy. My wife is a few years younger than I am. We have a active and I think good sex life aside from the recent admission that she thinks of this guy. I'm sorry if this is rambling...

So me and my guy have been in a serious relationship for 5 going on 6 years. At first our sex life was great but now its boring and dead. I would consider him a "lazy lover" I mean he gives me oral but for the most part our sex is basic, no passion, and I never get to orgasm because he always cums first and NEVER lets me get me. I cant tell you the last time he made me cum. Sometimes aft...

Happily married and have good sex 6 to 10 times a month. I have always been a very sexual person and my wife goes in spurts. There is no kinky exploration on her part besides sex. I am appreciative of that but always keep wanting to push our boundaries. I have been wondering if I keep trying or find some other woman in the same married sexual situation that would like to explore together. Love...

Hi everyone, I need some help with this girl as to if she is into me or not. For starter I grew up with this girl, our mothers were best friends, so we grew up together. I am 8 years her senior. It wasn't till 10 years ago that our roads split up, although we did kept in touch, it was sometimes once a week, sometimes once every month, but not everyday as it used to be. However I always was...

This is something I've been thinking about talking about for years but never took the steps to, but here goes. Long post time. My girlfriend was molested as a child. She blocked it from her memory and was a fully sexual person when we first got together at 19, and we had a healthy sex life for the first year and change of our relationship. We started having sex less when she started rememb...

About my "Unnatural desires", since i was a kid, i've always fantasized about...making love to my mom. There, i said it. It's really weird for me to talk about, i've never told a soul. Since i was a kid, i've loved being hugged by my mom, she's always just felt so warm. She's the most important person in my life, my rock. I accidentally saw my first pornogra...

Iv been with by boyfriend for 10 years now and we are still great, we are each others best friends and as corny as it sounds we really are. We used to have a great sex life and he used to be trying every second for something but lately.. Past couple of months he hasnt been trying. I'm not used to initiating sex as I usually don't need to and I enjoy knowing he wants me but I got fed up w...

Hi, I am a 70 year old white man, recently lost my wife of 45 years. My son has been diagnosed infertile. They have tried doner IVF but were unsuccessful twice. They always wanted children. My son suggested I make love to his wife to get her pregnant. I was shocked but also flattered to be asked. She is only 22, Iranian origin and very beautiful. Not been with a woman since my wife passed, I...

My partner and I have always struggled with intimacy, being intimate in ways other than sex and sexually. I am much younger than my partner and that is usually what he attributes this problem to. That is if he actually acknowledges that it is a problem. In the eyes of my husband intimacy is to be spontaneous, he is to take me when he feels the need to. Regardless of what I’m wearing or where we ...

Hello, I’ve been married for five months now and have known my husband for two years. He’s a great person but I’m beginning to have doubts and I can’t share this with anyone around as there’ll only be judging. So I need your help in order to rationalize things. I’m from Nigeria and my husband is French. We started trying for a baby last year but haven’t yet succeeded. Tests showed th...

When he looks at her naked and says do you want this,and gestures with no movement to his penis and she said duh. grab the lubricant and get him saturated and go to move closer and he gives her this weird look. how would you feel if your partner looks at you and said what are you doing when you're climbing on top of him to have sex?...

my husband and I have enjoyed threesomes now for quite some time, has anyone else done the same, if so some questions 1/ how did you first talk to each other about doing this or any other sexual thing involving other couples/single people 2/ did you have rules about with whom you should get in with 3/ being a wife, I have enjoyed the attention and the sax tremendously, have or did y...

so about 9 months ago my best friend was telling me about some people she went on a camp with. I thought one of the guys was pretty cute so I added his Snapchat. My best friend sees this boy as a brother figure (even though they aren’t blood related). I ended up talking with this boy a lot, which my best friend was aware of. However me and the boy decided to meet up behind my best friends back, ...

Hi We are a couple and i have a fantasy about my girlfriend being with another man she once talk to about while having sex and now i can't stop thinking about why am i so turned on about this fantasy ...

My partner and I have been together for 5 years now. From the beginning I really thought sex and affection was what held a relationship together. Well at least for me that's what keeps me close to my partners. He may be different and I respect that but as the years went I've learned many things to focus on all together instead of just sex and affection but he's changed so much too. ...

So we have been together for a while. The past few months we haven't had sex. He's saying its stress and what not but he used to say this before and it never affected him. He says he can't even get it up but i think he is lying to me. I few weeks ago he got hard and lied about it saying it was a morning wood or whatever. I found clothing this white stuff on it and he swore he d...

Okay so this is the situation. I fucked a escort (which was ugly as fuck but still went with it) with a condom about two months ago... and now I saw and recognized her while I was working (fast food restaurant)I'm not sure if she recognized me but i think she might of because I'm kind of good looking (not to brag) and well i'm kind of paranoid now so this is what I think. 1. She tr...

My and my partner have intercourse about 1 or 2 times a week but days aparts. This week we had sex on Monday and it went great. Last night he mentioned how aroused he was and we planned our intercourse today after work. After him giving me oral sex i proceed to give him some as well. I knew i was doing an excellent job but he kept getting hard then back on soft. I have no idea , i have a feeling h...

I'm mid 30s hes mid 40s. We started out as an affair. For reasons that I'm not going to go into. Now we are official and happy. Except... he rarely wants to have sex anymore. We o ly do it when he wants to. I try so hard constantly coming onto him in hope that maybe this time I will get him in the mood. We live with out parents so dont get much alone time together for now. So when we do ...

Me and my boyfriend have been together officially for a few months. Hes mid 40s I'm mid 30s. We dont live together yet and dont get time to ourselves. I'm constantly being pied. My self esteem is taking a battering. Help!...

I am very confused about something that happened recently in my relationship. I would appreciate any advice that any of you can give me. Thanks. So, I have been in a relationship on and off with my boyfriend for 4 years. Recently we had an argument as there have been issues for a while as we don’t spend a lot of time together (he works nights and we don’t live together) which doesn’t help....

so im in a relationship with a girl that im really into. weve been dating for six months or so. except last week she told me that she identifies as asexual. specifically, she is grossed out by the very idea of engaging in any kind of sexual activity. i thought we were just taking it really slow, but it seems like were never gonna reach the next step of our relationship. i asked her if i could slee...

I used to be a porn and masturbation addict. I am gay as well. I earlier had a streak of 16 days but then had a relapse. I am now on my longest streak of 25 days. I had a nightfall (or a wet dream) last night. I remember, I had the dream abt my friend and in the dream i was getting intimate with him. I am confused that does this count as a relapse? Do i need to reset my counter? ...

i just watched the film about queen i thought it was very good, i was wondering who is more talanted, Freddie mercury or chris martin, Coldplay or which one would i do th most? ...

I’ve been with my fiancé for 2 1/2 years and we’ve lived together for a year. We’re both in our early 50s. When we first started seeing each other, we had sex 2-3 times a week and we enjoyed experimenting. About a year after getting together, he told me I was his first. Since we’ve been living together the sex has gotten less and less frequent. We’ve discussed it and fought about it. He...

