Bad living situation after brother's family moved in

My brother's family moved in with us. I feel like they have taken over the household. His wife keeps inviting people over without asking and i haven't been able to invite any friends over and i'm always trapped in my room. So i end up having to stay at my grandparents for a while because of the childrens noise and like i said the lack of freedom. They don't seem to realise that they are here based on my parents help- since they are in huge financial debt. And its unfair because we have sacrificed more in our daily lives than they have. I also feel bad because i'm getting to the point where i'm about to crack- and i don't want to hurt their feelings. But whenever i try to talk to my mum about it she ignores the problem and tells me to go away- I think this is extremely bad considering that there has been no positive changes in the household. It feels like everyone is ignoring the obvious solution despite it being able to restore some stability in our lives. What should i do??

hi,what about your dad can he help,you can live in a hostel also,try finding some other accomodation if its stressing you

I see two problems here: 1. No one listens to you when you clearly voice your opinion: Somehow you have to accept that for your mom, you and your bro means a lot. Having his family at your home and helping them is important for her. You can call it motherly love or motherly worry. Saying anything against your bro family can work against you. 2. For your freedom issue: make clear what you want in a diplomatic way. There are many ways of saying the same thing. When you would present your opinion and solutions in a calm way, chances of getting what you want becomes higher instead of putting you in a hot spot.