My family won't accept my boyfriend

hi,a few weeks ago, I finished a relationship with a boy that I was with as it just wasn't working out. I'm 20 years old, nearly 21. my family are very overprotective of me, as I'm registered blind, I have been since birth, but I don't let my disability get in my way. I've got an iphone, and an apple mac laptop and they both have built in programs so I know how to navigate around the screen. a few days after I split with my ex allan, a really close friend of mine, Cory asked me out. we've been friends for 9 years since college and are really, really close. Cory has helped me become so much more independent on using the underground, and just getting out and about really. so we decided to see how things went. we kept it quiet for a few days before putting anything up on facebook. when we did, we got nothing but angry comments. oh, think about what you've done to allan, he was a lovely guy, bla bla bla. mum and dad were on holiday in new York, and they facetimed me and had a right go at me. where me and cory are so close, he's stayed over at mine before, just as a friend. we'd had stuff planned for the weekend, so I stayed at his for a few days. according to mum, it was wrong that I stayed with him, and it looks to everyone like I'm just jumping into bed with any boy that passes! on the sunday, I met cory's mum, and she is lovely! I tagged her in a post on facebook, saying thaks for having me, and mum rang me again from new York, and dad said that cory's family look like trash, and if I carry on the relationship then they won't be supporting me anymore. he has had a rough upbringing, but he's the one in the family trying to make the difference. mum and dad just don't like it, because cory's brother has got piercings and tattoos and stuff. they also moan about how cory looks. he has got a long beard, and he does need a haircut, but he's getting that sorted out this week. they've just been so harsh, saying they won't support me, and that he'll never be welcome over for Christmas dinner. I love him to bits, we've got so much in common! I just don't know what to do? all my friends are saying, tell your parents you're just friends, but keep the relationship going, they'll calm down in the end, but I don't think they will. also, on the 14th December, I'm having a big party for my 21st, and mum has said, under no circumstances am I to dance with cory, as he's an embarrassment to the family. I'm just so frustrated, and don't know what to do!!! :(

respect your parents wishes first they have always supported you more,be cordial with your guy maybe your parents are right

I do respect them, it's just so hard, because the week we spent together last week, just felt so right! as friends, a few months ago, we booked to go to florida next year, in october. mum the other day said, florida's only happening if you're not in a relationship with cory. it just upsets me that they can't look past the looks, looks don't bother me, because i can't see, it's the personality that does, and he's lovely! they seem to think that i'm gonna get married and have kids right away, we've not even discussed it, i don't want kids for ages! they're just so overprotective, I don't think they like it because i'm getting more confident and more like a normal 21 year old. because we've been going to the cinema at 8 o'clock at night, apparently he's a bad influence on me. we're always safe, i've got a guide dog brodie, who also looks after me too. he's really bonded to cory as well, and certainly loves him to bits. the thing that upset me the most though was what my brother said to me. he said, that if i ever had kids with cory, he'd make sure that he kicked me in the stomach so that the baby wouldn't live. all this is because of a couple of Facebook pictures, it's so frustrating! grrr :( my dads mum is on my side, she said that dad should calm down eventually, but I'm not too sure.

In my opinion, you're 21, it's your life. You're an adult who doesn't need your parents to constantly watch you. If you really love Corey and he's what makes you happy, then I believe you should be with him. Your parents can't control your life for forever, it's your life and if you constantly check to find out if your parents are okay with it or not, girl you are gonna have one heck of an unhappy life. You're a fighter, I can tell, so don't give in to your parents wishes, stand firm and be strong. Your family doesn't sound very supportive, but do what makes you happy! And above all, trust your instinct! I hope this helps!! Good luck!!! By the way, if your bro does threaten to kick you in the stomach if you get pregnant, you should punch him. You don't need to see to be able to punch someone, just by listening and using your instincts you should be able to tell where he is. I know it may sound mean of me to suggest punching your bro, but threatening to kick someone when they're pregnant is not cool on so many levels!! I hope it's illegal... By the way, your grandma sounds cool :)