Hi I joined here because it seems like a good place to ask this. I just wanted some thoughts please and advice if I've done anything wrong. The other day I was at home doing not much and we have had trades men working on the walls inside the house for a few days because of some water problems we had To try to make a big story short, I'm sure I'm like most women and when I'...

My partner and I have been together almost 4 years and we have a great relationship. But I have always felt like the sex has been just OK, sometimes he doesn’t even turn me on anymore. I’ve tried dropping small hints here and there and I’ve never really liked the way he kisses and never been able to tell him. For the past couple of years I have been thinking about the guy I was sleeping ...

-When I was 14 in 2008, bet my buddy that I could masturbate in class with nobody noticing, we thought it was hilarious (obviously extremely stupid looking back, never did anything like that before or after), I tried and couldn't really do it then stopped. -We didn't think it was a big deal, we were joking about it a year later, and an upperclassman overheard us. -He started spre...

So the background of this story is that basically, me and my partner found a video on the internet of her making out with someone without her knowledge from before our relationship. The video goes for about half a minute and they didn't notice anyone filming because they were extremely drunk at the time. She remembered that on the same night, they had sex in the same place of filming. She...

Sorry for my bad english! So, I'm a 21 years old girl, and at a party, a random guy found me alone in the backyard toilet, he pushed me down, and stuck his tongue into my navel, licked it, and slapped few times my underbelly, grabbed the fat on my belly, so that was a classic female/male physical strength situation, and this is really annoying!!!!!!!!!!!!! ...

Been married 22 years. I am 48 he is 54. I thought sex was fine between us but the other night my husband said it was ok. he said he was talking about himself and it wasn't me. he had his prostrate taken out 2 years ago and as to use a pump which takes about 10 minutes for him to use. I have never really adventurous in the bedroom but I always made sure he got his pleasure even if I wasn'...

Explicit!! I need external advice or input, are you ready for a lot of reading? My wife and i are married for just over 3 years with a beautiful daughter just short of that. I am almost 40 and she almost 30 years of age, neither of us have ever been players and only interested in long term relationships. We got married post-expecting witch is to this day my 2 greatest accomplishments, be...

Been with hubby 12 yrs, have 2 kids and most of the time we are great. We have settled into new routines because he got a new job 6 months ago and we both work different shifts ( we have since before my kids). He convinced me to have an open relationship before, about 7 years ago. Seeing as I was the only person he had sex with, I thought it would be ok to let him explore. We laid down rules, an...

What should I do?...

I have been married for 3 years. My husband works out of state 5-6 days a week. I stay home. My husband has chronic shoulder pain, and deals with pain everyday. His Dr has advised that his last option is shoulder surgery, which he refuses to have done. Lately my husband is suffering from ED, and has told me pills like Viagra can cause blindness so he wont take them. We havent had sex in 6 months...

I wrongly place a high importance on how pretty a woman's feet and toes are, especially if the toenails are nicely shaped and are grown a bit longer than the toes. My girlfriend of 18months has pretty feet but cuts her toenails so short, like 3mm shorter than the toe itself, I just can't look at her toes without feeling turned off to the point of feeling sick so have to ignore them. ...

hey i'm almost 19yo and i have a muslim mom today she walked in my room with an angry expression and told me that she found condoms in my drawer so i got a little confused and didn't know what to answer i just said that i didn't want to talk about that with her she was clearly frisking my stuff and i didn't like that i think that some things are just personal and that p...

Hello! I`ve been married for year now and something is really wrong. After we got married, something changed in our relationship and especially in our sex life. I mean when i see good looking guy or have dreams about them, i know i want sex and it`s not like i don`t want it at all. But when my husband touches me or wants sex, i`m pushing him away. I can`t imagine me having sex with him anymore...

I have been married to my true love for 20 years and together 30. I love this man with all my heart and I don't want to loose him. After being married for a few years we got into the swinger's lifestyle. It took me a bit to be OK with it because I didn't understand why my husband said he wanted to watch me with other men. We have been swinger's for about 10 years or so now and ...

I am new here and hope I can find help. I have been married for over 30 yrs. our love life over the past almost 18 yrs has been rather poor. I now understand this is because my husband has chossen porn over me and our life together. I am not over weight and I work out, people have told me I am very pretty or beautiful, I feel ugly and fat as my husband no longer has sex with me. We have tal...

Hello, I've been looking for somewhere to discuss my problems and found this site today. Unfortunately I wrote my life story and then it didn't publish, so I'll start again and be brief. I am a 35, happily married woman, two children. Normal family life except that before getting married I was a bit wild and liked to be used. It left me with a craving that returns occasionally, t...

oh man so everyone please hold your judgements because i know that not everyone would be as hopeful for love as i am but...heres the back story. weve been dating for 3 years, 1 year was amazing! Best boyfriend ever. We did everything right. He was a perfect gentleman. He still opens my door to this day in fact. But the 2 following years were hell. Verbally abusive and physically but we were bo...

I have been married to my wife for 15 years. We have been together for 20 years. In the first 7/8 years she was very jealous person and I lost touch with most of my friends. We have 3 kids together now 17/13/11. 14 years ago I found out she was having an affair we haven’t been married a year. But we worked on it. Then one of my friends told me that they had sex after a night out in an alleyway o...

Hi I have been with my bf 3 yrs. He has not worked since he was 21 he now 40. I work to keep roof over his head. He was arrested for sex chatting with a 14 yr old he thought was 21. He was chatting while I was at work. I feel betrayed this man has become selfish in bed doesn't touch or try and please me sexually.Ots one way street. I had one night stand with a guy who came onto me.He ma...

My husband has been withholding affection and sex from me since we have been married, we didn't live together prior. It seems To come and go in clusters. He had debt and business is failing. He seems to have an active interest in porn so when he is upset or feeling like to punish me (I suppose) he will withhold affection and intimacy and use porn. We go for few weeks without intimacy. I woul...

I have been in a relationship for almost a year with my girlfriend and we enjoy a good sexual relationship and both love each other very much. We decided last weekend to spend the whole two days (or as much as was practical), in bed, make love as much as possible and experiment with RP. All was going well until my girlfriend suggested that maybe we should watch pornography together as a precursor ...

Me and my bf live together. Here for the past 9 months, we hardly have sex anymore. I am always the one initiating sex first. He always says I am too tired,I am hurting,etc. I wake up to him almost every single night masturbating beside me. He tries to make sure I am asleep first before he starts. I had a conversation with him about it and he says I am crazy. That is lie when I know it isnt. I ...

Barely any sex, 99% of the time I'm initiating it, he's totally closed off, doesn't want to talk about it...I've been going to counselling, to a psychologist, have spoken to many friends and still the same problem occurs. He has many good qualities but this is driving me mental. Please help. Is it worth ending the relationship?...

The past two long-term boyfriends that I've had never made love to me.. they only ever wanted to have rough sex. My idea of making love is intimacy, looking into each other's eyes, going slowly, telling each other how much you mean to them and it's an outlet to express the way you feel towards someone. Am I wrong about this? How does making love feel like? Or does making love just h...

I've doing a lot of handjob during last 12 years. Now it becomes an addiction. My body feel weakness. Please help to get out from here to my life....

