Overthinking or do I have a problem here?

Can anyone help me? Please, I’m feeling so sad right now. Maybe I’m just having a pity party for myself, who knows. Ive been with a guy for five months almost. Used to, we would see each other 4-5 days a week; however, due to our very busy schedules, now we are seeing each other 2-3 at most. I really miss him when we aren’t together. He will message me all the time saying he misses me and loves me, however, I always doubt his love for some reason, especially since he’s been acting a little differently. Maybe you all will say I read too much into things but here goes. Used to, we would Facebook message each other from the moment we get into work to the moment we leave (periodically) … we get our work done too. As soon as I send him a message, he will send me one right back and if I don’t reply, he will go ahead and send another one. Here recently, his responses take longer and sometimes, it will even show that he “read” it but will not respond for 10-15 minutes. Also, a lot of time, when he stops writing me on Facebook, he will still be online for hours. So I wonder if he talks to another girl? But at the same time, he is very free with his phone, and will let me look at it if I want, and even asks me to use his phone to text his friends back when he is driving us somewhere. Also, used to if I responded with “yeah” or “Ok” or “haha” he would keep the conversation going. Now, If I use a one word response, I might as well figure on the conversation being over…for a while at least. We used to send each other love quotes and love memes …. Now he never sends them anymore. Once again, some of you may think this is childish of me, but I’m just telling you how hes changed. Last week we didn’t’ see each other much and he said he hated missing me, it was an awful feeling. I said yeah but distance makes the heart grow fonder =) he said no, it just makes me miss you a whole lot. So does this mean he is not growing fonder of me? Im just confused. I seen him a couple nights ago and we couldn’t really be ourselves and kiss or really talk because one of his family members hung out with us. We didn’t kiss at all on the lips (he kissed me forehead and stuff though.) I asked him why he never kisses me anymore (we haven’t probably the last 2-3 times we seen each other) and he said it’s because I won’t let him look at me so it’s hard to kiss me on the lips (you may remember a previous post about me not wanting to push him away but he loves staring at me but I wont let him….self esteem issues here). I said, “oh, I thought maybe something had changed.” He said, “no, nothing has changed.” He always says that I over think things. My mind is just going into overdrive though. Also Ive noticed instead of saying “I love you” he says “love you” instead now. I just don’t want him to fall out of love with me. The last guy lost interest pretty quick in me because we never had a physical relationship of any sort and I fear the same thing will happen with this one…I know a lot of guys cant handle such a relationship. He has assured me that wont happen….we don’t have to have sex to have fun together and it won’t lessen his affection for me. Ive also thought that maybe were we talk so much during the day, he’s just become bored of me. When I seen him a few days ago, he said things like “I found out about some new trails to hike” and “I found a new place I want us to visit.” So I think he still cares, because he is including me in the future, but I don’t know. I just feel like theres something going on with him. When I ask, all he says is that he’s fine, I think too much. The last time we seen each other, he fell asleep which also made me feel bad. He fell asleep in my lap because he was so tired from the day. I felt bad because we don’t see each other much, I don’t want him sleeping when we do see each other. Another possibility Ive considered is maybe he wants to move in together soon. He wanted to shortly after we started dating and I told him it prob wouldn’t happen…I just don’t believe in it. He will say all the time he misses me and he wishes we didn’t have to miss each other…the only way for that to be possible is if we lived together. He does say a lot he wishes we could spend every day, ever second together. I don’t know what to do. Yes, I overthink but I just have a feeling something is going on with him. Yet, he says theres not. (?) Im just confused. Can anyone help me? I don’t know what to do..

ALSO IT MAY HELP TO KNOW I AM 22, HE IS 23. HOPEFULLY SOMEONE CAN HELP ME...IS HE BORED? DOES HE NOT LOVE ME? AM I JUST OVER THINKING HERE?

Hello, I honestly think you are just over thinking this. I also have a boyfriend, things for us are going well, it's been over a year and a half and at this point we see each other 3 times a week at the most, similar to you. When we first started dating we would be together practically every day. I'm sure you've heard of the 'honeymoon phase' of couples, where you guys are just so excited to be with each other and everything's new, so you spend every waking moment talking and seeing each other. Now you guys still spend quite a bit of time together, and still love each other just as much, and maybe even more, but you guys have just come to the realization that you have other priorities as well as your relationship, like work to think about. My boyfriend and I also miss each other greatly and tell each other this when we meet up again, and like you said I believe this makes the heart grow fonder. When he responded that he just missed you he probably didn't think you would read into it as he is not growing fonder of you. Guys don't catch these little things whereas girls usually overthink them. Honestly, I've heard of relationships where over texting is considered, and the guy says that he doesn't mind the girl texting him so much as long as it's not during work or when he's sleeping. Don't you think he'd like to have some uninterrupted time to be productive? Now he may think differently, but that's how I see it. Somebody not texting or messaging you back within ten or fifteen minutes just means they're busy. You can't expect people to be glued to their computers or phones all day, we all have responsibilities to attend to. Best for both of you to have a few days to yourselves where you can work on yourself and your passions and come back to each other with your undivided attention and new stories to share. Knowing every detail about somebody already during the day through texting means you won't have a lot to talk about in person. Also, I know that my Facebook says I'm online 24/7 if I'm on it on my phone when I'm really doing stuff so that may be the case for him. If he is allowing you to look through his phone, that is a good sign that he has nothing to hide. And you seem to be pushing him away in the case of the kissing thing. I can't find your other post but all in all it seems to be your insecurities that are causing you to read too much into this.You're right, he is including you in his future as well which is another great sign! And he wants to move in with you! Don't let your insecurities ruin what seems to be a great relationship with a sweet guy, he genuinely seems to be, with everything you've said, in love with you and really he's the only one who can tell you for sure. You need to love and be happy with yourself, without needing the love of another, to truly be able to give your all to a relationship. Best of luck.

PSYCHEIRIS - Thank you for your help! I think you are right. I think I am overthinking. Im glad you could relate to me in a way and I enjoyed reading your advice. I tend to overthink everything . Also here is the other post of mine.. http://www.peoplesproblems.org/showtopic/4477/Dont-Want-To-Push-Him-Away-