Emotional Support Forum: Discuss Mental Health, Anxiety, and Emotional Well-being

Hi! I got very upset with what might seem not a big issue for the most of the people, but however it seems that it was big enough to me to make me ask for advice. In March this year I have had a high school reunion after many years and it happened that several of us wanted to keep seeing each other so we started going out once or twice a month eversince. By now we met each other about 15 t...

I have a strange mentall illness. If I don't resolve this, it will affect my daily life. There are certain places in my city which are very crowded, chaotic, heavily jammed, noisy and congested. I get really mentally disturbed when I go through that area. I feel impatient, irritable and agitated. Others seem to be more calm and patient in those areas. If I keep on having issues with s...

I was 16. I am a male. It was summer vacation, and I was so lonely that I wasn't happy. I decided to install multiple friend-making apps in the style of Tinder, where you swipe left or right on people. This specific app has a chat room where people of all ages who are registered can chat. I clicked through the profiles of whoever was chatting and found a girl with the same nationality as me, ...

I'm feeling rather hurt. My only Sister just totally lost it with me. I support her constantly. I bite my tongue often. I reached out to her just to vent my concerns. I felt worried about my relationship with my daughter. I have nobody else to turn to. Both of us being Mothers with a daughter I was hoping for some emotional support and a shoulder to cry on. I was hoping ...

I’m confused. I don’t know what’s real or in my head. I’m realising so much recently. I used to think my anxieties were my issues but I’m finally thinking actually , my anxiety is only about one person , no one else , maybe she has made me this way. I’d really appreciate advice, opinions. This goes back years and years. My children are grown up now and ive had anxiety regar...

I am writing this with a heavy heart, living each day in fear, knowing that my voice could be silenced at any moment. In Venezuela, speaking the truth has become a crime. I have risked everything to expose the brutal reality of forced detentions and the mass killings of innocent civilians, and now, the regime is coming for me and my family. We are trapped in a country that no longer respects hu...

i am totally in pain right as my boyfriend of almost 2 years decides to hangout with my best friend behind my back. i mean how can you be in love with someone and go about sleeping with their friend does that even make any sense at all? now i lost a boyfriend and a friend all to greed i don't even know how people live with such. i just feel so alone right now and don't know what else lif...

Not used to writing things down like this instead of just worrying inside my head so I'm sorry if this sounds (reads) convoluted. The title says a lot I suppose but for the sake of clarity I want to explain some things from the beginning. paint a clear picture if you will. My sister, who I'll call Anais, now 24, was in a relationship with a man I'll refer to as George from the age...

Im 24 male from Africa (Please excuse my english), and a first year medical student. I've never really felt like i belonged anywhere and I always seem to be the odd one out and believe me, I have tried to fit in. It's literally been this since I could remember. I do have friends but I take much longer to make them and my social circle is miniscule. I live at a boarding house, everyone ge...

I used to be very shy but I overcame it and got myself a big social life. It comprised several sets of friends, my college friends from the 1990s to whom I've been Best Man at a wedding of two of them and I'm Godfather to the children of two of the couples. I shall refer to them as the Old group. One day, we met a DJ at my local pub and we used to go to another town to his gigs and th...

I'm lucky in that I leave for university in the UK this September, but still, she's honestly heightened my anxiety. Ever since we got back from a family visit to our cousins, she's been trying to implement Catholicism in me and my siblings' lives more (signed us to catechism classes and all, even tho I won't even finish it) and holy crap it's hell. Catholicism as a...

I 22f recently discovered that my mother has been cheating on my father for over a year. This hasn't been the first time it's happened. When I was 15 I discovered my mother sexting someone who wasn't my father. I couldn't figure who it was at the time so I didn't say anything. However eventually I looked at my mother's phone and saw all the messages gone but her c...

I’ve gone through a lot this past 5 years. My youngest daughter had 3 babies starting at 16. She had issues with the baby daddy so had to foster them with my sister. Now I have one grandbaby living with me. I was ready to be an empty nester. In the last 5 years I have stopped hanging out with all of my friends and family. I stay alone at home all day and never leave my house. It’s really takin...

I have low-self esteem and slowly it has gotten better. Lately, I just feel like no one likes me. For example, there is a group chat for college and when I ask questions they do not answer them or they dismiss what I have to say. I have been trying to get a job and it feels like they do not like me. I do not know if I am not well presented or if I say or do something that makes them dislike me. If...

I have a severe social anxiety even though I have been to therapy for 4 years now. I am still in school and my grades are going down because of it (I can't participate in class at all) I have only 2 friends. One goes to a different school, the other I don't like anymore. I want good grades so bad and a lot of friends and I just want to have fun. But all of this I can't have and I ...

Hi everyone, I am new on here. Thank you for taking the time to read this post. I am looking for advice to help my husband. I will try to make it as short as possible. My husband and I have been together for 7 years and are very happy together. The thing is he has a lot of childhood trauma. It is one of those situations where his brother was the golden boy and anything my husband ever did was wr...

As the title says, I'm just lost and very alone. I can't make friends, I don't have anyone to talk to and noone is willing to give me a chance, even though I try my best. I'm used to drown in despair and sadness, but it's getting to a point that it's not ok anymore, even for me. I just,... I don't know if I'm even worth it. What did I do to deserve this? I...

I just turned 18 a few months ago. I didn’t even think I’d make it that far. I deal with a debilitating mental illness and I was denied any treatment for it my entire childhood.I now have access to medication, but I can’t afford it. I was supposed to go completely blind a few years ago,I haven’t, but I just lost vision in one of my eyes. There was a chance for me to have some recovery, but...

I live with my family. But they have become toxic and they just can't be happy with anything. I am being restricted to go out of my house. Each time I go out I have to give them an excuse or a complete explanation. I can't speak freely while I am at my home. I am 25 and I don't have a room of my own. All of my belongings are kept in different places and I have to move my things when...

I, female 18, always cry at confrontations, especially with teachers. I'm not even feeling bad or anything but I just start tearing up and I don't how to control it. Today a teacher catched me on my phone and wanted to talk to me after the lesson. And I immediately started tearing up and couldn't even properly speak because my lips were trembling and my voice was cracking. Like I...

Ok so im 18 years old and recently my best friend- or my only friend moved away. I stayed at our hometown with my parents even though i wanted to leave but we couldn't afford that. I was initially jealous because of that but i got over it quickly. Anyways, my main concern right now is that i feel like i am missing out on life. I go to uni but i havent really met anyone i like. I have people ...

I don't have the words to express my pain as I have lost my female best friend recently. I don't know how to describe the situation. I need someone to share my inner!...

Let me start by saying I'm in no means a good person; I have my dirt, done my wrongs but I try to better myself. I'm not looking for validation, sympathy or pity, just honest opinions. I'll be the first to tell you that I'm a miserable bastard, a paranoid pessimistic dick with mild trust issues (for reasons I'll explain later) but I don't generally hate anyone/anythin...

Hi, thank you for reading. I'd love to connect/hear from some of you who can share some of their own experiences with social anxiety. I have it all my life and while I have never sought therapy for it, I know exactly where it comes from: my childhood. In my opinion, my parents tried their best but they took every bit of trust and confidence from me. This is not to blame them, as I've ove...

My partner of 8 years went to prison almost 8 months ago. I am struggling with loneliness and trying my best to survive financially. I had found a roommate to help but that fell through in spectacular fashion. I really need someone to talk to. The alone is starting to weigh on me....

I am very lonely. I am 23 years old and I have no one to talk to. My best friend is in college and is busy. She never has time to talk to me. I can't afford college so I'm kinda stuck. I just want someone to talk to me....

Recently, we purchased a car. We purchased a car because we don't want to remain dependent on taxis to reach a destination and also the hassle of finding a public transport gets eliminated. Owning a car means you can go anywhere you want which is far from your home whenever you want. Unfortunately, owning a car also comes with side effects like petrol expenses, maintainence and repairing and ...

Hi everyone, i’m really struggling at the moment and just need some advice. A bit of info about me is i’m 14 years old and i have a severe anxiety disorder and agoraphobia due to past bullying (i was the quiet fat kid in school) and family experiences (i have a horrible relationship with my father, he’s emotionally and verbally abusive and him and my mother get into arguments a lot). This ha...

I don’t really know how to put all I’m feeling into words. Every time I want to explain my thinking whether when I’m speaking to someone I know or typing it up, I always begin to doubt myself. I don’t think it’s bad to doubt your own doubts, but I know if I don’t express what I really feel I won’t be getting better any time soon. Today is one of those especially down days. I’m u...

Hi, I am new here. I am 38 yrs. old. On 07/19 I found out I have brain cancer. Most of the tumor was removed and what is left I'm on a research drug that has kept it from growing so far. I was married for 12 years and have two kids, one 7, and one 4. My wife started doing meth/drugs in 2022 and there was another Man/meth head involved. In December I filed for a divorce, and she was given the ...

Have you ever wondered what is your purpose in life? Are you satisfied with whatever you are doing daily? I find myself getting tired/ bored after a while and look for another something ‘interesting’ thing to do which would keep me going. It feels like I’m searching for something constantly and have not found it. I start some thing new (like a job, or being a homemaker or an instrument lesso...