So for about 6 years I’ve neglected my partner. Not because I don’t love him, I guess other things in life took priority, a lot of traumatic times, illness, family issues etc. I’ve always been pretty confident and a very in control person. Since funding a lot of porn I’m his history I completely lost it. Yeh I was going through his phone. I’ve had an overwhelming feeling that I need to ...

My boyfriend of 2 years just told me that our lovemaking last night was for his enjoyment only. He said he used me for sex. He thinks I should be flattered that he chose to have sex with me rather than to masturbate. Typically, he is a very good lover and is concerned about my enjoyment and pleasure during sex. He says it is completely normal in a committed relationship for him to want to use me...

First here is a little back story on how me and my son father met. We met a year ago and he was living in one state and me in another and I would travel to see him twice a month for the weekend. Everything was good until I found out I was pregnant and that he was trying to rekindle some feelings for his ex-girlfriend. I was hurt by this but at the same time I had to deal with the consequences of m...

I have been with my bf for 5 months and we are very in love, are with each other almost 24/7 and dream about spending our whole lives together. I cannot cum from sex at all i have only ever been able to cum if its by myself. However i have fake cummed for my bf everytime we have had sex sometimes even more than once per session. I really enjoy our sex it doesnt bother me that i cant cum there i...

My fiancé of 5 years and a few of our friends went out one night. There was alcohol and drugs involved. My friend stayed at our place on the couch. She contacted me the next night saying my partner came into the lounge and had sex with her. When I first spoke to him about it he was like "no way" and that he would not do something like that, ever. She is mentally unstable however I s...

My husband and I have been married for 7 months, and we have been "intimate" less than 20 times. I have talked to him about this twice, and he keeps saying that it will change, but it hasn't yet... I am over weight and have never thought that I was very pretty, but I believe him when he says he loves me. But at the same time, when we go weeks on end without being together it makes m...

I have suffered from GI/"gut" problems for over 25 years now. I've learned--mostly through trial and error--how to manage it with diet and supplements...well, mostly manage it. I'm not 100% free of issues now, but I've eliminated most of them. The trouble is, I've been through two dysfunctional marriages and now I'm unhappy in my current relationship. And I&#...

So I was hooking up with this guy for a few months during the summer. He said he liked me but he was weird about dating and we never discussed it. I left cause the job was seasonal. I found another seasonal job for the winter and it turns out he works here too. We were away from each other for a month. We never really texted, he never answered my snaps, so I forgot about it. Turns out he now has a...

I am engaged to someone I have been with for 5 years. Early on in our relationship, I had a one night stand with someone else after a night out, something I feel very shameful of. I messaged the woman afterwards on facebook to apologise and let her know that I couldn't see her again as I was seeing someone else. I have since never heard from her other than a reply at the time abusing me fo...

I found out in July that my husband of 24 years had been on a 'site' chatting with a woman and paying a lot of money for this pleasure! we are both in our mid 40's and life has been tough and i guess this had shown as all the intimacy had gone from our marriage. I confronted him and he admitted what had been going on. I read some of the messages and became upset as he had tried to g...

We talked for two months over text this summer, typical ig DM and the snap chatted and then started texting... I didn’t even like him at first not even a little I just wanted the attention honestly because I had broken up with a bf of almost two years a couple months before. Eventually he became sweeter and he had somewhat of a douchebag vibe but it was so obvious we were emotionally and sexu...

Ok so my friend and his girlfriend have been dating for almost a year and they are saving it for marriage. Well me and his girlfriend have been doing some stuff in bed and she just texted me saying she took a pregnancy test and it came positive and i am the only one she has had sex with in over a year. My friend is gonna kill me when he finds out what should i do?...

I was having a night out with my lover. We both had a fair bit to drink and she was particularly drunk. She picked up a man in a bar and went up to his bedroom to have unprotected sex. This was in front of me and she refused my pleas not to. I forced my way into the bedroom with them and pleaded with her again. She told me to **** off which I did. As I was leaving she was naked and giving th...

I’m a 27 yr old female been married to my husband 31 yr old, for almost 5 years. His job sent him to the police academy in July. We’ve been happily married since day 1, in August I started feeling lonely more than ever, I understood he was busy with the police academy work and the studying he had to do, but on his free time all he did was get on his phone instead of talking to me or the kids...

I have never really reached out like this before but I am with this amazing guy who deserves so much more than me and the least I can do for him is to try. We have been together for some years and we recently hit a bump in the road and it is all my fault. I started gaining weight about two years ago. Wasn't really bad at first but in the last year I just really blew up. Things were happening ...

Relationship of 7 years, when we first met she said some quite strange things. Mainly around how great her ex was in bed and that it never got boring but that he treated her like garbage. Sex between us has always been unsatisfying to me, she is never really interested and will make up all kinds of excuses. I have spoken to her about this on multiple occasions over the years. Usually she ...

I have the urge to stare at womens feet or shoes and fantasize about tasting or smelling their feet or licking their shoes....i realize that there are many other guys with the same problem... but nobody would admit it to anyone. If i me a girl and we hooked up id be happy to worship their feet instead of sex... is this oďd and is their actualy any women who'd enjoy that style of attention ...

My boyfriend and I have been going through a hard patch. he has been having problems with this job and that's fine I'm very supportive I can financially take care of the both of us. I try to keep him motivated to still try even though things aren't great, but recently I have reconnected with an old friend of mine. We haven't met up and I don't plan on doing it, But long st...

My roommate and i moved in together a few months ago. Hes a great guy, knows how to have fun and hes so nice. Ive had a small crush on him for a minute... The problem is hes reserved and vague and never gives you a proper answer to anything... One night we were playing craps with the neighbor who is a bisexual man in a relationship. We finished a bottle of whisky and various truths came out whi...

We've been married for 8 years, have 2 kids and both work full time. For the last 5(or so) years our sex life has been a roller coaster. Either I'm with a high libido or he is. But never at the same time. More recently, over the past year I've woke to him masterbating beside me in bed. At one point I confronted him and I think he was embarrassed. He denied doing the action, and he...

Hey all! Need help! Found my sister and best friend were chatting on Facebook. To cut a long story short he is 17 and she 15. They were trying to get me to have him round for a couple of days then push me out the way so they could go and gave sex! What should I do?! Help!!!...

We've been together 15yrs, married for 11yrs. It has been nothing short of a nightmare. It was only until a few years ago, through one of our many violent arguments (nothing is ever physical, although words can hurt), that I found out why she was even interested with me: I could provide her with a stable home - but that is for a different topic. Yes I have a gold digger. Due to mental issu...

First of all, I love my husband very much and I can't imagine my life without him. We've been together for 4 years before we got married 9 months a go. We had premarital sex with each other in the first 2 months of our new relationship. We were both in our mid 20's and both were virgin at the time. Our first time wasn't that great since we were both freaked out by the blood...

Hello, I just need a little advice before I trundle off to my doctor for the umpteenth time in the last 4 months, I may aswell live there lately. I apologise if some details are a bit gruesome. My husband walked out on me in November, I blamed myself as he didn't give reasons, just said he wasn't happy. The sex wasn't that great or indeed that much, but he never made me feel ...

