Should I forget him?

So I'm 28 and my ex boyfriend is 33. We were together for 8 1/2 years and actually really happy. Before Christmas we were looking at houses to buy and it all seemed to be going in the right direction. Then the day before valentines day I found messages in his email from a co worker of his who is 22. They were sexual messages and ones saying she had feelings for him and cared about him. He seemed to just be playing along and never admitted to having feelings. As you can imagine it felt like the air had been sucked out when I read them. I text him telling him not to come home and he called me asking what was wrong. I asked him if there was anything he wanted to tell me about her and he said no they were just friends and that was it so I told him I found the messages. He went on to say that he didn't know how to tell me. It got out of hand and it was just a bit of banter. Anyway I moved out but he begged me to forgive him which I did but said I didn't want to move home straight away as I needed a bit more time. 2 weeks later he calls me and says he wants a clean break from me. He tells me that nothing is going on but one of the people he works with is my friend and she's told me that all they do is flirt and talk all day and it's been happening for months. I just don't understand how he can throw 8 years away for a girl 10 years younger and when we were looking at buying a house. Am I mad for still loving him? Should I just move on and let him get on with it as he's obviously made up his mind even though I think about him all the time? I don't understand what went wrong? He said I was the perfect girlfriend but he just wants to be on his own. Is this just a polite way of saying I want someone else?

As hard as it might sound, I feel its time to move on. He obviously seems distracted from you and has in clear words asked for a breakup. Probably wants to explore the new relation. When you find someone else, past 8 years seem trivial for them. You focus on other aspects of your life. Concentrate more on friends, find a new hobby, join some classes etc. Keep yourself busy and try to put him only at the back of your mind and gradually out of your mind too. If he can throw away 8 years just like that, he can do it anytime even after many more no. of years.

Hi that is true, you want to move forward and buying a house is significant step in a relationship, where he has put a stop to it all,wants out . This girl has probably made him feel confidant more attractive desired, infatuation but we all know that fades right? and she is a rebound right? I think you should move on . Some guys just want an excuse to get out of a relationship this young one has coaxed him out. You are better off without someone like that.