Marriage problems long term releationship

I've been with my hubby for 15 yrs and married 5yrs, when we first met we laughed, drank, danced, and had a great time, I learnt to drive 11 yrs ago and things changed, since then we have one interest in commen, we don't go out together anymore, we live in the same house but live practically seperate lives, we both work and I look after my mum who's disabled as well. I used to love being close to him and the sex was great but over the last couple of years I've gone off sex with him, I'm not bothered if he's close to me or not and I feel like we are completely different people. Does this happen in long term releationships Or is it just me?

It does happen in long term relationships when two people drift along, other things get in the way and you forget each other. I think it us good that you have noticed it and are contemplating some change..... ??? Do you love him? Do you both communicate? I would try and find time for you to pamper yourself, treat yourself to massage facials, you sound like you are taking care of others so you turn. I suggest you two go on holidays together, and find the time to be happy with each other.

Yeah Jane, it happens all the time. One or both fall out of love and sometimes it takes awhile for them to realize it. If you live separate lives, even if you remain under the same roof, it means you both have lost interest in each other as a couple. You've lost the need for each other. You'll eventually move on from each other totally, unless you both turn it around with communication and counseling. You both will have to have the need to do this though.

We don\\\'t have children so that\\\'s a bonus, I suggested going away for the night but he couldn\\\'t decide where he fancied going, I have to organise everything if we go away, he doesn\\\'t earn a huge amount of money and I do earn more than he does, saying that he still manages to visit the pub on a regular basis. I know he loves me and I do love him but I\\\'m not in love with him. I don\\\'t want to have sex with him anymore, we used to have quite an active sex life but now after sex I don\\\'t have any of the feelings I used to have for him so I don\\\'t have sex with him if I can avoid it. I can\\\'t work out if it\\\'s because I\\\'ve made myself feel this way or if it\\\'s the end of the road? The other thing is I\\\'ve thought about leaving and I have left before but always come back. I hate being on my own

Hi I would suggest that you both seek counseling.... If he wont go well then you go just for you.... Talking about it to professional may help you discover what has happened..... I would also get a hormone check at the doc's it could be a combo... of things contributing to this... Cover the physical and a psychological. Why did you leave? and why did you come back? It is tough out there as a single woman after such a long time with someone.... it is a security .... But that is no good when you are not missed or when you return nothing changes .... he believes that you are the one with the problem and he is doing nothing wrong.... I think you have outgrown each other I am afraid ..... you are missing out on happiness and love..... both of ye are.... You have got to decide what you want.... counseling will help you with that and give you the tools to succeed on your own if it comes to that either way you will move to some place else on this matter.....

If you're not in love with him, then it's time to move on. Your relationship with your husband as you knew it is over. You need to find someone who respects you and someone you deserve. Someone who returns your love and intimacy. You won't find it while you stay where you are. Once you make the right move, and find your feet, you'll never look back.