My wife and I have been married for over a year now and have yet to have sex. She is a virgin I am not. She has some medical issues, back and knees. She was raised very conservatively and chose to wait till marriage for sex which contrary to my upbringing because of my feelings for her I respected. When we were dating we were physical with kissing, petting, and limited oral. Since we said our ...

Hello Everyone, I suppose I should give some background before asking my question. I'm in a relationship with a wonderful guy, we're both in our late twenties and have been together over two years. This evening we were having a discussion about something inconsequential, and I mentioned how I go on the internet for comfort/attention when I feel lonely or down. He said that I should ta...

There is a Deacon in our Presbyterian church, who filed for divorce. After the Deacon filed for divorce, the Deacon began having an affair. Their divorce is not final. Thus, they are still married. I do not believe this follows Presbyterian code of conduct. Should the Deacon step-down? Should this issue be presented in a Session Meeting for review, and removal of the Deacon? ...

I am a newlywed. My husband and I have been married for less than a year and I just found out that he has been using household items including vegetables to masturbate with analy. He has pretty much lied to me our entire marriage about other women, working, online dating websites, porn, and now this. He lies about everything but I love him and he recently wanted to show me he has "changed&quo...

My wife told me last week that having sex with me presented problems for her and always has. It stunned me into emotional unconsciousness. Her problems: I'm too large in girth, I last too long, and I stay hard after. I always thought I was average as far as sexual things are concerned. None of my partners said otherwise. I make a point of a lot of foreplay and lube, natural or purchas...

I'm so sick of thinking about sex all the time. I feel it stops me from enjoying my wife and feeling proper love...

I'm married to a wonderful woman. She is very sweet, beautiful, intelligent, and we are very passionate about each other. We met eight years ago and fell in love. It was the first real relationship for both of us (although we both had opportunities in the past). We communicate very good with each other, have a lot of common interests, and are happy with our sex life. The problem is that altho...

Thankyou for taking the time and reading my story. I need to share this unique situation I find myself in. I am married for the last 8 years. Married in 2009. Husband has sexual problems. He has erectile dis function. Cannot keep it hard. We could not consummate our marriage for good 6 years of our marriage. The little sex we've had is using Viagra but even that doesn't help much. He is ...

Hello I hope people can help me. I am a good looking Dutch girl aged 38 and whilst I really want to settle down and have a family I am addicted to casual risky sex. My addiction has cost me lots of relationships in the past but the buzz is too strong. I need to know why I behave like this and how I can stop ...

It's been 11 years we have been married and we are in long distance relationship due our profession. We have two kids from our marriage who stay with me. Our marriage was good till recently....when my husband started having chat with me and we started having sex on chat I mean virtually. Initially I did because I thought it's different and what's wrong in trying out new things. But ...

Hey everyone this is my first time doing something like this. I just don't know where else I can let off some frustration. It's a long story and I need some help. I was married a year ago. My husband and I had always had a great sex life up until we got married. It then slowly started to fade out. A few months into our marriage I found out he had been watching a lot of porn. So naturally...

I love my gf to bits but she very rarly gives me any loving only when she wants it which is approx twice a month if im lucky, its always on her terms and its a routine same every time, ive noticed when in bed and she thinks im asleep she masturbates every night and at least 3 times min i ve confronted her and she denies it, it makes me horny but frustrated i dont no how much more i can handle w...

I'm newly married and after 5 months it is a sexless marriage. Why do women complain that they do everything for the man? Maybe they should try being emotionally available and not play so many games. Everyone needs that intimacy but men seem to be the whipping post for every problem in the world. I must be missing something. But I have accepted there is no sex but for how long will t...

My bf of 4 years... And he is selfish in the bedroom.. he always expects me to go above and beyond... And I do I want to please him... He never takes time to work on me... It sux... Sex sucks.. im left high and dry every single time.... I have toys... But I feel unimportant...

I'm 26 and he's 37, we dated one year and quickly got married after that. He rushed me into marriage and having kids with him even though I wanted to wait. He was head over heels for me, we would have sex daily before the kids. He even used to give me oral... after I had kids with him our sex life went completely down hill. And I'm not one of those wives who's let themselves go...

Hello. I have a strange obsession for many years and I'm not sure this is the place to discuss this but I have a unhealthy fantasy of my wife sleeping with other men! She doesn't like it and I can't say I blame her to be honest she hasn't ever done it and doesn't want to. I love her and want to stop thinking about it. Am I going mad? I feel ashamed of myself....

OK so for a while now I have had troubles going to Sleep, it is not a medical thing it's something I devoloped when I was younger. This doesn't help esspecially at school when we have to do like 20 test but the other problem is My Dad and Mum seperated many years ago and I live with my Dad, so like any other normal person he looks for a Girlfriend, he is up to his 3rd Girlfriend as I can...

Hi , this is remo, i am going mad with this sex drive, i touched my sister while she was sleeping, i lost my love, please help me how to solve...

The following revelation is not really a revelation at all, in the whole scheme of human thought, but for me, I know for sure now a thing I have hoped wasn't true. People, specifically the men who have come and gone from my life, think I'm great until shit gets real and they have to see me for who I am, as opposed to what they thought I was, hoped I was, glorified me to be. Hence, &qu...

I was out with my best girlfriend a couple of nights ago and we met a group of men in the bar where we were drinking. At first it was just friendly banter but after an hour or so one of the guys was trying to gauge if there was an interest in his friend. They were all great guys but I wasn't really interested as I have a long time boyfriend of 5 years. I politely told him that I wasn'...

Hi, I don't know if anyone can help me this is troubling me a bit. I am in a new relationship of 4 months with an older man 18 years older than me. He is divorced 10 years ago but was married for 14 years to a sociopathic sadistic golddigger that took everything left him on the street homeless and caused him to have a nervous breakdown. She lied to him all the way through as she was cipho...

I ask my husband to have sex today. We haven'the had any relations in 2 years. I am feeling rejected and even though I am chatting online and partaking in sex talk, I want a physical relation. I am 12 years younger and need some attention. Husband always talks like he wants sex but usually says not today....

Quick background: From ages 1-16 we were always together at family functions. We were close but never sexual. She asked me to be her escort at her graduation and I happily accepted, It was a wonderful night. I was her "date" she was beautiful and as we were both attractive, we "fit" in (whatever that means as I look back on this event). At 17 years of age an incident occurre...

Been living with my now fiancé for three years we have a beautiful 10-month-old baby boy together also we have her two boys ages six and four living with us full-time they call me dad. Which I excepted open arms from the day I met them. I got to say I wouldn't change anything in the world they are awesome I love kids and I make me happy. This last 10 months is been a really long and hard...

My boyfriend really enjoys to try out new things in bed, but at the moment I'm just clueless what else we could try out. We did already: -bondage -submissive/dominant games -role plays -vibrators/toys -using mirrors -wearing any kind of lingerie -Involving food -doing it outside at different places -All positions you can imagine that don't instantly break your spinal cord -Wa...

Hello, so this is the thing and I would be gratefull if you, guys could tell me from your point of view. I've been seeing this guy for 7 months maybe, just sex. Sometimes we go out and chat. He works in other citt so he is here like 4 days in a months and when he is here we see each other everyday (sex). To be clear, I don't have any feeling for him, I'm not attached, I am just cu...