Have you ever felt like you're completely detached from everything and everyone in your life, while you still do all the same things with the same people? Lately I feel like I'm so in my head (thinking about how nothing is the way it's supposed to be and that I'm doing everything wrong) that I've started to become terrible company and to subsequently push people away. I th...

Hello, hope all is well with you. I'm writing to you because I feel hopeless and ready to give up on everything. A little background story. I had my first job experience a year after graduating but that didn't work out as well as I wanted it to. I got depressed but then my older sister encouraged me to become a certified teacher. I did it and worked hard on my internships until I l...

yeah so here's the thing i am a 25 years old guy, I am single, vergin, and I have never dated any girl and I am doing PhD in physics from last one year..... So the thing is that there's one girl with me in my lab she's also persuing PhD physics and she joined at same time as me, we also studied together during MSc but that time were weren't that close so we didn't talk...

I'm now in my mid 30s, I have spent most of my life trying to fit in, trying to be somebody, going along to get along, I have no direction it feels like I am stuck in a hole and I just want to not have to be here anymore. I don't even know what to say, I feel like I would be better equipped to fit into society If I wasn't me. I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder a...

I will try to keep this as short as possible! Thank you for reading. Backstory: I (35) am a healthy, successful, happily married woman with good friends and good relationships with my birth family (mom, dad, bro). I also have a sister who was abusive towards me as a child. We got along fairly ok for a short period in my early twenties. As an adult I attempted to maintain a relationship with her...

I've been struggling with hope sometimes as doubt regular comes often ...

So my mom and dad have been arguing a lot lately. My dad has also been getting more and more aggressive. He's been saying stuff about not being respected as a man or husband. Today I really thought he was going to hurt me because he was walking towards me and screaming about how he needs me to see how bad their marriage is. I don't know what to do. On one hand, I'm kinda scared. But...

I'm glad I found this forum, and I HOPE someone can help me. First, I want to apologize if I choose the wrong category or something. This is emotional on so many levels, but I need to know if I'm in the wrong. I have a daughter who is 27. She has an 8-year-old son who I've taken care of since he was 11 months. She left him with me while she chased men and drugs. 2.5 years ago, s...

I'm still a teen so I guess this can come off as a little dramatic but I still feel like it needs to be said for me at least. A year ago, I had it all regarding my mentality, I was the 3rd top student in my entire school. I am now a year ahead in high school I graduate this year & I'm staying back for extra courses just cause I can but last February, over a year ago now, I had a huge...

Hi every im new to this, but feelings distracted with my circumstance, please be honest to help me what’s the morally right thing to do. Do I have been with my girlfriend now for almost two years and she is the love of my life. We unfortunately split up for a few months, then got together to try again. We have been communicated but have a road block on two subjects which may make me look l...

The reason why I hate my family is because they ruined my life. The reason why I hate my life is because my family ruined it. I was born to black parents in a first world country in North America, but since my parents were born and raised in a third world shithole before coming here, they had neither money nor knowledge to pass down to me. On top of that, I was born with ASD and circumcised sho...

Struggling mentally lately, getting older and seem to be stuck in a rut and struggling to cope with life in general. Seem to be drinking & gambling more to try & cope with things....

Hello, Im writing because I dont know what to do,or how to deal with this situation At the present Im a young adult going to university.Back 4 years ago, I was in high school, and only had 1 friend, at that time, I was pretty shy , insecure and I was battling my own demons, so I highly validated the friend I had. From the side of my friend, she used to put me down a lot of times about my physi...

There's some background here that I'll briefly touch on, I'll try to keep it short. So I find myself struggling with a lot of complex trauma that stems from my teenage years. At age 16, I started drinking pretty heavily and my mother, concerned for me as a mother should be, decided together with my father that they would sign me up for a "wilderness therapy" program to &qu...

I am so worried about my dad and don’t know how to help him for the best. My dad lives alone and I know he gets very lonely and is depressed. He had an accident at work many years ago and shattered his leg from the kneecap down which still has not healed properly to this day and he is in pain with it every day. Since then my dad has gone downhill, he doesn’t take care of himself he looks very...

Hi guys, newbie here. Wasn't sure where else to post this. So, thought I would give here a good try and starting point. To make a long story really short of a 24 year old daughter who is recently engaged for about 6 months.. at first your fiance was very charming very accommodating very kind almost to a ridiculous degree fast forward 6 months we now know he's obviously a covert narcissis...

Recently, I left my summer job because I was heading back to college. My best friend K was going through a rough time and had never worked before, so I let her take my position while I was gone. I’ve since returned for winter break, and we’ve been working together again. However, my workplace is downtown which is roughly a two mile walk back and forth, as our light rail is currently down. Afte...

I have a female friend who I think is making a serious mistake and Im not sure what to do. She is a convicted felon, which in and of itself isnt the issue. The problem is that she has another convicted felon freequenting her home and while she is friends with this person she doesnt want to ask this personto leave for fear of losing the friendship. She has children and if this association is discov...

so recently i got admitted to a new college and on the admission date i saw a boy . it was my first sight love . he was so cute . of course somehow i got to know his name and that he had a gf . he doesn't know me and i feel very shy to talk to him . i have no clue to make excuses to talk to him so i am not able to befriend him till now.so will it be ok if i go straight to him and tell him i l...

To expand my question, my father were serving me raw chicken and they want me to eat it. It usually happens all the time. My father won't even allow me to go outside and made me stay in the house for 2 years. Even if I badly needed a haircut they won't even let me outside. They say demeaning words to me saying that I wouldn't be successful in the future. They even put something on...

I broke up with a long term partner last year but he kept finding different ways to contact me and after months of talking we got back together after Christmas,the relationship has soon been the same as before we broke up,it has always been platonic because he has always had erectile dysfunction but now we are a lot older its no longer a problem.Recently he said a sranger phoned him at work asking...

I've been out of school for the past few years and not done anything else, I really want to start college. I live with my family and always have been. I live in a country outside of my home country for almost 15 years. The problem is that my family and I are unable to make our way back to our home country because of financial difficulties. We barely get by as only one parent has a job. I r...

Hello, as the title of this thread says i just started dating someone a few months ago (6 aprox). this person is one of a kind to me. ive never met someone like this and that fact is making me very happy and scares me aswell. But i want to make it short, so since i know myself and have been doing therapy for quite a while i know whats happening to me right now. So basically im a very insecure ...

I am a 51 year old white male and am suffering from a little self-inflicted mind game. I am also currently living with my current girlfriend in a common-law partnership in a country in the EU. I have been here 1 month and need to start working soon and have to stay 5 years to get the EU passport. I also have the opportunity to live and work in BALI. I am so drawn to the different lifestyle ...

Hi all. Brief background. Im M (31) 2 Kids as well. When i was 8yo my parents separated which didnt effect me. They were not good together anyway. But at 9yo my mother bought in the man who would go on to be a special part of my life. I always looked up to this man, still do and love him like a father. We would spend a lot of time together as he would drive me to school which was an ho...

Im lost in life right now. I graduated high school in May of 2019. I've only been able to get 1 job and it didn't last long. It ended good but now i don't know what's next for me. I have a family that doesn't tolerate failure. All I've done is fail them. I want to make something out of myself and i want to make them proud of me but i don't know where to start....

Hello Everyone, I would really appreciate some advice and I don't feel I can talk to my friends and family about this because I feel silly. It all sounds a bit petty but I have been struggling with this problem and it is on my mind at the moment 24-7 so perhaps writing on here and hearing others ideas and thoughts would help. I was with my boyfriend for two years, we met just before ...

So I'm 34 married for 9 years. No kids. Love my husband, but we are no longer sexually intimate or affectionate. I deal with all the housework, bills, appointments etc. He will do the dishes or the bins occasionally. He wants children yet won't have sex with me unless it's near my fertile time otherwise I get told he's too tired or can't be bothered. Been this way for a...

Hi, there is a lot of background to this story so I am going to try to do everyone justice in telling it so I apologize if it's a bit long. So My fiance (B) (24) and I (23) moved into our apartment on December 1st in a different state two hours away. We were expecting help from his family to move since we have helped with similar things in the past, his brother (A) (22) moved from his old ...

I’d just like to say Thankyou to anybody who has the time to read this and possibly give any advice! I just need to get 8 years worth of heartache off my chest and just to hear that hopefully it wasn’t my fault. Trust me when I say I am getting professional help for this, but I’d just like some REAL opinions from real people! Hello everybody, I’m not really sure where to start real...

Hi there Well today i had the unfortunate experience of bumping into some old bullies who obviously haven't grown up any as they were saying unkind things to me. I felt bad as I never said anything as it just brought back feelings of inadequacy and fear especially since one is from a family who for want of a better word are just nasty a**holes. Her sister is a b*tch and her brother is a wo...

I had a longtime friend that I trusted with my deepest secret that I was sexually abused when I was younger. A couple of years ago, I was working a full time job and he become someone I hung out with a lot and I grew to rely on him more. So much so, that I began to consider a future together. I loved him, he was a friend first. He was a goofy guy, but one that didn't respect women and wh...

