Words hurt me

I was joking with my husband that sex is over with in five minutes with him and he said that I dont have a hot pussy. It hurt me because I have always said this about him as a joke but I think he means it about what he said to me. We have been married 18 years together 22. Im mostly the one who always says about having sex not him and I like to have it every night or every other if I can. He as came out with other things in the past which have hurt me like once saying, unfortunately he had a picture of me in his wallet when I asked if ge had a photo of me. I took the photo out of his wallet after that as I thought why should he have it after saying that. Also we were once staying away and I was joking about him having a fancy woman and im convinced he said he wished he had one which he denies saying. I have always told him that id rather he tell he tell had someone else and I would divorce him but he says he only ever wants me. I dont know what to believe. I feel he is like my father pulling me down but he denies he is anything like him but im not do sure anymore. I told him I wont he pulled down by anyone

It seems like the jokes are less about sex and more about hurtful barbs, some deeper anxiety in the relationship, residual father issues or otherwise. Good sex, a good relationship is about equal responsibility to know your own intentions as well as authentic communication which can be difficult on your own if you've known each other for so long. Possibly the both of you should think about seeing a counselor for a communication 'tune up'.