Is it wrong to make ex boyfriend's birthday special?

Hello, My guy and I were in a relationship from 6months. I live with my parents and I come from very conservative and protective family, so I had to whisper at calls at night. Also, it was not possible for me to meet him every weekend. These six months, he tried a lot to manage. Once, he was hell busy with office work and he cried over the phone, and said he really wanted to be happy and want to meet me at weekend. It was so difficult for me to ask my parents. And my parents denied for me to go out. But I knew just one thing that my baby needs me. So, I fought with them. And in this asking and convincing procedure, I got so late. He was waiting for me for 2hours. But when I met him, he was pissed of at me for coming so late, but he didn’t see my efforts and said, he doesn’t think he loves me anymore. I thought, he is saying this coz he is angry and things will get resolved. But its been 2months, he never called, I tried to contact him, he stopped replying me. I just don’t understand his behaviour. Does coming late is the only reason for the breakup, or we couldn’t talk properly over phone was the reason, or not meeting frequently was the reason, i don’t know. I tried to ask him several times, but he dint respond. I asked him to give a second chance to me, to our relationship, and I will take care not to hurt him again. But he said, he doesn’t feel the same for me, then what is the point. I don’t know about him, but I really love him very much. And its his birthday next month. And as everyone wants to be happy on their birthday. I really want to make his birthday special. I know, if he comes to know that I am behind the plan, it will irritate him more. So, I am planning something online. I’ll bring his sweet innocent smile back, without knowing who is behind all this. So, my question is: If somehow, he comes to know that I did this? Will I be portrayed as a needy girl? Or will he understand my love for him? Should I do this? Please suggest, do guys like receiving presents on birthday, and if from their ex? All I know is I love him so very much and I just want my little, innocent baby to be happy on his birthday. Please suggest. Thanks.

I'm sorry this might not be what you want to hear, but it sounds like your ex does not want you in his life anymore. Not responding to you for two months is a very long time. I know it's very difficult to not get answers when a relationship ends and to feel confused and your feelings are still there. But if you know he doesn't want you to do anything for his birthday then you shouldn't. That's starting to invade into someone's life when you are not welcome. Send a card, wish him a good day but if someone tells you that they no longer feel for you what you feel for them then it's time for you to let go. Also if his feelings are so fickle that he could stop talking to you after one fight or one mistake he doesn't deserve your attentions. Find someone who will fight for you the way you fought for him.

Hello, Thanks for your advice. :) I understand to what you said, I just want to make him feel special on his special day. And if it annoys him, can i plan a secret birthday for him. So that he'll never get to know that i planned it. He'll just feel being loved, and he'll be happy. Thats it. Still a no?

still a no. try this Christmas. let's see if you feel the same way for him :)