Hii,I have been married for an year now.Things look fine sometimes and sometimes not. My husband belongs to a practising conservative muslim family and I am too,And no cultural differences. ,post marriage , we are in a different city and not staying with the family . Now my issue starts here: My husband doesnt seem to appreciate any of my efforts.,my thinking.,my outfits which are mostly wester...

I am currently in a long distance relationship, he lives and works in a remote area with limited cell service. It is temporary, and the kids and I will be moving up there by the new year. It sucks because even though I don't have long, every day away from him is like a week. I love him and he loves me but I need more. Some days i want a friend other days i want a special friend. I feel fo...

I met Sarah in a group dinner at the end of July. We were definitely flirting but there was no obvious physical contact. She went on holiday to Spain and her child got covid so she got stuck in Spain. I sent her a message...

I have a friend that I met about a year ago who lives several states away, but has reason to visit my area a few times a year. We interacted on social media here and there for six or seven months. Sometime in April, we began messaging almost everyday for hours. He shared some really intimate information about his past experiences and how they affected him including that he had several relations...

I don’t know how to start off or even where to start. To state things simply, I believe I have severe depression, but I refuse to tell anyone. I like to believe I’m a good person, but whenever I do something nice for someone, it feels like they attack me or despise me afterwards. Most nights I feel like giving up and not waking in the morning, and I stay up until 3-4 AM. I sit at my desk chair...

About 9 years ago a woman punched me. She only punched me once but she knocked me unconscious for 10-15 minutes. It was such a long time ago but I’m still struggling with it. How do I get over it? ...

this is a very long story, and im going to try my best to condense it. basically, around last winter i was applying to colleges in my home state (va). i got into the same university as my best friend (ill call her X) however, my brother in michigan told my mom and i that he was lonely and wanted us to come up with him- especially since he has children now. at first, i was a little hesitant. a...

basically I have strict asian dad who has my location on however I was going out with my friends one night and I decided to do the stupidest thing and turn off my location cos I didn’t want him to get worried or check to see where I am.And he immediately got a notification and now he doesn’t trust me anymore and when he came to pick me up he’s so mad that he’s taking my phone for the whole...

I have just turned 39 I moved back home recently (I am embarrassed about it) In the past when I was looking at places to move into my parents would scaremonger me or try to block it saying: you won’t cope you will lose your job renting is dead money etc. Then when I moved in with a mate it was you can’t trust him etc. Then with my ex it’s you can’t trust her etc. They only want me to l...

CW: SH, mental illness, potential emotional ab*se Ok I don’t know how long this is gonna be, so if it’s like an eternity I’m sorry. So I (M, 20) met this guy (M, 23) on tinder in about March of 2020. He was in another city and we really hit it off. We were talking about fun things we were gonna do when we met, sex, interests, hobbies, all that fun stuff. Then covid hit and we were stuck i...

Yesterday i had sex with my best friend and now all i can think about is him we definitely have talked to each other but not on yesterday's sex....

Occasionally I have posted issues here and the advice has been excellent. I'm not sure this is actually a problem but it bothers me. A family member was in a romantic relationship for three years. This was a long distance relationship where they barely ever saw each other. They pretty much stopped seeing each other at the beginning of 2020. At some point in early March of 2021 the two had ...

So you could describe this as a mental health sort of things as well. But anyway I’ve got something that I’ve never truly been able to deal with for a really long time and I need some help to do so. A little backstory: I am the one who is at fault for causing what I will get into to happen in the first place. Please understand this and know that I understand why thoughts/feelings weren’...

HI all. thanks in advance for any replies..I have been married for over 20 years. We have 3 kids, and my youngest child, who is 19 years old, has severe autism. It's been a very difficult situation, and I've dealt with it mostly on my own..My husband and I both work, and he does help with my son as much as he can when he is home. My older kids have also been a blessing,and help with t...

I have been finding my relationship with my dad frustrating for sometime now. My mom passed away when I was In my mid twenties and dad remarried some years later . He and his wife always made it clear, they would move back to her home country when my dad reached retirement age. They made the move early and now it feels like he cant be bothered with me anymore. I put all the effort into our ...

I feel numb, empty. Today I found out that my grandfather molested my mother and aunt when they were 13. Until today I would have said he was a good man. He is a little overbearing, and talks down to just about everyone but not a horrible person by most standards. We are close, the whole family is. We do weekly dinners at my husband and I's house. My mom has never seemed to get along with...

My daughter is about to turn 2 this June and I decided to book an outdoor pavillion for her bday party. I was able to book it on a Saturday but my hubby's brother's girlfriend's birthday is that day . Now before I booked the pavillion, I did have her in mind but I was thinking that since my daughter is younger, we can celebrate her during the day and if she wanted to do anything,...

im having trouble finding purpose in life. all the little things are piling up and i dont see the point in doing it all when i dont think i want to live much longer. advice is welcome...

I dont even know how to start, and my english isn't the best. This all started a year ago. I had a long term relationship with my boyfriend who I still currently live with. Things started to get different from me. I just didnt love him anymore, not like I used to. I didnt feel like doing sex or kiss him. So I open up with him and told him the truth. But we didnt broke up, because we decided...

Hello, I'd like some advice on this situation please. My best friend is suicidal and he has the means to commit suicide (jumping off a building/bleeding out). He is a teenager and his parents are extremely abusive, but I can't call the police as they aren't citizens and he is afraid they'll get deported. He has been through a lot of other things, and his close friend had also k...

For several months, I have been helping my neighbour with her personal problems, she has stated that she doesn't find me attractive sexualy, but yet she asks me to rub her back and feet and on more than one occasion she has asked me to perform oral sex on her or other things sexualy. Every time she climaxes, she grew up, cleans herself and states again she doesn't find me attractive ...

Hello Everyone, I'm looking for some advice with regards to my grandparents. Ten years ago I cut contact with my parents and never looked back. I moved away from my hometown to a new area and started from scratch. I got a new job, made new friends and got together with partner, who my parents had previously disappoved of for silly supertisious reasons. None of it was easy but I&#...

Hey guys, I want to thank whoever reads this firstly. Second, I am a person with many flaws and have made many mistakes. Lastly, I am very confused on how to go about doing anything anymore. Questioning everything. I am 23. I am a mother to a 5 year old and I have been married for 9 years. For a long time all I wanted was a job. To feel worth something, making money made me feel some self wor...

Hello everyone. This is my first time here and my first post. My issue is kind of weird, well I think it is. But my whole life I just can't make friends. I get along with people, I'm friendly and kind, but everytime a friendship seems to start, it ends just as quick. I mean, it's a life theme really. I'm also an only child so no siblings. No father, mom has passed. I can't...

I have a problem that is rather layered but I will try and condense it. I developed a hobby of genealogy a year or so ago after doing a 23 and me DNA test. I found it to be fun tracing my roots and I was constantly talking with my significant other about what cool things I was finding out. He was raised by a single mom who hadn't maintained any family ties. His mother had left the father po...

I feel like I've lost everything. I never had that much to begin with, but it was enough because what I did have was amazing. But now. I feel like my marriage is pretty much broken. She doesn't listen to me anymore, constantly interrupts me when I am talking, and doesn't seem to really be considerate of anything that includes me. My pup died about 2 years ago, and she was pret...

Dear all, I would appreciate advise/opinion from all of you. I and she (Philippine Girl) fall in love 3 months back. I dont doubt her character but the problem is her online life on facebook and a game 8 ball pool. She have few friends on Facebook and few on pool game, they all send her love invitations almost every time they talk since many months. she show me sometimes, yesterday she show ...

Hi, Firstly, I’ve never done this before but I just feel like I need advice because my life has been so complicated and this is on my mind all the time. I’m now 36, divorced and mother of two sons ages 6 & 5. When I was 18 I met my first love who was 7 years older than me. He told me he wanted to move to Australia as he had been there on a years working holiday visa and felt lik...

What should i do after 14 years my wife send sexual videos to the same guy she was messing with when we first got together. I caught her trying to call him 2 years after we got together now 14 years she does this again even worst. I just dont understand why now. I asked what im i doing wrong she says nothing. Does she love me? Do she care more for him? I need answers. She really broke my heart. We...

I am having some concerns regarding my recent relationship. My fiance and I have been together for under a year. He has jumped into relationships in the past, I haven't since I was younger. When we first met we spent every weekend together and an hour or so during the week. He started pushing to move in together because of distance and his job. Against my better judgment I agreed. Now...

Hey man Just looking for advice on what I can do just in case my doctor doesn't put me on clapixol right away I'm paranoid and constantly here voices It feels like everything's against me Seems like I'm paying for things I did in my previous life Just because I was hit by a car and got my brain damaged when I was 5 Witch makes it more easier to get paranoi...

for context, this takes place with me (17) and my friend (18) a few weeks ago during my winter break, she asked if she could come over. her home life isn't quite the best, and she often stays at my house for extended periods of time. although i was a bit hesitant (i planned to use winter break to relax from the stress of online school and both of my parents becoming ill with cancer, and th...

I am looking to go into counselling for my mental health. I feel like what I am doing isn’t getting me anywhere and with lockdown I just can’t cope. Has anyone been through it before? ...

