Confused and hoping to reconnect

Hello everyone that is reading this, I need your help. It’s about the mother of my kids. It all started a while back when she and I were getting into a lot of arguments and it lead to some getting violent. After our last argument that we had that ended up with me going to jail and us breaking up and I guess you could say grew apart. We set up a communication class that would help us try to communicate better for our kids but I don't think it’s working due to her thinking that the class is a big joke and doing stuff to get under my skin. To fast forward to the present day, we meet up one day at a mutual place so that I could bring back the kids to their mother when out of the blue she had a guy in the car. I asked her if that was her new boyfriend and she replied yes. Well we have been broken up for about three months now and she told me that they have been dating for about two months. I asked her why now that you are now telling I and she said she didn't know how I was going to react to her having a new boyfriend, and also that she taught that if she brought him that we will not have an argument when we were around each other. I tried to introduce myself to her new boyfriend but he acted like he was a tuff guy. He said that he knew everything about me due to what she told him and that I should not worry about what his name is and all he cares about was his girl (my baby mother) and her oldest daughter. They said that he bonded with her oldest daughter instantly and that he was my baby mother new man now so that all I should care about is my kids and that I don’t have to worry about anything else. She did ask me if I was still going to buy things still for our twins which is 1 year old and still pay her bills. I told her that I would take care of my kids and was not going to pay her bills due to it not my problem anymore. She got a little mad when I said that but then he replied by saying " I got you girl, I pay them, don't have to worry about that." I should mention that she got with a black guy who thinks that he is a tuff guy and post stuff on his pages like I will be your lover, friend and soul mate. He is only 24 and he thinks that he could step in and take on responsibilities that big. I don’t think so, I think that he is still in his party age and found a single mother in her 30s that has three kids and was looking for someone to comfort her. He swept her off her feet by talking a good game and tell her what she needs to here and bonding with her oldest daughter which doesn’t have a dad in her life so of course she is going to take to him like that. He knows that he had her in the bag and that he had her heart by bonding with one of her kids and also by talking the right game. I have asked people what they think and that everyone told me that they are in their honeymoon stage and that after a while they will have their differences due to the age gap. They also said that I look like she has put her faith in him thinking that he is going to stick around and take care of her which should mention doesn’t have a job in like six months and thinks that he would step in and pay all her bills and that he would get what he wants such as sex and an older women that he could have her do things for him and smoke and drink with him. They also think that she has put the kids on the back burner so that she could bond closer to him. People think that it will fall apart soon due to the fact that of their age and that she is just glass eye for him right now and that all she sees is a guy wanted her when they think that she don’t get the whole picture. I want her back and have told her that I am sorry and if we could work on getting back together and I would show her that I have changed. Am I wrong for doing that or should I try to get back with her and let her and her boyfriend run its course and see where it lands up. I really want her back and hope she comes back and reconsiders me even if she told me that she will never ever get back with me. I just want so feedback PLEASE and don’t know where to turn to and do anymore. My opinion is that he is not right for her by people would say that of course I will say that. What do you guys think? Sorry so long but had to explain the situation.

i fill your pain,i,ve been there done that to.when i was young.and the last was a divorce because of a fight.sometimes we don,t see the ovious.sometimes she may have been seeing him the whole time.yes it hurts espealy the first heart break.first just get joint custody,second,keep all receipts of things you buy the kids.and any proof you take care of them.as for her going back together want work.you can,t trust her.just make sure the guy doesn,t abuse your kids.if you can get another women to ease the pain.are join the service if you can.i was in the marines.anything voilent want work.you will be in jail .at the end you will win you,ll see,as time goes by she will be going down,meaning doing bad just see your children ,if the guy gets in the middle get a protection order on him.and get back up someone with you to testify of behavor

I think you have a lot of nerve saying anything negative about her new boyfriend when you are the one who landed in jail for being violent with her. You have no control over her current and future relationships. She had your babies, that's it. Your responsibility now is to your children. Period. How her bills are paid is none of your concern as long as your children are safe and being taken care of. Financially support your children, and be there for them. REALLY be there for them, be their father (not just their daddy). If you really do want her back, be a person she would want to be with. Then it's up to her.