Live in boyfriend found on dating site

I recently found out my boyfriend of 2 yrs is on an online dating site. The photo he has in his profile is the one I took last yr when we went on a romantic getaway. It came as a total shock to me because we were not having problems and we were getting along just fine. I do so much for him and support everything he does and this is what I get! I cook , clean, make sure he is okay because he has an ailment, I don't argue, cuss or fuss, and yet I'm not enough. Relationship is over. There is no fixing this! I could never trust that he ever really loved me or wanted me. I want him to move out. I can't stand to look at him. Am I crazy for feeling this hurt and embarrassed?

I don't think its crazy at all to feel that way...Being betrayed by someone you share so much with is an incredibly difficult thing to deal with. Did he offer an explanation?

He claims that he thought I was getting tired of him because we don't have sex because he has an ailment. I have offered to get counciling,,, advised that he just focus on being more intimate not necessarily intercourse.. But that don't mean go out on a public website looking for another woman! I'm just floored... I do so much for him, I put up with not having sex, not being touched, make sure he has everything he needs and this is what I get. I'm beyond upset.

Sounds to me like he's trying to deflect the problem and attention back to you. That being said if he has an ailment that interferes with the sex life that can be extremely tough for a man. Insecurity leads to bad decisions. Not justifying what he's done. To me, that's cheating. I think your feelings are totally valid.

You are right... He tried to deflect it but couldnt so he apologized and asked me to forgive him but I could NEVER trust him. We had sex 3 times in the last nine months... I was faithful to him... Patient with him and he is looking for another woman on line...a Latina one at that. Slap in the face to me.

Agreed. Feel it for as long as ya new to. Bigger and better things await

I too found my boyfriend on an internet dating site which came to me as a total shock at that time. This happened when he moved a long distance away from me to return to college for a year. His excuse was that he wanted to find out if other people would of found him attractive or been interested in him. He admitted to chatting to other girls online also and I never wanted to know what was said as the dating website was a sexual orientated one. I was sick to my stomach but I stupidly gave him another chance. He craved attention from other girls, flirted with them and kept in contact with his ex's also while telling me I was the love of his life. Sorry but your problems sound too familiar to what I dealt with in the past.

He told me he removed his profile etc, but you know now I will never trust him again. He has apologized and never once denied it, which made me consider giving him a chance. I'm still pissed but I won't let him off the hook so easy. Trust is a huge thing to lose. I don't know how you recovered from this but I would love to hear it. I still get that sick to my stomach feeling when I think about it. He made a very stupid mistake and I will never let him forget it either.

I never did recover from it as you said once you loose the trust it is very hard to get it back. He tried to recover the situation with promises and begging for forgiveness that's why I gave him another chance. Even though I believed it I was still paranoid because I wasn't with him all the time. It was not long after this incident that he cheated on me, which we broke up for a while until he came running back. I was still in love with him and always believed his lies looking back on it I now realise how foolish I was and how good of an actor he was.

Going thru the forgiveness thing but I can't. I simply don't trust him anymore. So I'm just hanging in there...he will get tired and leave. I can't see forgiving him after he smiled in my face everyday, told me he loves me everyday but he was logged into that site everyday and he lives with me. How bold and grimy is that. We will never recover from this... I was better off not knowing because I can't looking at him now. I'm cordial but i clearly get that he never deserved me.

You are totally correct he does't deserve you, with the right positive attitude you will not melt into the lies that I did. When they hurt you the one time and know they can get away with it they will repeatedly see how much they can get away with. Men know how to push women to the extreme, it never once crossed my mind to put myself out there on a dating site when I was with my boyfriend because I was loved up and only had eyes for him. I seriously doubt the understanding of true love.