Hi, I work with this guy and I’ve been crushing on him for over a year now. Whenever I’m in work I need to find out whether he is there and I will wander around the building until I see him. I like watching him as he’s doing his job and I will try and find any excuse I can to talk to him. We do chat using social media occasionally and he has said previously that nothing will happen and I acc...

Im a quiet type of person. Now im trying to get out of that zone but it's not an easy thing to do. I don't have lots of friends. I feel like Im not easy to have friends because im not talkative. Im feeling all alone and im getting depressed. We have a group chat with my co-choir members, i celebrated my birthday but none of them greeted me on our group chat. Im just thinking maybe they w...

I’ve dated this girl for 5 years or so and before then we were absolute best friends and were always very close. We talked all the time all day every day. This fall we broke up mostly because work/life just pulled us apart and too many old arguments kept surfacing. I’m sure we each made mistakes and I’ve admitted mine. Trouble is, we’ve kept in touch and some days we will talk a bunch and ...

Myself and my partner are living together and this Christmas we were invited by both sets of parents for Christmas Day. Last year we saw his mum and dad for the day. He put it on me to make the decisions. I thought we should go to my family as we went to his last year but I didn’t want to disappoint him as I know he wants to see his young nephews for the day (they were elsewhere last year). Now...

I am very emotional after finding out that my wife had been sexting an old boyfriend. I feel as if I am really losing it sometimes. ...

I met A through online dating in Feb 2019, he was very intense and then he went cold very quickly, whilst on a break and never expecting to hear from him again, I slept with an ex. A and I got back together, but it was still not working! We ended badly, I told him about my ex and said a lot of nasty things! However a few months later I felt guilty and contacted him. We began a friendship and 5 m...

I am 53 dating a 47 year old Pam going very well until we are at an after party on Sunday she is drunk but announced she is leaving unless music changed. Very odd I thought and rude to hostess Charlotte She then says I am leaving and moves to kiss me. I did not like the unilateral way she decided to leave without me so I said " I am staying and withdrew my head" she interpreted this to m...

My mom behaves in a very odd manner about things which are actually not such a big deal. Before I begin, my mom is a single mom and I am the eldest of 3 siblings (this should give some perspective to my question) I am 22, in my last semester of college and my mom still dictates that she wants me in bed by a certain time. My mom asks me to wake up early however I have tried and it is so very diffic...

Hello, I'm new here and this is my first post. I'll just jump in. I have come to notice that my most of my friends and family members never ask me about myself, or my work, while I always make it a point to ask them about their lives, jobs, what's new, etc. They will, however, ask my husband all about his job and hobbies, should he happen to be with me, but most often they seem t...

I met my husband online 12 years ago when my first marriage was ending after 25 years. We fell head over heels for each other at the time I was 46 and he 52. His marriage ended badly over his wife’s alcoholism and mine from physical and mental abuse. I’m from the states he is from the U.K. our game plan after dating 5 years we would move back to the states after getting my dual citizenship . W...

Hello everyone. I'm in a situation where I don't know how to react. Only I met a guy who I fell in love with. Currently he doesn't want a relationship because of his past. So we're friends for now. That works out decently. I got to know his best friend who became my "best friend" too. I learned that she had feelings for him twice but it didn't go any further ...

I recognize that I live my life and don't live my life based on the happiness of my youngest son. I keep myself isolated because he struggles to find a girlfriend. He started living with me when he had seizures 3 years ago because the person he was living with was afraid to witness that type of thing again...So he has been living in my basement. He has mental health issues...He had open he...

I found out 18 months ago that my good friend is not father of his oldest child.hes separated His cousin is the father.finding it very hard being his friend knowing this ...

Hi I'm just looking for advice on this oneI have been friends with this guy for a few years and after a short time I fell in love with him but I think it's one sided .sometimes I think he wants to be really involved but is afraid to say it.... early on in the friendship he would peck me on the cheek when we were parting company I spent one overnight with him in a hotel I'm so conf...

Lately I've been thinking a lot about past bad decisions I've made, and I don't know how to stop thinking about it or feeling guilty. For instance, I had this one friend, not close, but I knew him throughout high school. He didn't outright say it for a long time but I always knew he liked me. I was a very socially awkward person who wasn't good at talking about my feelings...

I have upset a close female friend (not a girlfriend) with some hurtful comments made in a text to her mum which her mum showed to her daughter. I am now mortified and distraught as this was out of character and sent in the heat of the moment and when I was in a bad place recently. I am going to send some flowers to her but should I just leave it at that and let time heal. Who should make the firs...

Advice please! I met a friend at work and became very quite a few years back. Although we no longer work together we have stayed in touch and have become even closer over the years. Although I don't consider myself to be gay I fell for them pretty much straight away but I put it down to just having a crush as they are such a fantastic person. The problem I'm having is that they are reall...

Everything I do can be better, when I really try they ignored me. When I don’t try I not good enough, I am lazy, Not responsible, disrespectful. It doesn’t matter how I do it I am a disappointment. She always bring the past to make me feel bad. She never think of the damage she does by bring past mistakes she thinks that I don’t go through shit. That i only focus on my phone. She can’t und...

Hi, so this is going to be a very lengthy explanation since this has been going on pretty much since I was born. I have never publicly shared these issues with anyone except for one person who I fully trust. Now though, it's really getting out of hand more than it ever has and I am honestly terrified of what might happen next and I need some outside views of what I should do. I apologize in...

I am in my mid teens and have severe depression. I feel very sad, empty and trapped every day, for no reason. I am living with my mother and no one else, and I have friends but it's not like I can actually talk to them about these things. We are all fairly shallow together. I have tried multiple therapists, but they never worked for me. I could change the way I thought, but not the way I f...

I've been in a relationship with my partner for more than 4 months now, and it has been beyond amazing and has gone so much better than I could have ever imagined considering this is my first real relationship. During lockdown we lived together for many weeks and since leaving to live at home, he has been having an episode due to his cyclothymia. I've known he had the condition for a lon...

Hi all, I'll try keep this brief but it might be lengthy. Thanks in advance for reading. I am basically i'm feeling like a terrible person. I'm racked with guilt, shame and disappointment in myself. I've always tried to be a decent person but just am feeling like my life has spiralled. I'm a female in my 30s living away from my home country. Over the past couple of year...

My wife of has recently left me after a two year on and off again affair with a woman. I have always known she is bisexual, and in 30 years it has never been a problem and she has never cheated until now. When she left, when she got to the woman's house, she rang me in tears, saying she thought she had done the wrong thing, still loved me. She did the same for the next two days, then today no...

My husband is watching a lot of porn on his phone. Hs a secure browser app now. But i answered his phone last week and sw he had been watching gay/transgender/transvestite porn. We haven't been intimate since the birth of our 2nd child. I don't care if he is but i don't want to spend the rest of my life in celibacy because he wont come out. ...

Last year I went to a school reunion and met up with 4 girls I hadn't seen since leaving. We had a good time and kept in touch, agreeing to meet up again at some point. Another girl has now joined the group. She and I were very close from the age of 7 (besties!!) then around the age of 13 she dumped me in a particularly cruel way. She joined up with another girl in our class and started...

My friendship of 20 years has always been toxic. We essentially grew up together, and therefore, know each other very well, like sisters. However, as I've gotten older, I've tried to break off this toxic relationship and I believe so has she. Though I dont care to get into why its toxic, I will say I find it difficult in times like these as she has just texted telling me her mother is in...

I've been happily married for the past 4 years and am very much in love with my husband. My in-laws are really bothering me with jokes and how they act around me. One of my sister in laws has been spreading rumours around my husband's family that I am a lesbian. Her and her husband have been making jokes about it all the time and it has been making me feel really uncomfortable. To top it...

In feb 2019 my significant other opened up about being sexually molested as a child when I caught them cheating via sexting.... life was great and we got married in vegas. Seriously it was amazing. Then it just fell off badly I caught them sexting another person who was close friends of ours and lied about it. Then it was opening up and admitting they had an std for 13 years. Then I turned into an...

My in laws will only refer to my husband and I’s house, to their “sons” house only. Even when they talk to me. They include both their daughter’s and boyfriend’s name, when they are referring to “their” house. We are married. Why is it only “his” house. It hurts my feelings and makes me feel inadequate. Why don’t I deserve to be included? I don’t refer to his in laws house a...

I am a 53 year old mum of 3 with a relatively happy life and a lot to be grateful for. And I really am grateful, so why do I keep missing my childhood, parents and childhood home so much. Every time I think about being a kid, my lovely home and parents it physically hurts inside and I cry. Every time. I took my youngest who is ten to my old neighbourhood park and saw an old school mate fro...

Hey, well where do I begin? I'm nearly 40 year's old (female) and basically I have no backbone, I'm weak a people pleaser wanting to get along with people always wanting to help people torturing myself if I think someone doesn't like me I have always been shy and not much confidence ,as a kid at school I used to let the other kids steal off me and I'd never say anythi...