The woman I want to marry had a daughter when she was 40. I started dating her when her daughter was 10. ( I am a 57 y.o. 2x divorced man with a 36 Y.O. daughter) She has done a wonderful job in raising her. The daughter is #1 in her class and as teenagers go, she is pretty respectful. Anyway, my question is this. I think my fiance has forgotten how to be my lover. I think she has forgotten...

So I work hard, as does my wife. I try hard to get her everything and to provide for the family. I book weekend trips, try to do something different often. I work long hours, often getting home at 8 or 9pm if not later. Career wise I am doing great, as is she. I would like to know if I am being unreasonable.... My wife NEVER wants sex. If I touch her, I can feel her wince. I'm no stud, I am o...

I am 38 years old, I have never had sex and I have never had a girlfriend. I've tried going out to clubs, I've tried online dating, but women never choose me. I don't want to be single and I would like an abundant sex life. ...

Hi I'm a 35year old male and my girlfriend is 26. She is the most beautiful person inside and out that I have ever met and we connect of a level that I never thought imaginable. We are both each other's true love and I for one have never loved before. I have never really enjoyed sex with anyone before, I've only ever done it because as a man that's what you are meant to do. But...

Hi all, First of all thanks for taking the time to read this! I have spent 7 amazing years with the most amazing person. My soon to be wife Vanessa. I love her with every ounce of my life she is an amazing mother to our two kids and so supportive. However I just never get any effective from her and if I give her any sexual attention she just shrugs it off there isn't anything there n...

My partner and I have been in a relationship now for 2 years we met online and hit it off straight away, suppose love at first sight? During our late night conversations the topic of sex popped up and we realised we had the same sort of feelings towards it, neither of us really liked it. I must point out that my partner and I are a lesbian couple we had only ever slept with 1 girl each and a few m...

Hi Friends, I have a GF, and before some time we did protected intercourse, but I don't know she got pregnant... Now we want to terminate that pregnancy. Is there any way to for it... We are avoiding surgery.. Please help.......

I've been with the same guy for 16 yrs and we have three children and at the beginning of relationship we was having sex 5 to 7 times a day! I got pregnant with our first child 2 months later. we had hard times but got back together and things was looking up. We had issues which I may talk about if I feel comfortable later on and I got pregnant with 2 child 4 years later and at the time my hu...

I have made it clear from the beginning that sex is important to me. About 3 months after we started dating his desire for intercourse started to decline we would still have sex about once a week and I was ok with that because we still cuddled and spent a lot of quality time together and he still made me feel desired, but we started having sex less and less and we as a couple were starting to...

Ok idk how to start but were we go I'm 23 years old I've been with my girlfriend for ten years.she is 29 years old for the past 6 years I have started to have a drug problem meth,pills,anything with speed she ask way I started using and she hates that I use the reason I started was I'm unhappy with my life our sex life is out the window has been for 8 years and all we do is fight ov...

I'm a newly married man and I love my wife very dearly, but we have a big problem coming to bed. She has less sexual appetite (desire), she’s always ‘not ready’ (dry) for sex which makes it harder for both of us to enjoy. So, most of the time we use lubricants which seems to be our only option as for now. Also this has been a long term problem since we met 4 years before getting marri...

hi! i'm currently dating a girl for a few months now and we are taking it to the next level. the only problem is that i had a girlfriend for 4year and i kinda discovered everything with her.. with my new girlfriend i can't even find her g-spot. i feel really stupid and it's making me insecure... what do i do?...

I took ritalin/adderall my entire life but stopped last year because my husband and I wanted a baby. I got pregnant almost immediately after. My metabolism was shot from the amphetamines. The weight packed on so fast. I was eating very little and still gaining tons of weight (40lbs). After 5 months the MD put me on bedrest, during 4 months of bedrest I gained 90lbs. I was so depressed and as...

Hi, i'm a 16y/o girl. I want to lose my virginity as soon as possible, because all my friends have lost it already. But i have very low selfesteem, and have never had a boyfriend... So i wanna lose it soon as possible, and i've sexcamed this guy i found on omegle. He told me he lived not far away from me so maybe we could meet up and do it uknow? But the problem is he's 45 and i f...

My partner and I have been together for a couple of years now, but at the time being we are not living in the same country. Before dating me, my partner was in a long-term relationship with person A, whom I knew, as before dating, my partner and I were friends. Eventually, when we started dating, we also started having sex, and all of a sudden I found myself being awfully jealous over practically ...

Good evening/morning everyone. Where do I start? Well me and my husband is married now for 7 years and 3 mos. And my husband is older than me. When I get pregnant to my beautiful baby girl. me and my husband never had sex probably like, since I was 3 months pregnant. We talked before and he told me That its him. The problem is him. I want another baby again. And since I get pregnant before(7 years...

So my boyfriend NEVER wants to have sex! Or touch me. Or anything physical. I've heard so many excuses and I've tried to explain that it's really creating a distance between us now. I've tried to figure out if it's because we had a baby, if he still has feelings for his ex but I just can't figure it out. We have been together for 2 years, with a short break after o...

Before we even had children, I was the one who took care of the birth control. We agreed that after we had our 2nd child, husband would go and have the vasectomy (V). After our 2nd child was 6 months old and still no V, I went ahead and had an IUD put in, which was a 5 year plan. Done. Five years passed. Still asking him to get the V done, but would hear "I'll do it in the spring.&qu...

Ok. So I've never done anything like this before but I'm too embarrassed to go to anyone I know. For about 7 years I was on antidepressants and anxiety medication. It's been a full year since I've been off them and I'm so proud of myself. But recently I've been told of a side effect of the medicine I used to rely on. No one informed me that as a side effects of the ...

I met and married my husband quickly. I love him completely and everything would be perfect except he doesn't seem to want me sexually. He has had lovers in the past before me, a few I know as we live in small town. And when we met I thought his reluctance to sex was due to illness, he has thyroid problems however am now thinking its me. He turns me on immensely and has no problem res...

I've been with my boyfriend for almost three years, we got together in the first month of uni and have had a very intense relationship, having the same group of friends and living together in our first year. Over the last couple years he has been bringing to light the fact our libidos are so mismatched. He would like to have sex at least 3 times a week whereas I only once a week. It is an...

Okay I am right now 30 and I have been with the same girl for 10 years we are married and everything is good we are both a modern couple as in we don't really want the house in the suburbs or kids we are happy with an apartment in a busy city. Now I meet my wife when I was 18 in college and her first year of college she had numerous sexual partners all of which were casual sexual partners suc...

My wife and I have been married for 12+ years and have one child together, and our love life, in my opinion is very lacking. Sure I can get oral when I ask/beg for it, but she never seems to want anything, she rarely if ever initiates any encounters, unless she feels guilty from a discussion or argument early in the day/week. I can acknowledge that I may have a more active sex drive than her, bu...

Ok been with my current gf a year all good i love her n wont cheat on her, but i have a sexual thoughts about interacial sex (white women blackmen) i used to watch interacial porn alot behind my previous gfs back i then relised i was more happy pleasing myself than to have sex with her n we eventually broke up i then cut off from watching porn all together it has been about 18 months now since i l...

