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I really like a shut-in computer geek

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okay so I REALLY like this guy i work with, but hes super shy! hes never had a girlfriend, or anything close to one i think (Hes 22 im 19). According to other employees, hes never shown interest in anyone, and refuses to give out his number to people, even people he somewhat would consider his friends. But, one night, after work, we talked in the parking lot from 9pm-12am, and he asked me if i wanted to go to this video game tournament for a game that we both play on the computer, since he didn't know anyone else really that played (this is a 3-day ALL day thing at a convention center, but its in the city where we live so well be driving to it each day, not like getting a hotel room together or anything) (also this is happening at the end of November) of course, i said yes! so i put my number in his phone and he said hed get back to me with details, he did, and we bought our tickets online. so at this point, since he had texted me the details, i had his phone number. Then a few days later i came across this song i KNEW hed be interested in (its actually about the game were going to the tournament for) and he didn't text back. i was crushed, but then the next time i saw him, and i asked if he looked it up, he said he liked it. a few days later, i texted him letting him know that i had requested the days for the tournament off, i was surprised to get a reply from him, even with a smiley emoticon with it. we texted for about an hour after that. about a week after this, (now two nights ago) we got off together again, this time at 10pm, and we hung out in the parking lot until midnight again. He said he was surprised to see me get off that late, bc i "usually get off at 9", he also happened to mention something revealing that he KNEW that i had classes on monday mornings (we dont go to the same school or anything, i in fact dont even remember mentioning this specifically). He told me that he only considered two people to be his friends, me and a friend of his who doesn't live around here anymore, and pointed out that i had been online (playing a game (binding of isaac) on a gaming social networking-type site for 2 hours. And that song i told him to look up, he had downloaded it, along with two albums worth of the artist who sings it, and had obviously looked into the bad quite a lot. Also, some kids at our work were teasing him about him asking me to go to the tournament with him, saying it was a date, and he got defensive, actually making a point to mention to me that "he just asked me as a friend" he doesn't really initiate conversation first, but hes told me how he doesn't like to be around people or talk much with others at all. he also doesn't usually text or message people online in general. Ive known him for a couple months now, and try to talk to him as much as i can. we've only texted those two times, but i do snag as much time i can from him at work without looking suspicious. i want to tell him that i like him, and am thinking about saying something after the third day at the tournament, maybe when hes dropping me off at home finally? it'll be around midnight, and its just the two of us going. What should i say so that i don't scare him? i have been choosing my moves very carefully and its seemed to have worked this far, but its tearing me up inside. i just HAVE to know how he feels! i cant ever bring myself to text him cuz im terrified he wont text back, and he just makes me a nervous wreck inside even tho i play it as cool as i can. hes not a normal guy! so i cant just ask him to hang out like i normally would with someone, because he just doesn't do that sort of thing. hes a shut in...should i reveal my feelings, give up, or sit quiet and completely fall apart inside like im already doing? please, help me....

I really like a shut-in computer geek

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I think strangeowl that deep down it sounds like he really likes you, why ask you to something when it is just going to be the two of you? Sounds like he is scared of getting hurt he sounds quite an introverted type of person, i think you should go to the convention, play it by ear and at the end of it i think you may know your answer to how he feels, if not, then why not ask him? nothing wrong with that and at least you will know how he feels. good luck

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