I am in my mid teens and very, very anxious. I have severe clinical depression and worry constantly about my future. I can't help it. My friends are all growing up around me, unhindered by a constant barrage of self-destructing thoughts. I still hang out with them in school (when schools were open) but I never go to any of their houses anymore because of my social anxiety, and so I can't...

My friend and i are teens now and have known each other since kindergarten. She is the closest friend i have and i love her like a sister, but i have had severe depression the past several years and she is suicidal and relapses in self harm every few months. just recently we were walking across the street from each other and she casually told me she was six months pregnant and getting an abort...

Hey, i'm new here, glad to meet whoever reading my post. I got an issue in which idk to whom i can speak to, so i guess this a better platform to share about it. Okay so, i just had a fight with somebody related to me, actually my close relative. We worked together at the same office, she recommended me as part timer and after working about 3 months i got permanent position, in which i'v...

Hi everyone, I could really use some external advice and perspective on something that's preoccupying my thoughts almost constantly - thanks in advance for reading! A good friend of mine started dating her current partner about 9 months ago. Things progressed very quickly, with her moving in after three months and talk of a baby starting soon after (she had been unhappily single for a long...

My father is cheating on my mother. The night I accidentally discovered this through his texts, I had the worst panic attack of my life. I thought I was going to die. And it's only gotten worse. Whenever I'm around him, I never fail to feel sick to my stomach and irritable as all hell. Whenever he begins to yell or scream at me over little things or belittles me, not only am I filled wit...

A coworker was recently telling me a story of how they had been scammed financially and that at the moment they realised, they became dizzy. This made me think of my own experience with being deceived and others that people have told me. I was thinking mainly of how people often describe similar physiological and emotional responses in the moment of finding out. I'd like to hear other p...

Hi, I am 50yrs old and due to past problems with my wife, my feelings for her have numbed. For about 2 years now, I have been pretty obsessed with a young staff of mine. She is the most wonderful, sweet girl you can imagine and I love everything about her. From her actions, her laughter, her silliness and even her little snaggletooth. To make matters worse, she's a key staff and she...

I have a toxic relationship with a close family member. Let’s call that person Rat. I have been verbally abused almost my entire life, a couple of times physically as well by this person to the point that I’m sick of it. I despise Rat. I hate Rat. But due to blood ties, I’m stuck with Rat. I need advice. I don’t know how to act around Rat, and the constant anger between me and Rat ar...

Hi all, First time posting here, and wanting opinions. I feel really silly posting but would like advice. So after 20 years of not seeing my alcoholic father, who abandoned me at 5 years old. I managed to track him down out of curiosity as a teenager. He was still an alcoholic and lets say it didnt end well again. Then, About 5 years ago i managed to find the strength to forgive him for his p...

So two years ago I cheated on my boyfriend with my best friends boyfriend, thats obviously a very simplified version and theres a whole load of factors and reasons I dont want to get it. But basically its been two years and I still feel broken from it. When it happened I lost everything and went into self destruct mode. Ive been to therapy and made peace with the girl since. Ive tried so hard to ...

06 September 2018 14:28, the last time I've been here. Actually that was for my only post, it was about the thing that set me in motion. First, I am going to explain my situation a bit better, it is probably going to be long so buckle up, I think you will find it interesting. September 2017, a quick description of me when I started the first year of high school, short, a LOT of acne, socia...

I've had this person in my life for a really long time. She's 3 years younger than me and if i'm being honest, I've used that fact as an excuse for the way should would treat me. She is dating my brother in law. I really wanted us to be friends because of how much I love my husband and brother in law's relationship with one another, i'm also close to my brother in ...

My father had a terrible childhood, and he has always talked about not being like his asshole father. Recently, however, I accidentally discovered messages between him and some woman that most definitely were sexual. My mom has always tried her best to take care of my family and does not deserve to be cheated on. I don't know what to do. I know the right thing to do is to tell my mom, but I&#...

Long story short, I moved to a new small town and met a guy, both of us a bit damaged from previous relationships, and not exactly looking to get into anything. Somehow things ended up on the more serious side of things and we were seeing eachother for about 4 months and I believed him when he would tell me he didn't want to lose me, he could see a future with me, he wouldn't hurt me, le...

Hi all Recently single, at 35, and feel like my prospect at having a family is running out very quickly. I’m also pretty traumatised from a VERY difficult five years or so which has featured betrayal, death of my favourite person and also a transition to freelancing for three years which I now realise is not helping as I spend so much time at my kitchen table (I’m now going inhouse part-...

I don't like funerals, the whole thing makes me uncomfortable. So when my uncle passed away I just didn't go. The following day my sister texted me asking why I wasn't there. Knowing she wouldn't be sympathetic I just told her I was working (I did later in the day) She replied that she took an hour off work and I should have done the same. She also said some of our cousins ...

Recently my parents offered to take myself, my husband and our four year old daughter on holiday as a Christmas present. We were very thankful for the offer. Our daughter started at a school nursery after Christmas, having previously been in a private nursery. One big difference is that they close more frequently than the other nursery (they share the same holidays as the school) so we will no...

Hello, I came to this forum in May '19. My relationship with my mother had broken down for a second time in Oct '18 and I was 6 months into going No Contact. I was expecting to feel better, to feel relief that I no longer had to see her every 6 weeks but I wasn't. I was in despair, more anxious than ever and the guilt pulled at my heart strings everyday that she was going to miss o...

Hi everyone, It is difficult for me to write this because i always try to put up a facade that nothing is wrong with me. But right now i just can't handle it anymore and i have to let it out. In September of last year i decided to start a new study since i wanted to get away from my dead end job. I went in with full confidence that i was going to make my first year and i wanted to give it...

Hi everyone, This is my first post on here, but I really could do with some unbiased advice. This afternoon I had a fairly big row with my mum, it’s not the first time we have argued about this particular topic and I’m really not sure how to handle this as she is telling me I am being unreasonable. This afternoon I was walking my dog, she is a rescue and I have been working for almost ...

I’m in my mid 30s and until last year I was extremely close with my parents. I found out that my mom was hiding several crucial things from my brother and I for years which led me to lose my trust with her. I have since backed off completely and only communicate or see them a few times a month. Both my parents try to guilt into feeling bad and that I should just get over it. It makes me not what...

I have this coworker. I think we both like each other, no one has asked anyone out but we’ve seen each other outside work a couple times and I’d said as far as coworkers go, we’re close. A couple months ago he got a store gift card for his birthday from our company. He told me he didn’t go there and he’d never use it. I told him you can buy anything at that store and I’m there all the ...

How far would a person go to keep there partner from knowing about their child? Is there a such thing as a fake dna test? If you go to a third party location that takes cash can’t you pay the person to alter the results? No lab blood work or doctor was there so who would really know if you wasn’t truthful? ...

So its a long story but bear with me. About a month ago I woke up to sudden immediate health issues and been rushed around to several specialist and hospitals. And during that time I kept missing work and shortly I was fired because I was told if I acted fast they may be able to salvage it. And at the time my partner said that it was fine and to take off as much as I needed to and he didn't h...

I'm not sure there's any properly coherent way that I'll be able to explain this, so I'll just do so in bullet points: -I fell head over heels in love with this guy (I'll call him C) who my friends and I are almost certain felt the same. (~Early 2019) -I thought everything was going extremely well between us, even though I had to go away for 6 weeks or so (Jul 2019) ...

HI, My BF of 3 years, today confessed he's been seeing his EX behind my back I'm, I had sensed something was wrong; he would never admit anything was going on. Today I ended the relationship. I need advice on how to move on and deal with the "uncoupling" and all the emotions that go along with that. I'm hurt, sad, feeling of despair....

I am in my late 20's and have always struggled to have a close connecting relationships its my mother. I am the oldest child and our family has been through a lot like many others. I admit I am very stubborn and connect better with my father since she share the same qualities. However, my entire life I have never been able to tell my mother about personal (relationships, sexual life, serious ...

I'm writing now feeling mixed emotions after a fight with a friend a few weeks ago. This friend is difficult to say the least. Very emotional, sometimes aggressive verbally and sometimes talks with an air of what I feel is entitlement and likes to shout their opinion. We've had several fights in the past which have led to weeks of radio silence only to give it up. It feels like a cycl...

Hi, my name is Sam, I am 13 years old and my parents filed a divorce about a year ago, I have to spend weekends, tuesdays, holidays, and school breaks with my dad. When the going back and fourth beetween my mom and dads house began, my dad was so mean. an example of this is that my mom had stayed at dads house because the wifi was down at her house, and she needed to use wifi overnight for her job...

Hi everyone :) This is my first post and it's about a problem with my friend that's got me a little upset. We've known each other for a few years but have only become really close within the last couple of years. We talk a lot everyday despite not living in the same city and I would definitely say we're close friends and could consider her a best friend. I know she also has...

Hi guys, Not sure where to post this but I need to get this off my chest. I have had the worst year of my life and unfortunately my mother has just passed away from a long battle with cancer. Although we knew it was going to happen nothing will ever prepare you for when it happens. I am understandably grieving but I feel so angry. I still live at home ( I’m 26) Let me explain why. My mum h...