My husband and I have been together for 10 years. The last two years our sex life has kinda dwindled. I have to admit I was creeping on his computer and found a bunch of porn sites that he has been watching. It seems that every time I leave the house he is playing with himself. I'm concerned because he seems to not be interested in me anymore even though he says he loves me. How can I ap...

My husband and I have been married for nearly two years and together for over 4. T To sum things up as best as I can, he has always had problems climaxing during sex, even before we were together. I'm bi and we have had other women joins us before but recently was the first time he had sex with someone else and he climaxed with her. As you can all imagine, makes you feel pretty bad....

I met a guy at a bar, at first I didn't really think much of him I just thought he was alright. Then we ended up playing pool and he was really into astrology just like me so we hit it off. After playing pool and getting retardedly drunk. He started making out with me and we decided to go back to his place. We eneded up having sex three times. Ya three times haha. I was thinking in my head o...

My wife and I have been married for over 20 years. Our sex life has not ever been very good and in my opinion we are both to blame for that. We have both had affairs (me-emotional; her-emotional & ???). Mine was many years ago, hers may or may not still be happening. He is an old friend from high school, married, and lives a few hours away. Over the last 3 years, I've suspected their...

Hi, I have a gynae problem that requires I see a gynaecologist. My Dr has told me I need an operation. My boyfriend has told me that if I see a male gynaecologist our relationship is over. He sees it almost like cheating. I saw a female Dr this morning and the examination was extremely painful (hence the need for an operation) and he can't bring himself to look at me. He is making me feel...

Been with my husband for 23 years married for the last 6 years, but our sex life for the last 6 year has been non existent and has even gone to sleeping in the other room as he says does not want to disturb me. He's a good provider and I don't have to ask for anything but miss someone just wanting me and showing me affection. There is a age gap of 16 years and wonder if this ok is not he...

I'm really desperate to get some help, so thank you! To give you some context, I'm 25 yo and have never been in a serious relationship. Even more odd, I have never been liked by the same person that I like (and viceversa). That ended about 5 months ago, when I met this amazing girl... Literally, the girl I've been dreaming of for so long, and now she's my girlfriend. Due to...

I have a lot of history to go through. If you read it all, thank you. If not, I totally get it. I have been married now for almost 5 years. My wife and I were friends for a long time before starting to date and we were married very quickly. Our first time together was on our wedding night. It was my first time period. My wife had some experience, but that didn't bother me and still doesn&#...

Now that I have your attention, sorry this is so long. Let’s start off by saying I am a 46 year old male I am in my 3rd marriage my wife is 42 years old and she is in her 3rd marriage. My first marriage(4years age difference) ended because I was accused of cheating, I wasn’t ( but I think she was) My second marriage (10 years age difference)ended because she cheated on me. I have a high sex ...

I have been married for 27 years. My spouse has always tried to pressure me into having anal sex. I have always said no. No way. A couple of weeks ago we were partying together at home. I was drinking tequila. Got Super drunk. So much so that I was in that state of mind where you are in and out of knowing what is going on. The next day he told me that we had anal sex. Right at that instant...

Like seriously, its really getting out of control. When I was younger i just thought it was normal, but now I am 21 and it's just getting worse. Im a complete virgin, raised in a Christian home, and I can not understand why I am like this. I can't even walk by a pretty girl without thinking about how her vagina would feel on me, how it would look, or taste. Its fucking eating me alive be...

I'm 14 years old ,and my sister's 26 and she also has a boyfriend. Her boyfriend can't pay his rent, so he's staying over at our house until he finds a job. So it's 10 o'clock and I'm going to my bedroom, but it was locked. And I can just hear my sister moaning. I knocked the door and wait for about 5 minutes, then they walked out of my room, pretende like not...

What is the best birth control pill that i should take ??please suggest ...

I suffered a lot of trauma in my life. One of the side effects has been using sex as a band aid. I have no idea how many guys I have slept with. Triple digits for sure. I finally meet a great guy, but he has no experience with mental illness, and doesn't believe in sex without being a couple. Well we are unable to be together for lots of reasons. So now I feel sick when I think about sleeping...

I am a middle aged woman now in my 40's. This happened a long time ago when I was in my mid-20's. I have always been embarrassed about what happened so hopefully getting it off my chest will get it out of my mind. I have never even told my best friend. It bothers me every time I think about it and I still think about it all the time. I showed up to an appointment at my hair solon. My ...

Hey guys, I'm a twenty year old male and I have this huge problem that is destroying my self-esteem. It may seem like a gag question, but this is a serious issue of mine and I don't feel comfortable talking to anyone else about it so I'm turning to this forum in hopes of some answers... To keep it short, I can't seem to get an erection ONLY when its time for intercourse....

Me and my girlfriend had sex for the first time at the weekend, I didn't ejaculate inside of her and I pulled out way before I even felt like ejaculating, but we didn't use a condom and she had already made me ejaculate about an hour beforehand, I am worried about the chances of her getting pregnant from precum carrying sperm to her vagina, please reply as fast as possible, thanks...

Hi! I am a brandspanking new member! I came across this site by searching for somewhere to get advice and support for my current problem. First, let me introduce myself and then I will explain what has been going on. I am a 23 year old mother of a one and a half month old baby girl! My husband and 27 and we have been married for three years, and will be together for five years this coming July...

We been married 30 years we married young . I got bladder cancer and can only give her oral and playing with her , she really doesnt like vibrators so we gave them up. Its been since 2005 since had a man inside her. She been a good wife been with thru good and bad i just wish i could find the right guy and place so she could be pleased for once. Does anyone have any ideas or thoughts ? She has nee...

Hello, I am not sure if I will be able to find any advice on here but I really think I just need to talk about it,more than anything. I don't have anyone I am comfortable talking about sex with. Anyways, I am 26 and my husband and I have been married for a year and a half but been together and loved together for 6.5 years. Over the past few years sex has become more and more rare but I know t...

Hi well first time at this but hay if you don't try you won't know right?! My husband and I have been together for 9years married for 1.5years. This is not a new problem but probably the most meaningful. He has no sex drive or interest in me. I try my best but admittedly this makes me so down and unglued that I honestly have depression from it which doesn't help my mood although ...

For me, what it breaks down to is that my husband of 11 years is content with sex once a month and it's usually because I remind him. I don't remember the last time he initiated or the last time he made me feel sexy or attractive. We have discussed this many times over and he swears its not me. He just got tested for testostereone and it is low so once he gets that treated hopefully it w...

I am a 60 year old male who has been married for 39 years to the same woman. She is a very caring and devoted wife and mother. We have worked side by side in different businesses for the last 16 years, 24/7. In that time we have both worked very hard and continuosly tired physically and emotionally. We love each other very much but I am finding that sex and passion has gone. My wife especially d...

Hello here is my problem. I have been with my boyfriend for a year 4 months, i love him so much and iam super attracted to him. When we met he wanted to have sex with me regularly. Now we have had sex once or twice in like 4 or 5 months. Iam very self conscious i have always been because im sorry if this is too much information but i have black pigmentation in between my legs i hate it it is so ug...

