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I met a married man years ago and fell deeply in love with him. I have seen a few guys since but I always feel awful and it never lasts. Last summer I met his son on a dating site. He is so like his father and I felt so happy with him. I can't stop thinking about him. He's the only other man I have felt good with for so many years. He said he didn't want to pursue things with me as he is also a bit older than me. I am just wondering whether to text him to tell him how I feel but I am so scared of losing everything.

Hi I think it would be crossing a boundary dating his son. You do not care for him at all he would get hurt if he found out, both would in fact his dad too. Not to mention his wife,finding out a women wreaking her family, first her husband and now her son. Let it go, and find someone your age, preferably in the real world.

I know you are right. I just can't find a way to move on I have tried for years. I feel like he is the love of my life. I have seen other guys but it always ends up being a disaster and I don't want to hurt anyone else. I feel so lonely I have been on my own for years. All I ever think about is him no matter how much I try to distract myself

Hi what were you when you met him first? I have a feeling you were young to make an impression like this? Maybe I am wrong. I am going to ask you something now. Have you ever had couselling? I think it is very important that you address this. speaking to his son may have brought some feelings back to the surface again and has created or reinforced an obsession in you. Whatever power he has taken away from you years ago,take it back it is yours. He was married when he met you,that is probably why you felt so strong because you were second best, it was not equal, you lost a part of you take it back. What do you want for your future? He is somebody from the past,leave him there and live for gods sake. Met someone available and new,you deserve to be happy and not second best,or fed lies, so you don't know who you are anymore. You were worth more, and you will experience more when you look ahead,step forward, let the hurt of the past go, you are not bounded by it or by anyone. I do think some counseling will help you to focus on moving out of this pain, because you have to face it head on. Distractions will not work, sometimes they make it bigger. Moving on is hard. Moving on is painful,scary but letting another few years go by of your life and you still STUCK on this person is a tragedy. He will not return.

Hi I was 17 when I met him. I still see him quite often. It has been 13 years I have tried to move on lots of times but I know I could never leave him. It was just when I met his son I felt so happy something I had never felt with another man before.