I had a crush on my brother's friend some 10 years ago.. I proposed him.. he is very close to my brother.. as I proposed him.. he told me that it will become a problem.. between me,him, and my brother..later we had no contact.. but my brother and his friends lied to me that he got married.. and showed me a pic.. it seems to me that it's jus a build up.. so I didn't disturb him at al...

I am from Bangladesh. My father was 60 and my mother 38 when I was born. I have 2 elder sisters. My father is a very hard worker and still works at the age of 80 to keep the family going. My mother is a housewife. I am about to complete my undergraduate degree next year. I now have the opportunity to move to another country for my studies and eventually settle down. I have always hated livin...

Hi. I have been single 4 years. I have worked on my personal growth and now want to move on and date but I don't seem to have much time or energy. Apart from that I have had some bad experiences in relationships including abuse and so I am wary and have trust issues. But I don't want to live out the rest of my life alone. I feel I have given myself enough time. Also I like someone a lot ...

For awhile now, I’ve been showing numerous signs of depression and anxiety. I’ve stopped seeing the point in life, I don’t find joy in activities I used to love, I often think of suicide, etc. During this time, I’ve lost much self respect. I will do whatever it takes to make people around me happy even if it hurts me. I’ve started to do this daily. Doing such causes me a lot of pain ...

I proposed a guy.. he liked me too... He was totally interested.. now after telling that I had depression n am taking medication.. he started ignoring me.. but I keep sending messages.. he doesn't seem to block me.. now what do I do? Wait or move on? He liked me..I understand him well n waiting for his reply.....

Hi, my biological father was never in my life growing up and seemed to have no desire to be. Last summer he contacted me asking to meet up I agreed and everything went well and he hasn’t contacted me since. I however have always wanted to meet his family but he was very hesitant about it when I brought it up in conversation when we met up which I understand it was the first we had seen each othe...

I don’t know if my family loves me, because everyone lashes out at each other so frequently. I’m also not sure if relationships can be any better than that either. I basically want some sort of testimony that love is real. Tell me when you knew you were loved or in love. Tell me what it feels like, and if it’s all it’s cracked up to be....

My aunt has lived with my grandma for decades, but the last 16 years or so has become a complete shut-in (we suspect agoraphobia, but it's undiagnosed). Grandma provided for her even though she admitted she almost never came out of her room when Grandma was home. Grandma wouldn't admit there was a problem for a long time. My father (grandma's son, aunt's brother) was starting...

In short. Very good friend about to move quite far away. I'm very in love with him, without him knowing anything - as far as I can tell. Actually, I have no idea if he has any idea, which is probably for the best, I must admit. I've no wish for him not to move away. It's potentially life-changing for him. I'm genuinely happy for and proud of him. I'm in a relationship w...

I really need advice. I’m not attractive, not pretty. I’m kind of nice, but that’s it. I’m not saying this in an I-want-confirmation-that-I-am-pretty kind of way. I am actually truly not pretty. And I have zero self confidence. I grew up with tons of male friends but since starting university, I have not gotten close to any males and can’t even TRY to interact with them. I’m that gir...

First and foremost, I'm sorry if this comes across like an annoying first world problem, and if I seem at all ungrateful in regards to the opportunity that I have been presented with. I'd also like to preface this post by saying that I absolutely did not expect to go abroad and naively think that every waking moment would be fantastic. Earlier this year, I decided to apply to my unive...

I have a neighbor that is a woman who i would say since i have met she has been nice etc she sometimes comes over to mine to chat to my boyfriend i don't mind at all and i just stay in the room, while they're having conversations who is close to my boyfriend not close as in close close but she does come over here sometimes to give him food etc have convo , and talk if they see each other...

I'm sick of myself. Each day I wake up and hate how I look but here's the thing, people call me pretty. Down to strangers,my mom, sister and just about everyone and I don't see it! It's not some light insecurity, I promise, it makes me want to kill myself. Down to a bad angle or anything. It's on and off whether I think I'm pretty.One moment I feel like a goddess and ...

it all started four years ago when i was out with my girlfriend at a local bar when two girls walked over and took the table we were sitting at,at time we were talking to someone else. My girlfriend said look they stole our table ,go say something to them so i walked over and nicely said that our stuff was here and i felt that the table was still ours, well the one female stood up and said its the...

Hi, this isn’t a big deal. Just something that has been bugging me. I went out with some friends the other night and met this girl. Now I don’t want to sound like a wet lettuce, I meet girls all the time, but for no reason I can place this one seemed special. Like massive attraction or something. We had a great night and exchanged numbers. I texted her the next day and it went back and forth ...

A year ago after graduating from college I moved into a house share after getting a job. I counted myself lucky as my female housemate was very friendly and welcoming. She took me under her wing knowing I didn't have any family or friends near by. She introduced me to her friends, and invited me on nights out. I showed her I was thankful for her support by keeping the house tidy, dea...

Hello Everyone. First things first. Id like to give you a summary of myself to give some context to the rest of the post. I'm a bachelor, 26 years of age. Stable job at a Liquor store (we are open 364 days a year), bought up to 20% shares in the business this year. At this time I can support myself easily, save and have some fun. I have a place to live and a car that is bought and payed fo...

Hi, I'm Joe, for those of you who are curious about the title. I've posted here a couple of times a few years ago and it always ended up as a sort of diary, one that I used to get order in my train of thought. It helped me out quite a bit, especially when the diary started to become a conversation consisting of long thought out monologues as a response to one of you guys (the advantage o...

My boyfriend went to prison for over 2 years... amazingly, I broke the stigma and remained loyal the whole time. I was working 60-70 Hrs a week and shaved my head, which, in the small town we were in at the time, constitutes you as a lesbian. So, it wasn't really hard at all. Well, now he's been home for a year, and suddenly he thinks I was cheating on him while he was in there... diggin...

I'm 27 yrs old.. I went into depression 8 years ago.. but still taking medications for it to not to return back..my parents have been searching for a groom for a long period of time..but whomever we approach they slide away after knowing about the medications.. I'm totally worrying a lot.. I feel helpless.. sometimes I get a feel as if I can be a spinster throughout my life.. but now for...

I do a lot for my friends. I made hand made gifts for one of my friend's birthday. I made a really beautiful chart for another. Not only this, I am always ready to help them in any matter whatsoever. Now my birthday is approaching. Its this weekend and i know i should not be but i am being very anxious about the fact that have they planned something for my birthday? Because if they didn...

I’ve been living with my partner now for a year He’s moved here from Manchester sold his house and has bought our current home I’ve been renting mine out he won’t take any rent from me to help towards the bills I’m fully aware that this his his home which is fine The problem is - he wants me to sell my home and pay 20% off his mortgage with the equity then put me on the deeds to co...

I have decided to come on this forum many months ago but I gave up quickly because I was too busy with my highschool life and I came back now due to my serious feelings if depression and anxiety. It’s going to be a long ride. If you feel bored please turn back. I don’t want to waste anybody’s time with my insecurities unless they identify themselves in my stiuation or want to put a good...

My 2 biggest goals in life are completely opposite of each other and cannot exist at the same time. I have just realized this, and it makes sense now why I have been stuck and unhappy. Whenever I have one, I am unhappy because I don't have the other! But they are both equally important to me, so I don't know how to choose! I have been trying to find a way to have both of them but I haven...

Have you ever had a problem that you are afraid to tell your parents because you don't want to make them feel sad? I'm 16 and when you'll see me in personal, maybe you will mistook me for someone in her 20s or 30s. My problem is I look old for my age, as people say. You may be thinking "Nah she's overreacting" but even me, I am also confused why I am hurt when my clas...

Hi all. I've never spoke about my issues to any one before, years of seeing councilors, I've physiqually can't get the words out .. however I have now discovered I am able to put my problems into writting. I'm just turned 32, I have my own property, good job, savings, and a newly loving partner.. say that to anyone and they will tell you that your on top of the world in a gr...

alright, i have 3 friends. every time i hang out with them, it’s really fun, even if it’s only with 1 or 2 of the friends. however, i really dislike thinking about spending time with them. it’s like taking a shower. i hate the thought of going out with them, but then i feel just fine once i'm there. i’ve always been a fourth wheel though. we’d always make jokes about me and my pe...

Hello guys, I live a happy life and I am a very optimistic person, but every time this happens I get depressed. When I see or meet a girl and I like her then my life gets a mess. Then I just get tired, depressed and obsessed with this girl so easily. I can’t stop thinking about her and I am a big overthinker so I get really tired about myself. When I forget this girl after a few weeks...

I need some advice from this community. This story can be very long, but in a nutshell I have a friend who historically I feel takes advantage of me. I have been friends with her for around 7 years and throughout that duration, I have found out stuff she has said about me behind my back, have witnessed firsthand nasty texts she has sent about me(she showed me by accidentally on her phone), and jus...

I've been dating this guy for 3 months. Nothing too serious but we enjoy each other's company. Unfortunately his mother died 3 weeks ago and since then he hasn't been replying to my texts. I sent him a final text telling him I understood what he's going through but I felt sad and rejected and i want to offer him my support . He replied a day later saying hes sorry i feel that w...

