I don't know if I can trust him

I'm on a serius relationship for about 1 year and a half. We are engaged and living together with his mother now. We were friends for 3 years before starting to going out, we dated different people at the time we met, but we always had eyes on one another. It was as if we were meant to be. So I was very happy when we finally get together. Now, only one year later, it seems everything I hope for us is an illusion. We have been throught difficult times with his family and he says that's the reason why he is distant sometimes. But, at the same time, i see him getting closer to another woman from his job. they talk frequently and go out after job. He wants me to get to know her and be friends. I don't know... I saw some of they online conversations and he's very nice to her, it looked flirting to me. He mentioned me some 2 times, but in a very weird way, complaining about me. I feel like he's tired of our relationship, but when I asked if there were something wrong with us, he says nothing, he only mentioned his family and job problems... I don't know if he's being insincere. I wish I could trust him... Am I being stupid?

Hi Helen I would say what your fiance is doing is completely inappropriate. I've been married for 20 years and I've seen a lot in my 41 years. I don't know if your fiance is going down the path of an emotional affair yet or not, but i would be very careful in how you proceed. You are not being stupid at all! The one thing we learned in marriage counseling 8 years ago was no opposite sex friendships, unless they are friends of the marriage, meaning another couple. So , basically, no going out with the opposite sex alone to dinner, coffee, lunch, nada! It doesn't look good to me right now, but things can change. I wouldn't marry him anytime soon , i know that much. The chat room is open now, if you want to come in, i'm in there a lot...Just put down your foot, lay down your boundaries and tell him how its going to be, without this woman in your lives... I would go as far as telling him i wouldn't marry him until it changes!!! Let me know how it goes! Love Kym