Lowdown- Time together - 1 year and a half Mental health - bipolar (myself) PTSD (partner) Children - 4 year old to his X wife I have no children Work - Work together in 2 businesses I suffer from depression and am struggling so much with this relationship, any relationship really. Partly because I can't stand how my partner is with his child, he is very spoilt and as he is a part time...

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years. We have good sex but I want great sex. The biggest issue I have is he is quiet as a mouse during sex, I mean SILENT!! No,moans. groans, nothing. Even afterwards if I make a comment that it was really good many times he doesn't even respond. I have repeatedly talked to him about this. He said he likes it when I express what I'm feeli...

My girlfriend of 3+ years has zero sex drive for at least the last 18 months. Understandably, she has undergone some shifts in her life, with a career change and potentially hormonal shifts caused by going off birth control and anxiety medication. However, these shifts were set into motion over a year ago (except the career change), and the sex drive has not returned. Meanwhile, all other thin...

I am from the US and took a weekend trip to Niagara Falls with my mother. I was staying at this hotel and went outside with my mother. Two people staying in the room next to us came outside the same time we were; a guy and his mom. They asked what we were up to in Niagara Falls; told them we were tourists going to see the falls. They talked about how they were staying there for a nearby concert. N...

I probably dont need to use this website, but I really need to ask someone. I am 14 years old and me and my boyfriend had sex, unprotected sex. It was only for 5 minutes maybe, if that. I just ended my period, it was the day after I ended my period we had sex. He said he cummed inside but then he said was joking.. but im not sure if he really was. This was the third time I've had sex now, not...

My husband and I have been married for three weeks... We love each other very much, but I'm frustrated. I was a virgin when we got married, and he had only had sex once, a few years ago. I'm still a virgin. We've tried so many times, but it's so painful for me when he tries to penetrate that we haven't been able to go all the way. A book I read suggested using lube if it&...

I have a wonderful girlfriend with me now. However, these few months, I have been facing difficulty of erection. So I feel down about this. Recently, I met a girl online. She is a Filipina escort. That reminds of my Filipina ex. However, my intention is find confidence on the bed. I hope by doing making love with that escort, I will be able to perform better sex with my current girlfriend....

We've been together for 9 years. He is the father of my son and takes care of me. But lately, more and more he has been drawing away from me. Whenever we fight he goes straight to watching porn or signing up to meeting up for sex sites. When we've been intimate it seems he can't sleep with me without drinking. He has also admitted to me that he finds a couple of his college classmat...

I'm in a very happy relationship with my now long distance boyfriend, we've been together over a year but moved away 4 months ago. Its all going fine, when we see each other (about once a month) he doesn't last as long in bed as when we lived close to each other. He still satisfies me and I'm very happy but he feels he isn't making me happy. I try to tell him how amazing i...

So I'm in my mid 20s & this guy, who is aged mid 40s, was good friends with my mum. She has told me he has tried it on with her & very flirty & touchy feely. A few weeks ago mum told him I was going through a bit of a bad time so he started visiting me for coffee & company. As time went on I noticed he became quite touchly feely with me, first it was hugs, then back rubs. I�...

Hello everyone, I am over 18 years old male and I am having a problem of lusting over other people, even though I am in a relationship. I am also masturbating too much (~once a day) and I really think it's enough and I want to stop.I try my best, but bad thoughts always come to my head. I watch a video, look a movie or even a commercial, walking a street, just basically nearly at every opport...

Hi,I've been married for a few years, my husband and I have very bumpy relationships. However, this post is about our sex life. Our sex life is pretty good, we have sex about 5 times a week and he tries really hard to give me pleasure. He gave me an orgasm last night by oral sex and it was amazing. And sometimes I get an orgasm by playing with myself while having sex. But it's very rare....

I was dating Brittany for about 8 months. She said that she could hypnotize people and get them to do embarrassing things. I really did not believe her. So she said that she would hypnotize me. I don't think it did anything because I really do not remember anything happening during the hypnosis. Brittany broke up with me a week after that and I suddenly started experiencing really stra...

Feel like the only reason keeping me with my partner is my child ...

A few months ago I caught my bf on online chat sites and profile sex sites. Add I looked what he was looking into it was mostly transsexual and gay sites. He's swears he's not gay so in thinking maybe he just might be a sissy boy. I'm a very open and understanding person, and also bi sexual. So if he's bi I can totally understand, but he won't be open with me about his...

I'm a teenager, and I am hiding this from my parents. I'm super scared because I'm afraid I am going to lose there insurance and if I do I don't know what I am going to do!!! I have no job and no money the dad said he would help but I'm so scared! ...

I have been with my husband for 11 years and married for just over a year. He has been on antidepressants for 3 years now and he can't have sex anymore. maybe once every 3-4 months if he really tries. We weren't even "together " on the night we got married. I love him very much but as a woman I have needs. I don't bring it up to him because I don't want him to feel ba...

my husband is almost 26 years older than me. I'm in my mid 20's. We have been together since I was 18 for 8 years so far. Married for 5 1/2 of the 8 years. He was only the second person I've been with. 2nd person I had sex with. Right before we got married he started having issues with getting erections. I thought that it was just because of stress. Well he has had issues our whole ...

okay so a few weeks ago I lost my virginity. It wasn't to my boyfriend because I don't have one, but I was very disappointed with myself for doing that. But anyways after that things changed like I started talking to guys easier and I had way more guy friend. So this morning my mom woke me up and told me to give her my phone I was so nervous because im not allowed to talk to boys and dat...

So sick of always feeling rejected when it comes to sex or unsatisfied when it does happen for the two PATHETIC minutes that it does! It's always he is too tired from working all day and blah blah blah but even the days he's off its the same exact thing . Other than sex things are ok with us other than I wish he would spend more time verses doing all kinds of yard work and than complain ...

My name is Jack!Me and my wife have been married for 15 years.Honestly,I can't believe she did that.My wife is a manicurist.She works at a beauty salon which near our apartment.Recently,she's been inviting her "girlfriends" over for a cup of coffee.They used to gather at cafes or just elsewhere but since they were here I thought I'd take advantage of that and overhear thei...

I'm a 46 year old woman and have had 4 intimate relationships, but a recent breakdown of the last one makes me wonder if it is possible that I could actually be attractive to anyone at all. I always hoped that even those of us who were on the lower end of attractiveness could find someone somewhere, and a lot of advice out there suggests that no one is really beyond hope. But I'm doubtin...

I have started seeing my boyfriend a few months ago. And when it has come to us having sex he cant manage it. We have talked about it and he also finds it hard to be intimate. He says that this has happened with everyone since his ex split up with him over 3 years ago. He says he really want me and we get really close to doing it then when he can't he gets really mad with himself. What can I...

My boyfriend and I come from similar backgrounds. My parents are very traditional and bealive that a women should loose her virginity to her husband. My boyfriends family is very Christian and bealive that a men and women should stay pure till marriage. But of course me and him are from a new generation...iam 19 he is 18 so it's nothing illegal or out of this world to feel sexual attraction b...

My girlfriend of almost 3 years wont do anything with me that she did with her ex's sexually she rarely even makes out with me only pecks. I only get missionary and if I don't cum within a minute of her, I don't get too. It's putting a big strain on our relationship. I was a virgin before we got together and we have talked about it. She said she is scared to do anything but I k...

