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Found out I've been cheated on

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I found out just hours ago that I've been cheated on, I've been with him for about a year and a half, it's long distance. I found out because he stopped calling me for about a week....so I thought something was wrong so he finally called me to tell me he was "busy" I wasn't buying that so I kept texting him asking him to be honest with me. I got a message back saying "I'm his fiance, were engaged" I thought it was a joke. So I called, she picks up the phone and gives it to him. Hes acting like he told me that we were already broken up.....and hes lying about everything...I gave him 50 dollars a couple weeks ago because he said he needed a new tv, when actually SHE needed a new tv.....so he just basically used me. He could atleast be a man and be honest instead of lying like that. I just feel worthless, I feel like my life is pointless.....I have to go to work soon..but I feel like I won't be able to hold myself together. It was just so hard hearing him lie to me like that, I can't take it...hes been with her for a couple a months and now they're engaged...I was trying to raise money to go see him....he just could have told me instead of me finding out like this. I can't sleep, I can't eat.....its really getting to me. So, any advice on how I get over this? And do you think he feels guilty at all?

Found out I've been cheated on

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I know this might sound cliche but time heals all wounds. I have been cheated on before and it sucks. You have to move on. I would reccomend you not going to work today and just hang out with your friends and tell them what happened. The purest kind of fun is the fun you have with your best friends. Wounds from cheating will never heal in a day, week, or a month. It might even carry on to your next relationship. So what do you need to do? Just live your life, know that there is someone out there for you who will love you right. Sometimes in the midst of our brokenness and wounds, we just have to hold on to hope. Spend time with friends and family, your loved ones, and find comfort in them. You been in a relationship for a year and a half, try to use this to finally break things off and rediscover yourself. It doesn't matter if he feels guilty or not, a man should never cheat and use a woman like that. Don't even think about if he feels guilty or not because if you do, your holding on to the idea that he might still want you, so its dangerous. There will be a lot of tears and sorrow but that's the beauty of the human spirit. We are resilient and capable. We can always find love in the simplest of places, we just need to look.

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