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Should I reveal my feelings?

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first off, thank you all for taking your time to read and provide aadvice on my problem, it means alot to me and i appreciate it very much. this guy and i rekindled after a year, we had known each other for about four months before but he was dating someone at the time so even though i had a crush on him, i left it platonic and moved on in a way. due to some other issues i changed my cell number and i ended up not hearing from him for about 4 months and then early this spring in the beginning of february he found me on social media, we exchanged numbers and the connection was still there and we picked up being friends exactly where we left off. we began by being really good friends, due to the fact we already knew each other there was no getting to know the other part, it was just deep and friendly, if not stronger bond than ever. i have been talking to him as in on the phone, texting and meeting up with him quite often to just hang out and go out and do stuff since february till now, and we have continuously texted, missing maybe a day or two here and there nearly everyday for about 4 months. we hooked up twice,(no sex) as im still a virgin and didnt want to just give it up, and we have gotten closer after, however he hasnt tried anything for a month and a half now. the last time we got together a predominant aamount of time was spent cuddling and talking and just kissing slowly. hes brought up what we are as just friends who have a physical attraction, and "i really like spending time with you, i dont want every time we hang out to be about hooking up" kind of friendship, without me asking him at all, if anything he brings up relationship talk more than i do. now i reaalized i have feelings for him, where i do like him but im really shy about showing it and act sorta like a bro, hoping he gets the hint. i dont think he has and now its making me question should i reveal them or not, cause i dont want to lose him as a friend and someone to talk to. hes talked about me to his friends, ive met some, he introduced me to his mom and sister, and his dad already knows me, hes met my friends as well, and my younger brother, and we go out and do stuff sometimes just hanging with each other studying till 2 am in the library. hes paid for me often when we go out with me and my friends or just as dinner, but i usually try and split it considering he mentioned we are just friends. he always returns my calls if not picks up when i call him the first time, or leaves the bar or something just to talk to me for a bit, and has openly asked so when are we hanging out, and always lets me know when hes out and who hes with without me asking him at all. etc etc. i dont see why he hasnt tried to kiss me again tho and im confused. we dont really flirt openly during text but we talk about everything and he apologizes if he forgot to text back or there was a delay in response.

Should I reveal my feelings?

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Hi you need to talk to him and clarify what both of you are...... A couple or friends ? If you cannot remain friends with him because of your feelings then move on. But it seems that you have already crossed the boundary into being physical. You need clarity on this ,the only way is to ask him out straight.

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