Son and daughter in law marital problems

Hello, I'm new here and needing someone to talk to. My son and daughter-in-law are having marital problems. They are trying to schedule counseling. If they don't get help soon I don't know what will happen. They have a baby and I can't believe I'm saying this, but I wish this baby wouldn't have been born. I love my grandbaby more than words can say, but this is not the way I wanted to become a grandmother. My son's wife is seriously losing it. She used to be emotional, but she is going off the deep end. She blames my son for all of their problems. I know that my son isn't blameless, but he takes responsibility for what he's done. She's in complete denial. All I can do right now is cry. This is not the life I wanted for my son. I feel like I've failed him as a parent, that his judgment was so off when he married her or he didn't have the confidence to think or know he deserved better. I hope someone here will read this I just need someone to talk to. The counselor that I sometimes see is out of her office for another week. Thanks for reading.

Countrymom everything you are feeling is valid. Love or your son, and your daughter in law, is there but you are hurting so bad seeing them go through this, I can understand why you wish the baby wasn't born because your grand baby is in the middle of this. You are torn and fearful which makes you feel like you failed him but you have not. You have done such an amazing job with him to the tune that he is a Man! You created this man who took on responsibility and made a family. He is not a "baby daddy" he is a husband and a father! That's a reflection of YOU! Be proud that he made the efforts, but love him through his struggles. Your daughter in law may still have that post-partum piece in her part in this. Emotions running high that she don't know what to do with. Ask how you can help. Ask if they are sleep deprived, make meals, offer to watch the baby so they can have rekindle time. They are going to fall in and out of love from time to time, most couples do. How they get it back is encouragement from others. The baby is here , the marriage happened, lets not force the hand of regret, but to find all the love and comfort that got it all started. I hope you all recover from this and be a happy family.i have 2 sons and I would want peace and love in their homes as I wish that for your son now. Hugs!