Cannabis mood swings

Hi my husband and I have been together for 15 years. He has always smoked the strongest weed that you can get. He has periods of abstinence in which he is becoming increasingly violet and scathing towards me. We have 2 boys aged 8 and 9. Earlier this year we split up due to his mood swings and also my reaction to it (ie I don't just lie down and take it I argue back). Also I had a new job and was spending more and more time socialising with work and less time at home because i couldn't stand going home and never knowing what mood he would be in. He decided to leave me in March. I realised my mistakes and spent a lot more time at home and doing housework. I even decorated the house. He liked the change in me and returned home in July. Unfortunately he didn't change, it was only I that had. He still continues to smoke weed. I don't know who he is it is like he is 2 people. The stoned out spaced out addict or the scathing picky man in a permanent bad mood when he doesn't have any. Last November he hit me in front of the children during an argument. That was another reason for the split for me. I thought he had learnt his lesson however yesterday morning he attacked me again, kicking me repeatedly in the back of the leg and causing a massive bruise. I had to go into work and was very upset and shaken all day. He hasn't apologised in fact I have avoided him since. He left me a note this morning saying he is selling our family car to save money. It's like he wants complete control over me. I don't even know how I am going to get to work next week. I don't know what to do. He is a good man and a good father most of the time but these mood swings scare me. He acts like he hates my guts and is still in a bad mood now from his note. Please can anyone give me some advice. It is affecting our children as they know what's going on, kids aren't stupid. I am not saying I am perfect. I give him verbal back as I don't see why I should let him speak to me like that. Perhaps if I didn't he wouldn't hit me but I can't live like that. He has been very snappy and aggressive with the children and I am worried he will start hitting them too. Any advice would be gratefully received. Thank you.

Hi soundslike you are going throught hell, The only thing i think you should do is say to hime if he does'nt give the weed up then there will be on future with him. I know its easier said then done but you cant put the kids through that.you need a better life. Hope that helps

Dear Sazzal, This is terrible domestic abuse. Have you thought about reporting the matter to your local police service. They will have a qualified domestic abuse team who can assist and listen to you. They can also refer you to other agencies. I'm quite sympathetic to you. Your husband will need to address his addiction like the last person said and there is help for him too if he's willing to get it. But most importantly you must put the safety of yourself and children first. Have you got family and friends to support you? Good luck and once again there is assistance out there for both of you.