I've been best friends for more than a decade with two people from school (let's call them Jane and Lara). We've been single since about 5 years (all three of us) and have always spoken about taking the future slow. About 6 months ago, I started talking to a guy and got into a long distance relationship. Things really clicked (and I mean Really) and we started discussing about s...

All I tend to do is help people, even when they dont want help. Because I care for them. But hes a grown man, hes going to have to figure it out on his own, right? Background: a guy I care about deeply is in trouble. And I always try to help him out. Ive given him money, helped his family out, I do everything for him. Well as much as I can. But he has to be the one to help himself. I basicall...

Really long post I’m sorry, but I have no other unexhausted outlets So I’m on here looking for some advice about something that’s been going on for a couple of years now, and escalated to a point where I don’t know what to do. Also wondering if anyone else has been in this position also and how they might have dealt with it. So for starters it’s about my relationship with my parents. ...

Hello everyone. This is my first post (and, if the dynamic of this site proves to be positive/supportive enough, it may not be my last) and as titled; my marriage is on very, very weak ground and the fault for it being that way is mine and mine alone. The lady I married is someone I've known for better than 30 years. We were close friends all throughout high school and long after. Ther...

My problem where to begin I have alot of childhood trauma and I never got away from putting myself in a victim stance and so anything I did trying to stick up for myself just went haywire I would go way passed sticking up for myself I had to hurt the other person and I am old I have made everyone I know dislike something about me and I talk to much because its a nervous tick at this point I was to...

Hi,. For about 15 years I had no friends. Not really by choice...just life I guess. Was feeling really lonely and for the last two years I have met new people and we are in touch quite often. During the 15 years, I also didn't celebrate my birthday...which is by principle fine with me because I am a Christian and don't really believe in celebrating birthdays (unless it's someone e...

Iam 55 black male and married to my Irish wife for 20 years when i met my wife i had a daughter from a previous relationship and my wife already have a boy and girl. at the start our relationship was very rocky i was working full time and my wife stays home and look after the kids my up bringing without mother or father was miserable one father turns up in my life when i was 14 and he makes my lif...

I'm 16, 11th grade. OK, there's a girl I've liked since like 9th grade. I asked her out and she said no, so I was like "alright fine whatever, your loss". Then I see her with one of my good friends I've known long time (since like 1st grade), and got super jealous. For some reason I kept picturing him banging her after prom (and her moaning at him) whenever I'd s...

Hey! I dont know where to start ! Let me start by simply stating the problem. I have a very messed up friendship with the guy who is my 'best friend'. My friend ( i am gonna refer to him as peter since i am neal) and I are in the 4th semester of our college. Peter used to excel in studies till high school but lost his way somewhere and he barely managed to pass the first semes...

8 months ago I became friends with this girl in college. I thought she was pretty cool and we had a lot of similarities. We became quite close and used to share details of our life. I was really having fun with spending time with her. (We had to do a project together so used to spend a lot of time together). She would constantly cry about all her problems in life and I was there to listen to all o...

About 4 years ago I was living with my emotionally abusive mother (passive aggressive and I believe a covert narcissist). Things were intense between us and I was in no contact with my father for over 6 years up until my mother 'conveniently' arranged a reunion without my consent, which was incredibly stressful and I feel she disrespected me and disregarded my feelings and boundaries. Sh...

I had plans to go away for a bachorelet party for my future sister in law. We were suppose to leave on 2 weeks. Well since we booked my husband was arrested for not paying taxes in the past when he owned a business. He was let out and has to go back to figure out a deal. But he could technically go to jail he cant agree to the terms they give him. Then my other sister in law the only other person ...

Hi there everyone, I was wondering if anyone could help me. Basically, I have this friend who we should call A, who don't get me wrong, I love to death. I have known her basically all of my life (we went to Primary school together) but we have only really got close in the last couple of years. I would describe her as lovely, but also very, very controlling, and she get's stressed ...

So I have a family where’s nothing ever seems to Ben simple. Since my 10th birthday in 2001, I lived with my dad and stepmam (until I move down to uni in 2011, and then dor a few month after leaving uni and getting my own place). I have two blood siblings, one half and one full, both through my real mam. Due to stuff that went on (while in her care and afterwards), I never spoke to my real mam, ...

So I have a bit of a long story but i will try to make it short. I was born in Korea and moved to the states with my parents and sister when I was nine years old. I was told all my grandparents were passed away before i was born. In my late 20's my parents blew up my world and told me that my dad's mother was still alive and in Korea. Now, what I knew was that my dad's f...

This is probably going to be long-winded, but right now I have some issues again and I'm processing them and trying to figure out what the main points are. So I've posted on here over the last few years about some of my problems. In particular for this post, I've previously mentioned my depression, my difficult time with meeting women, and the single mother I dated last year. ...

So, this is my first time doing something like this. I'm kind of scared honestly, getting all of this out into the open. I'll start off by saying that i'm 18 years old. I live with my mother (44) and my sister (17). There's no one i can talk to about this kind of stuff here, besides maybe one person but I don't see them enough to want to go into details. I don't know ...

So there is this girl who I got to know around 6 months ago. We had to do a group project. She was in my class since last 2 years but we barely knew each other. So we became good friends during the project. I got to know her a lot. She would share her life problems with me and I would help her out. I would go out of my way to help her. I used to write her huge texts to help her about the situation...

I’m encountering a stressful problem right now. Don’t know what to do! I am pregnant and I don’t know how to tell my mom. I know that she will get angry and might cry, I don’t want to hurt her. And to my boyfriend, he accepts my pregnancy, but he’s stressful too right now coz’ he don’t know how to get enough money to support my pregnancy. That’s our problem right now. We’re not e...

hello there , let me begin by saying that i’m just trying to off load a forever filling mind and i’m not trying to change the way you are in anyway , after all its my interaction with other people thats changed me. Its about problems i’ve experienced and i’m sure you have ,and if you find time to express them you should , i wanna tell you about one problem in particular but its a difficu...

Hello all, I think this might be the first time i have used a forum of any kind or gone to seek advice from an online community, so hey here goes! I am a straight male and have been with my partner for about 2.5 years. I want to avoid making a character assassination as nobody is perfect and we all have our baggage. She is generous, kind and thoughtful, very socially outgoing/confident and d...

I used to serve in the military went on operations in a combat zone, as a result suffered PTSD, severe depression, Anxiety OCD and a few other mental health problems as a result, attempted suicide when I first developed them problems, lost my job in the military because of it, got help now 4 years later I’m slipping back into serious problems with PTSD ...

Okay so I started to write this post and once I hit 1000 characters realized that probably nobody wants to hear all that. So here’s the short version. After 3 long term (7+ years) relationships that ended in my partner being unfaithful to me I realized that I am just a completely lost person. I am the type of guy that puts everything on hold for his woman and now that I have been cheated on a...

In 1998 I purchased my mothers house because I was living with her at the time, I've paid the insurance and taxes all these years. Over the years my brother came and went he would always come and stay at Mom's when he got evicted or got out of jail, he never paid for a thing and borrowed money which was never paid back. In 2015 Mom went into a nursing home and passed a year later. My ...

I was wondering to myself if I am the only one who experienced being deceived by my partner. We're married for 6 years, we have kids but in the mid years of our marriage my partner cheated me twice. I just recently knew that a one night stand happened between my partner with the unknown stranger. It really hurts than being caught with all the recorded flirting conversation with other person...

This has been a trying week. I totaled my car on Monday... in an accident that was my fault and issued a ticket (no one was hurt). I cannot find my title for the vehicle and insurance (my car got totaled 5 years ago) . My wife has said about 10 words to me since the accident. To cap my week off I made it to a final round of interviews for my dream job and did not get it. I feel like such a fuck up...

Hello I've posted once or twice on here before about my relationship with my mother. 3 months ago I cut all contact with her, after our last meeting didn't go well. I couldn't face seeing her every 6-8 weeks. It was for one day only, but it left me in termoil for days after, whilst she went home happy, thinking everything was ok. I have found it exstreamly infuriating t...

My hubby and i have been married for the last 15 years together for 25,Recently he has been verbally abusive to me.Im feeling as though im not in love with him anymore.But i do care about him ive asked if he would go to counseling with me.Thats a plain no then he acts like its a joke.Personally im tired of it all on the other hand i have a best friend ive fallen back in love with ive known him for...

About 4 months ago I agreed to go on a holiday for a week abroad with a group of friends. I say friends but really, one person is my friend who I've known for over 10 years and the other 4 are more acquaintances (2 are a couple). I've been 3 times abroad as a group before with my friend and different people. However over the last year I feel our friendship has drifted somewhat, mainly be...

I'm sleepy but I can't sleep. I'm hungry but dont have an appetite. I'm crying but I dont know why. I'm laughing but I'm not happy. For a few months now, I have been experiencing these things and I dont really know whats happening to me. For a moment I'm goofy and laughing but whenever I'm alone, I cry and feel really really sad. I think I...

I have a 51 yr old sister who has manipulated and lied her way thru my parent's bank account since we were teens. Sitting back and watching it has made me want to be as opposite as possible from her so I am very self sufficient and ask for nothing as it should be at the age of 49 and actually have been this way since my early teens. My parents are constantly rescuing her and dumping their sav...

