Stuck in deciding to stay with it!

Hello everyone, I'm in a little situation now and again with my significant other who now is not talking to me again. I do care a lot for this girl but we have this little issue now where playing with emotions and feelings comes into play. I admit that according to her I accuses her with insecurities a lot. After bringing this to my attention it was noticeable even to me. We got into a pretty big argument recently and a lot of hurtful things was said. She knows how to push my buttons and she tend to do that when she get a lil attitude with me. Now I do have so say there is a lot of love and care both ways between the two of us but she will say things to really pis me off. Well anyway we got into it recently and she said something that really hurt. I mean really hit me below the belt. I RESPONDED about a week later after getting tired of trying to get her to talk and communicate with me and began lashing out at her about the way she was acting and not talking to me and began saying some very heavy things to her. Belittling her in the worst way, acting as if I didn't care at all. For a minute I didn't, but I do love and care for this girl a lot but I hurt her so bad with the things I said to her that now she won't talk to me at all. Even broke all communication with me. Changed her number, threatened me not to bother her again stating it was over and she never loved me anyway. She's hurt and I know it. Sent me a text saying she't thinking of getting back with her ex. Mind you everyone, this guy used to really beat and abuse her something terrible. She was pretty much captive in their place. She nearly destroyed herself to get away from him. I really feel she is not going to go back there but she uses things like this to upset me. Only this time she she really surprised me with this one along with the hurt. As I said earlier I do care and love this girl a lot and I know she feels the same. IF I have not explained enough please reply with any questions you have to get a clearer understanding. My question is I do love this girl, miss her a lot and I do want her back. She is a very sweet girl and I have let her down and disappointed her more than once by not paying her the right attention by not noticing her needs. Especially when she was trying to reach out to me. My approach this time I want to be very unique and sincere to her. If anyone have any advise to share that would help me with this unique approach I would love for you to share it with me. Especially any of the ladies that may be reading this. I really hurt and broke this girls heart and wish I handled it in a different manner now. Remember she hit me below the belt also, and hard to. But right now I need her to begin talking to me again first. It's hard for me to now with no way at all to communicate with her without over stepping boundaries and bringing the popo into it. WHAT CAN I DO TO GET HER ATTENTION AGAIN. REALLY NEED YOUR HELP WITH THIS ONE!

Gmac, ask yourself if there was respect, honesty, trust and communication in your relationship. You can love and care for a woman but sometimes you just can't live with her and when you fight with each other constantly, one of both finally realise that they're better off apart. Why bother damaging her and yourself with inane arguments which achieve absolutely nothing but heartache and hurt for both. Why bother being with someone who verbally abuses you just as you verbally abuse her? Where's the predictability in life there? Ask yourself is it really worth getting her attention again (after she's gone to some length in making it near impossible to contact her) just to talk it over and maybe try again?...and maybe verbally abuse her again because she knows and is capable of pushing your anger buttons? (emotional abuse) This is what your relationship has deteriorated into. And Gmac, if you were sincere with your significant other in the first place you wouldn't be here.

OK i think if you tell her this she would forgive you you both did wrong and both hurt each other and now don't talk because of it girls are very sensitive well most of them are girls expect guys to take what they throw at them because there not as sensitive so tell her how you feel about you and her breaking up tell her how you feel when your together and how much you miss her being around well if both of you have Facebook make a big banner or write a status saying it or contact her friends and send them stuff beg to her friends to let them talk to her send them a text on how you feel sorry if that diden't help that's all i got and i think you guys can work out just fine