Broke up after 5 years. Don't know what to do

Hello,my GF just recently broke up with me. Ar first she told me she wants some time to think. The next day she told me she doesn't feel like before, she has much anger inside. then she told me it's over she wants to move on and accused me for a this and that and the other. I need your help on how i should handle this. I called her much on my panic for the first 1-2 days but now it's been almost 2 weeks that i haven't call. Neither has she. I have lots of thoughts in my mind. Maybe she found another guy. Maybe she had this guy before we break up and then she told me to break up. The last months of our relationship i didn't show that i was fully in love with her (to be honest i wasn't but i loved her much). We had a very nice time when he were together. We laughed etc and it was shocking to hear her breaking up with me. Any help/advice is welcome. I don't know if i should try to win her back or just wait for her to call ( if she'll ever do). Yesterday, she deleted all our photos from her facebook, the ones we were hugging etc. That further made believe she has or searches/is trying to hook up with another boyfriend

hey charis.. how about trying to contact her after both of your heads have already "cooled off", i mean decision making is obviously difficult if both of you are carried away by dominating emotions. just tell her that you want to make everything clear between the two of you.. at least both will have the justice they deserve right? once everything is said, then both of you can make decisions. somehow i have been in a situation much similar to the one you are in, but i was the one who broke up with my ex gf. although it hurts on her part, i talked to her after a few weeks to make things clear between us, now both of us are good friends and currently in good relationships.. the bottomline is atleast preserve your friendship with her if things go downhill. PS im not saying that you should take any advice 100%, treat them as insights and make your decision based on your own principles.

thanks for the response. well, i knew we both needed some time. I didn\\\'t contact her for 2 weeks. Yesterday i sent her an sms, a nice one, stating that i has the time to think and that now i am sure i don\\\'t want to lose her. You know what? she didn\\\'t respond.It\\\'s really weird. It\\\'s over 24h now. The weird thing is that up to then she was all the time online at facebook chat. now it\\\'s like she dissapeared. I called her twice today, no response. The thoughts are killing me. Maybe she has found anohter guy. maybe she had him a little before she told me to break up. Maybe she is thinking about us. Maybe this maybe that. it\\\'s killing me that she at least doesn\\\'t respond. I think that I can move forward. I don\\\'t want to lose her but i won\\\'t die without her. I just need to have 1 discussion with her (we broke up over the phone-tragic). And now she doesn\\\'t respond. Goooood.. Last time she broke up with me she wanted to take revenge for my bad behavior. This time my behavior wasn\\\'t that bad. I loved her, i just has some issues and i told her, cause i wanted her by me and i wanted her to improve those things. Now, this is really weird. Her hole behavior. Her behavior at the moment, now that she doesn\\\'t respond. She was online at facebook like 15 hours per day. And after i sent the message it\\\'s like she dissapeared. And i can\\\'t help thinking of scenarios in my head. Maybe she is now fucking another guy and i am the loser trying to think what went wrong and how to fix it. I need to end this one way or another. I tried to tell her what i feel. I just need to talk to her.

You know what, I have the same issues, I am overly possessive in relationships that leads me to no good , with own mom. I think that with you Charis were like exact copies and we could be friends

have you tried sending her a message that you simply want to talk? no strings attached, to just let her hear you out. like what i did to my ex. a month after we broke up, i sent her a message that i wanted to talk to her wit no strings attached. when we met, i told her that im not expecting her to forgive me for breaking up with her but i just want her to listen. i also asked her that during the conversation, we would speak one at a time and we should keep cool. just so that we go through the conversation without being overwhelmed by emotions. okay, back to your story. just tell her to at least give you a chance to speak out your mind and give you justice for not letting you make a fool of yourself and waiting in uncertainty right?. just be prepared for any possible outcomes.