I met J four years ago at work. We work in the same building with different companies. I kind of guessed he was attracted to me by the way he acted but he never said anything until about three years ago when we went out for drinks together. I’m wasn’t in the right frame of mind at that time, so I told him no. We did become good and close friends and he confided a lot of things to me and we wen...

So recently my girlfriend broke up with me. The worst part has to be if her life wasn’t as bad as it is right now, it’s my belief, we would still be happily together. She has a lot on her plate right now, supporting both her and her mother on a $10per hour job, working full time, in an extremely social environment, all while she has terrible social anxiety that she doesn’t want to medicate. ...

Hi everybody! I have a problem with myself and my emotions. It's all about one particular girl - She was my very first love and it was over 9 years ago. Our paths split up when we broke up (but we were friends tho) and later on I got in another relationship. Still, we were contacting and we were pretty good friends - she was a person that knew me better than anybody else in the world. We w...

Hi all, first post here, hopefully someone can help me, or at least aid me in my journey... Okay so, I'm going to break my explanation down into smaller chunks to make my rant easier to follow. First up, my situation: 20YO Male, living in (very) small town, love technology and a few nerdy things here and there. Just finished college ~5/6 months ago, have 9-5 job as an IT technician....

This year has been a disaster. I have lost many family members. My cousin died in february. I had a friend who was very rude to me, she used me to get good grades, she used to say negative stuff to me such as if i am putting on makeup she would say you are looking like an aunty. She used to comment on everything. in january I stopped talking to her for 2 weeks but I immediately realised that what ...

So I have this male friend and we just recently started talking online via social media and via text. He is my ex's old boss and we have been friends on FB for awhile (even while I was with my ex). I kept him updated on my ex during his deployment. Then we broke up and we talked about what went wrong and how he was rooting for us to get back together and make it work. We did and then a year l...

I'm currently 16 years old and my life has not been forgiving, especially these past few months. Me, my parents and my brother have always been a dysfunctional family, I understand this is personal but just to clarify, my brother was born with a disorder I won't go into and it's ruined his entire life which has caused a chain reaction for us. My parents are constantly depressed and ...

I’m 23, turning 24 in a few months. I’m 1,62 weighing 78kg. Sad. But that has not always been the case. Flashback to when I was 17 and 50 kg back then. I was very happy with my body and full of confidence. I used to enjoy going out a lot, socialising, getting dressed in sexy clothes and feeling gorgeous. I used to take extreme care of what I ate. I was actually 42kg when I was 16 and very sk...

I have mental pain, sorrow, is just painful, starting thinking Dark. Worrying thinking about the future. I am not sick, just need support. Man 47...

Is it normal that I social-media stalk my crush ? She is a really good friend of mine but I have more feelings for her. Sometimes I stalk her on insta, I see what kind of posts he likes and try to conclude something or sometimes I see when is she online on whatsapp. And sometimes I get really mad and see which of her male friends are online at that time to try to figure out who is she talking to. ...

I need some advise, or even just a opinion. I was with someone for almost ten years. We broke up about three months ago. I haven't really had any closer. We don't have any kid's together, but we do have a dog , and i have plans to come and get him. The thing is, i have been heartbroken over him, and i never had any full closer. We have talked a few times over face book., and I had t...

Hi, I am a 21 year old girl. I was physically and mentally abused for 19 years of my life. Maybe because I was a annoying, loser kid. I had a lot of anger at my abusive parents. I agree they have helped me financially, paying for my education and I thank them for that (and the continuous taunts they provide me with, regarding the money they wasted). I did my mistakes too, getting average/less m...

When I was 2, my mother died. Liver cancer. I was the oldest, with one baby brother who died shortly after being born. My father and I were together for some time after that, but when I was four, he got a new girlfriend. And it did not go well. In short, she didn't want me around. I never knew why, but I suspect she wanted my father all to herself. It led to a lot of arguments between them...

Hiya everyone, I was looking for some advice. Basically, I am a University student in my 2nd year of university. I live with 3 other girls in my student house who I generally get on well with and there aren't that many arguments. I've lived with two of these girls before in my first year, and neither of them tend to, shall we say,hold back on their opinions. The other girl I haven�...

This weekend I am supposed to be visiting my in-laws as an early Christmas (we're spending Christmas with my parents). MIL and FIL are divorced, and FIL gets very offended if we don't exactly spend the same amount of time with him as we do with MIL. But, he is a very unpleasant person to be around (MIL is delightful, and there's no way I'd ever go back to their village if it wa...

I am wondering if anyone can help me with some relationship advice? I am a lesbian and I have been with my wife for around 2 years. ...

Hi soulmate, It took me over 2 years to come back as you can see (just checked my thread from 2016-your msg was the last one except ofc the girl who started Posting about her Problem in my thread - Not trying to be an a*hole here-). Sorry for just disappearing on you. I wanted to give you an Update, thats only if you are interested,Well im going to Post it anyway :P (hope you are tho, y...

sorry for no capitals my caps lock isn't working. i am a mother to two daughters and one son whom is disabled.i am a full time carer for my son so much of my time is looking after him. my two daughters have gone through a rough time with coping with this when young they are now 22 years old and 23 years old. they blame me for their depression and say they don't want to speak to me agai...

I'm in such a dilemma. I was in a relationship with someone who had been my best friend for years. We were really close and I fell in love. However, about a year ago she ended it and I was heartbroken, but we remained friends. She's in a relationship now and is planning on having a baby soon. But she still wants me to go round and see her and still be friends, but I just feel weird ...

I arrived in Auckland a few days ago. This trip has been planned for around 9 months after I dropped out of year 13 for mental issues. I was supposed to get a job and a place to staY, and stay here for around 6 months to a year but on arriving at the hostel I knew I had made a huge mistake. I realised that I am nowhere near mentally ready to do this on my own and only did this trip to prove I wasn...

Hello, This week my mother is traveling down to visit me and my baby. We have had an estranged relationship since my wedding, where she tried to control every aspect of it and was exstreamly horrible throughout. Not just me, my husband and other family members too. My husband and I stopped contact after my wedding for well over a year. Then I fell pregnant, I felt the decent thing to do was to...

My brother is six years older than me and he acts like I don’t exist, I’m now 37 and can’t understand why he acts this way. He is now successfully influencing my parents and family so that everybody is mean to me. He thinks it’s the only way I’m going to ‘learn’ how hard life is. I think he holds some resentment regarding me and the way my parents treat me. He thinks my parents ...

I've known this boy for a year last month and as soon as we met we just clicked. He became my best friend we spoke day and night and whenever I felt bad he was there. I had a few relationships through the year but I knew deep down that I always had feelings for him. we both finally admitted it and on march 7th we eventually got together.Three motnhs later we broke up amd it complelty ruined m...

Hello well i have a problem i was dating my gf for one year and half we were together since april 2017 well last month we had a fight and we broke up and my bestfriend at that time started to hang out more with her then ussual so i asked my friends about and i find out that they are dating like since we broke up..but later when i became suicidal she said she will come back she said that she wants ...

Hi, I have been having issues with my bfs family and he has been super stressed out by them and his work. We are both still living with our parents as my bfs job doesnt pay enough and I'm still in college. My bf hasn't had the best life. His biological father walked out as soon as he found out his mom was pregnant, then his mother married his current dad who was formally addicted to drug...

My brother in law is crazy and I need your kind advice on how to deal with him. Both my husband and his parents are in complete denial though, which means I am in a position where I need to see him every so often and socialize with him. The first night I met him, he punched my husband, who can't harm a fly, and his girlfriend tried to hit me when I tried to intervene. This was my first im...

Hi. So here's the thing. I am suffering from depression since 4 years. But what I don't understand is that sometimes I feel so happy and motivated. I feel like I wanna do something with my life. And then sometimes I feel the exact opposite. Like I want to just give up and I feel like my life has been ruined and scarred. Like I am worthless and I shouldn't waste my time here. I don&#...

Hi everyone, I’m new here and just really need to talk about my problem as I feel like I have no where else to go. I started university 3 weeks ago and had to move into the university’s on-campus residence. I have 5 other flatmates (4 boys and 1 girl). Sometime during the first week we all went out and I kissed the girl who is my flatmate and when we got back we kissed some but we had to di...

Last 3 or so years have been emotion full. Joy, confusion and anger for most. My grades are falling. My anger has increased to that point i drink more than ever and use drugs(smoke green lady aka mariuana) to relax and not just beat someone up from anger. Problems started when i finished my school. My brother(now 17 i guess) me 18 rn. We drank. My friend had this girl. She now is 20. So my bro...

Almost a decade ago I moved away from home and started a new life out of state. I had little interest in staying in my hometown, had no real friends there, and there wasn't much opportunity or much to do there. Initially I moved because I was dating someone from around here, but after that ended three years ago I continued to stay mostly for some independence and because I made some friends...

Hi guys right now I’m going through some hard situations and my emotions are every where. I try to explain to partner why I’m feeling a certain way but it just turns into us arguing and honestly makes me want to shut down. I honestly don’t know how to handle it anymore except to distant myself. ...