Scared about being exposed
ABECEDAR - Oct 1 2024 at 17:58
I was 16. I am a male. It was summer vacation, and I was so lonely that I wasn't happy. I decided to install multiple friend-making apps in the style of Tinder, where you swipe left or right on people. This specific app has a chat room where people of all ages who are registered can chat. I clicked through the profiles of whoever was chatting and found a girl with the same nationality as me, different city, 13 years old. I added her. I don't remember the messages I had there, but I know that she asked for my Instagram.
The very first message from me on Instagram was "weird way to propose but ok" joking because she requested my Instagram. One other message I remember sending her, was a supposedly "D pic", but I'm not the type of guy to send nudes, so I sent her something completely different. The next message from me was "when I turn 18", joking that I would send her one when I turn 18. These are the only weird messages I remember sending. The rest was just chatting about random subjects. I did not request any inappropriate pictures of her, or anything sexually related. More stupid jokes? probably.
One day, I had to go to her city with a friend cause he wanted to purchase a pair of headphones from there. We separated and he went his way to the guy with the headphones. I was talking with her, and she told me that we could meet inside a store to say hi to each other. I agreed, I went there, met her, stayed for only 2 minutes and left. When leaving, I noticed her parents were outside the store, waiting for her to check out. (She sent me pictures of her parents for whatever reason before; that's how I knew who they were. I don't think they knew that their daughter was talking to me) After that, I went to meet my friend. I only met her once.
I think that we were friends for about 1 month or even less. One day I blocked her out of the blue on all social media, realizing that I was in the wrong for talking to a 13-year-old. I also deleted the Instagram conversation on my end. Now, I have anxiety that my life and future could be ruined by this. Seeing all these famous content creators get canceled for talking to minors has me scared. I had absolutely no intentions of dating her. We were just friends.
Now, this is what I am most scared about:
People reacting to our friendship.
Our laws in my country state :
"Sexual intercourse committed by a minor with another minor under the age of 14 is sanctioned according to the provisions of art. xx"
"The facts provided for in the previous paragraph are not sanctioned if the age difference between the perpetrator and the victim does not exceed 5 years."
We did NOT have any kind of sexual intercourse. But I am scared of her lying and whatnot. I'm also scared because I can't fully remember what I talked about with her on Instagram (aside from the messages I mentioned earlier, and I'm pretty 99.9% sure I didn’t send her any love messages), as I don't have the chat anymore. This means that she could edit my messages, and I wouldn't be able to prove that I didn't say certain things or that my messages could be taken out of context.
I want her to confirm that I haven't said or done anything inappropriate toward her. Legally, I know I'm safe, but it's the moral aspect that is stressing me out. I've learned my lesson and will choose friends who are my age.
I am overthinking about this for no reason and I cannot stop. I was also thinking about going to a therapist.
I would like opinions. Thank you.
Duplicate message to:
"BrokenAries"
"abercedar"
"m&ms"
"Jetae"
"Wealllmakemistakes"
Hi and welcome!
Respondents are thin on the ground at the mo. Unless you're happy to wait another day or so for myself or another regular to respond (we're all p/t voluntary), could you please follow traditional forum poster-visitor protocol and, unless you're really not up to it, have a stab at each other's threads first? That would be much appreciated - thank-you. :)
Bumping you up for a bit later today (unless someone else beats me to it)!