Unhealthy partnership!

I may blabber on here abit but I have so much to say and just don't know where to start really. My partner and I have been together just over 2 years and we have an 8 month old baby girl. From the start of our relationship there have been problems, I have always been the type of girl that had probably more guy mates than girls (these are guy mates who I have known since the start or school). Anyway my partner since day one had a problem with that didn't like me messaging other guys full stop, so I cut it out. Now and again I would get a message from my guy mates and wouldn't respond and my partner would hit the roof yet it was out of my control I cant stop people from messaging me. Anyone up to present date he has always been paranoid that I am cheating on him, other guys are contacting me. He goes through my phone atleast once a month and checks everything its like my word isnt enough. I said once I need my privacy and he again hit the roof went on about if I want privacy I shouldnt be in a relationship, which is ridiculous. We argue atleast minimum once a week and i mean world war 3 arguments, and everytime we do one of us always ends the relationship, like for instance last night he was going off on one about how we should have seperate beds and all an I said 'well if your not happy then maybe you need to make a decision' and he blew the roof and slept downstairs and ended our relationship. He calls me every name under the sun you can think off, be littles me all the time. Tells me not to say and do things as he doesnt like it, yet he says and does those things also but its ok for him to do them. I do love him with all my heart I just know this is not a healthy relationship and I don't want my daughter around someone that is so angry all the time, and think that is what men are like. I want a happy life not a stressful one, but I want him. I just don't know what I can do to change things or make them better. please help.

Beauty, you can't change someone, especially someone who is the father of your baby. Verbal abuse is abuse full stop. He really needed to know who he was marrying, needed to accept her as she was/is. If he can't and it looks that way, then you both will fight constantly. You're correct when you state that you're child may grow up in a conflicting environment..she's already experiencing it. Your partner needs to mature and quickly, otherwise you will be on your own because the constant fighting will slowly but surely grind you down. You will walk away a very tired soul. You need a stable and happy environment for your child to prosper. Your partner isnt contributing to that now and quite likely, given his controlling nature and evident insecurity he wont in the future.

You are in an abusive relationship and no matter what you do to change him, things will always be the same. Even if he agrees to change, for a while it will seem to be better, then like a trigger pulled some small incident will get the same thing back. My advice, if possible do move on. This will only hurt you and your daughter.