I'm not sure how much I am allowed to put in this forum so I'll keep it as brief as possible.I did ask this elsewhere online but people thought bad of my husband which was never my intention. I have been with my husband for 11 years, due to abuse I suffered as a child it was long time before we had a sexual relationship. it took a lot of fighting between usfyor me to realize that I was a...

Ok so my girlfriend had a rough day and she asked me to rub her back, with icy hot. ok so I did no problem. We, as in I got excited and started going for it, completely forgetting about the icy hot, apparently she did too. We started doing it and somehow I must of touched her vajayjay and she said oh hell no STOP!!! lol... as soon as she said stop my dick was on fire!!! She jumped...

ugh. i'm new here. i've been searching for some way for support/understanding. here goes. (short version). Been married 18yrs. love of my Life. (not High School "sweethearts") we met in College. she "use to, but now, "doesn't want to.", but alas, "says she does." sex. is a wonderful way to communicate passion between 2 people. i'l...

Hello, I am a 21 year old girl. About half a year ago I got really drunk and slept with my friends ex. At that time they were broken up for about 2 years, but they always kept in contact and even slept together sometimes. First of all, the guy was a dick to my friend but she was always too blind to see it. He would manipulate her and sleep with other girls while they were still texting (not ...

Hello My sisters and my Brothers .. i am 16 years old guys and i have Masturbation problem whean i was 14 untill this moment. i tried too many ways too stop it ! and i have stopped it for 3 monthes and i stopped it for 2 weeks last months because a good guy helpped a liitle bit with it. I'm actully a muslim and in our reliegon the FAP AND PORN IS HARAM! haram means (it ISNT ALLOWED) and...

So, a little background story about me. I am basically, a goody two shoes who as far as my mother is concerned, has no sexual desires what so ever. I am the golden child with the straight A's, a hefty college resume, and the perfect straight child who will only date after obtaining a college degree and 100% under the lord. Needless to say she was wrong on a few things. One: I have very ...

I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year and a half. At the beginning of the relationship he seemed extremely sexually attracted to me and constantly wanted sex. He was also seemed fairly intimate. Then after about 4 months, he didn't seem interested anymore. Anywhere from 4 to 6 weeks would go by and he wouldn't want to even act sexual. We talked and he said he just didn...

I'm currently 16 and pregnant. I thought I could hide it for awhile until my gynecologist, who I went to without telling my mom, and she told me I'm having not one not two but three children. That's right...triplets. Just my luck. But that's not even the real kicker. The real kicker is that this is a result of me, a straight A student, being convinced to go to a party, having ...

Hey, not quite sure where to start with this as I feel it is quite complicated, but I appreciate whoever takes the time to read this and gives advice. I am 22 years old, my boyfriend is 30. We have been together for nearly 7 months now. We have an amazing connection, He makes me really happy and we really enjoy the time we spend together. We plan to have a future together and really can't ...

HII, My name is shobhit (kalpanik naam) and I am here putting my story in front of you, I am 28 years male living in indore and it is the story when I was studing in 12 th class. I wish to continue it in Hindi so that every one can read and understand it easily.. its my real story.. Garmiyo ki chhuttiya thi or mai apne mama ke yaha ghoomne gya hua tha, ek din mere mama ke ghar mai or meri sister...

I have been friends with this guy for a while. I am divorced and he is a married swinger in an open relationship. We hooked up for a while last year which ended unexpectedly and he was out of the 'lifestyle'. We have continued being close friends and he was helping me with a project last weekend. We always flirt so I didn't read anything into his flirting. Then, he texted me this we...

Please ... Advice needed. Been in a relationship for almost 7 years. Not married to him. I'm divorced. Had rough patches with my boyfriend. He broke up with me. I dated another man. Slept with him. 3 months later we got back together. At first sex was normal. Then it stopped. A year later he broke up with me again. This time he slept with two women THAT I know of. We got back together 3 month...

We have only been married a little over a year and a half.b4 we got married we dated for 2 years.in that 2 years our sex life was amazing,sexy,exciting and some times a little daring.about a month into marriage he started struggling with ''ED.'' we went for months and barely had sex at all .I cried and few times ,so he just quit even approaching me at all.I made him go get chec...

My girlfriend has this boss who is constantly sexually harassing her and its taking everything in me not to beat this guy senseless. She is afraid of losing her job if she lashes at him for it. And I'm not aloud to say anything either but it doesn't seem fair. The restaurant she works for has 2 lawsuits filed against them for the same reason. My girl doesn't wanna go that route. She...

So my best friend wanted to hang out with this guy she likes and he was bringing a friend along and she asked me to come as well. We went to the movies and hung out afterwards. The friend he brought along was so hot. I am so attracted to him and during the time we were hanging out, he danced with me and made me laugh so much which just made me like him even more. Eventually, my friend and I had to...

Right, so I've been with my girlfriend for 5 weeks now and yesterday she came down on me, She gave me a hand job, and said afterwards that I cum a lot, is this supposed to be a good thing? I know she's had ex's and I guess i cum more than them? Someone please tell meh if this is a good thing? Ps she's my first ever girlfriend (I'm 13 she's 14) Thanks Jw Also ...

So my girlfriend and I have been dating 3 months and official for 2. We have a good relationship and both feel very in love. I have never felt like this about anyone and I am enjoying how real the feelings are. My concern however is the sex, its not really there. Our average is once every 2-3 weeks...now my girlfriend works a 9-5 as do I. She also has a 4 year old four days aweek . I do not but tr...

Married but very much alone. Just looking for some online companionship, someone to chat with whether it is just listening and encouraging one another or whether it involves some online adult fun or some of both. ...

I just found out tonight that a girl I hooked up with is pregnant from me. We never dated, we never even had anything serious. We hooked up twice and then we went our separate ways. She told me today that she is pregnant. I do not know what to do. I just recently started dating a girl that truly makes me happy. I haven't been this happy in a long time and now I feel this just messes everythin...

I'm in a commited relationship with a man of whom I love dearly, I wouldn't trade him for any other man nor woman but our sex life is horrible. In March it'll be a year into our relationship and the past 6 months are so I've notice how inexperienced he was compared to me( which wasn't problem),we've talked about the issue numerous of times on what things turn me on, ...

I have only had one relationship before marriage, which was very serious for both of us. Unfortunately it didn't work out because of other people in our lives. Anyways he is married now and so am I. I have children and is leading a fairly happy life. I have been married for 6 years. However me and my husband are not very intimate after our kids- too tired and irritated at the end of the day. ...

I have had 20 sexual encounters with lost of men. 14 one night stands and 5 very short relationships. I am married now and my past is coursing problems because i lied. he said everyone has a past but the lies are present. my friend say 20 people is ok but they have not told their partners/ husbands the true figure. they said its ok to lie because its in the past. So, why lie if its OK to s...

So my fiancé and I have been together for two years, engaged for 7 months, and we are very happy socially. It is me who is not happy sexually. We are both almost 30 years old. The first 3 months of our relationship, we had an amazing sex life. Then it changed from him wanting it everyday, to only a couple of times per week. When I finally said something about it, he would say he was tired. He do...