second woman intervention

Hi, Me and my BF are deeply in love with each other. but there is a second women in our relationship. She is 9 years older to him, married with a 6 yr old kid. She was in his life before me and is filthy rich and takes care of all his expenses. Now he says that he loves me and wants to marry me but cannot dump that woman all of a sudden. she gives him no space and making his life a hell.. he asks me to understand the situation which I am doing. Its been 5 months now I am going through all this and I cannot take it any more. I am losing it big time. I love him but I can no longer share him. Whenever he is with her he asks me to understant and not to make any phone call to him. Please help. I am losing all my hopes now.... :'(

Hello. Obviously he is a very difficult situation. He is currently in love with two women. One he loves for who she is, the other as well, but she has different twists. Now I understand your pain of sharing, I know people who have been there and my advice is to ask yourself: "Do you want to be with a guy who cannot decide?" because the man is purely in love with you both, but as he can't decide he tries to give you both space. Now you have to think about yourself. My advice: Ask him what he wants. At some point he will have to decide and obviously you can't stand him being "shared". I am not telling you to ask him right away. I am asking you to find a good time when you think you are in need of that exact answer and then try and get it, and respect his choice whichever he takes, if you don't this will be harder on yourself. Do what you wan't to, not what you "have" to.