Ultimatum

Hello, My girlfriend left me 3 weeks ago, her reason was that I am not giving her enough space and she feels suffocated. Now to reality. I know her reason was complete bull. First off, we're both 25 years old and we have been dating for a little over 1 year. We had little to no disputes in the 1 year we were together and we were already thinking about moving. In the mean time she had to go back to our home country (Romania, we live in Canada now) to visit her grandma who is extremely ill and to attend her dad's 4th marriage (her mother divorced him when she was 4 years old). While she was there, she told me how her mother is being very difficult to handle in the last few weeks and how she can't take it anymore, I suggested that she should move in with me until we get some money to get our own place, she liked the idea but said let's wait and see after I come back. She comes back, everything went downhill, but she started being closer to her mother. No I believe her mother has something against me, and she gave her an ultimatum, me or her. After a month of her being very stressed (easily noticeable) she said she needs space and we need to break up, because she feels that she can't deal with everything in her life right now and needs to be alone. In the year, we talked about absolutely everything, marriage, kids.. Even though it was jokingly, i know it wasn't just that, she also told a common friend of ours that she really wants to be with me in the future and that she is very happy. That's about all I got right now.. Thanks, A

You need to find out if she still wants you in her life or not. That's a simple question for you to put to her, but be prepared for the worst. Women always seem to want to keep all the doors open in relationships, whereas for men the door is either open or closed. Ok she wants space, that's fair enough - give her some space, but make it plain that you're not going to hang around forever waiting for her. Good luck, and remember the harsh reality that you can't make someone love you, but 25 is young and you'll find someone else before long.