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I cannot understand his behaviour and I do not know if he has feelings for me

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, I am having this problem. Maybe you can help me see more clearly. I am feeling confused and kind of depressed. Six months ago, I got seperated from my boyfriend who I lived with for almost 10 years. A month later after the separation, I entered to work to an airline company. Recently being two weeks in the company, I met a new co pilot, Denis. He was very quiet and observative and when we looked at each other for the first time, he had a strange look and expression. He lives in another city, the airline base is located in La Paz. Well, nothing happened for a couple of months until one day I was in the office with my supervisor and Denis was sitting and hearing music. I don`t really remember how our conversation started but we started talking in English. He was surprised and we got along pretty well. He even passed me his phone so I could jot down my phone number. In an instant he started sending me whatsapp messages. We kept on messaging and I told him that I practice rhythmic gymnastics and I sent him some pictures of myself when I was younger. Suddenly one day he insisted seeing me and I put him a bunch of excuses. After a few days I accepted his invitation. We met close to the gym where I train rhythmic gymnastics. He was staying overnight to visit his parents. We strolled a little and talked until we reached a park close to the area. We stood beside a door and talked. I was getting desperate. He suddenly held my arms and looked at my body. He said that he liked my figure. He hugged me and suddenly felt his lips with mine. I was shocked and surprised. I told him that I need to go home. I stopped a taxi and he said that he wanted to take me home safe. We both got into the taxi and he left me at my door. Nothing else happened that day. After a few days he arrived again and invited me over to this place where we heard music . After the date, it started raining hard and we both got wet. We got into a taxi and then he asked if I could borrow him a towel. I was so nervous because that meant that he wanted to go into my dorm. I had no choice. It was 2 in the morning and he was wet and cold. I was so embarrassed. My room was not in optimum conditions. I never thought in taking someone in. Well we were in and he dried himself. I told him that I was going to call a taxi for him and for his good luck there were no taxis and the street was empty. After a few minutes, I felt his hands all over me. I was nervous and my heart was accelerating. After all, he stayed over. I told him not to mention to anyone about what happened between us. He got up at 730 and I dispatched him. I got to travel with him in cabin everytime I had to go dispatch. The pilot even use to bug him with me and use to tell him to dedicate a landing for me. He use to buy me some stuff and he was a gentleman. But it was a weird relationship because we treated each other as if we were strangers at work. My co worker, George mentioned me that everytime when he dispatched Denis, he always ask for me. George noticed that he had a crush on me. He even noticed the way how he looked at me. Denis left to Canada to do his refreshment course and he called me from there. It was the first time I received a long distance call from a man. I was so so so happy!!!! When he came back we got together and I told him that I missed him and he told me that he missed me too. Our encounters were like that, very passionate until a month ago. I felt him pretty far. I felt him different. I really miss him. We don`t see each other very consecutively. Two weeks ago we flew to a city and landed. The aircraft had a maintenance problem and we had to stay until the problem resolves. The crew and I went out for lunch to the city and he paid for my lunch because I didn`t take my wallet. He paid for my transportation and even borrowed me his jacket because I was cold and had fever. We ended up staying overnight at a hotel because the maintenance problem was not resolved. My room was upstairs and his was down. I was stupid and called to his room and did not responded. I called to his cell phone and it was off. The captain called each one of us to see if we were in and to remind us that the transportation was going to pick us up at 445 am. The captain tried to comunicate with him and said that his phone was off. The next day in the morning, the captain,me and the flight attentands were the first ones to be in the lobby. He appeared after. Well, after all, we flew back to my city and they continued to theirs. I went back home and took a shower and rested and went back to the airport to fly again. I flew with Denis again and he didn`t say anything. I felt devastated and depressed. After dropping me off again, I went back to my office and a few mnutes later he appeared and left a bag with shoes that were forgotten in the airplane. He looked at me and told me to take care. After a week Denis called me, but I missed his call. I called him back. We talked normally and he said he wanted to know how I was doing. Suddenly he stopped answering my calls and stopped replying to my messages. One night I waited for his plane to land so I could ask him for the fuel remain and the arrival time. I walked into the cabin and I dryly asked him for the information and I went down. I ignored him in the bus when he and the crew were in there. I felt upset. We didn`t even say goodbye. I felt guilty afterwards and sent him a message saying that I was sorry that I couldn`t talk to him. And he replied to me at 2307 pm saying: ]I AM VERY SORRY FOR MY BEHAVIOR. I DON`T FEEL WELL LATELY. I NEED SOMETIME TO RETHINK MY PURPOSE. WE`LL TALK LATER. After a day, I replied to his message that probably made him very upset. I said: REPLYING TO YESTERDAY`S MESSAGE, I HOPE YOU FIND RELEIF AND YOU MAY THINK ALL THE TIME YOU WANT.I CANNOT JUDGE YOU FOR I AM UNSURE AND I DO NOT KNOW WHAT IS IN YOUR MIND. I AM UNKNOWN TO YOUR CAPACITY TO DISCERN AND PERCEIVE CERTAIN SITUATIONS. PERHAPS YOU ARE GOING THROUGH SOME CONFLICTS. SORRY. Maybe that made him upset. After two weeks, he called me and we talked again. After a few days I called him and he was staying overnight. We had another passionate encounter again. Now, my co-worker George flew with him in cabin a week ago. George talked with the captain and suddenly the captain asked him if I was going out with him!!!! with George!!!! George said that it was not true and that he had his girlfriend. George noticed that Denis had an upset facial expression and that he was very serious. George got kind of nervous and didn`t want to fly back in the cabin but the captain insisted on him. George asked Denis for the fuel remain and arrival time, he really responded him in a very dry tone that really surprised him. That same afternoon I awaited for their arrival and I saw Denis going down the plane. He was walking on by and he turned around and walked back to say hi to me. I asked George how his flight was and he told me everything. He said that Denis seemed upset. I called Denis that night and he had his phone off. I couldn`t stand my nerves. I cried and got emotional. Four days later I flew with Denis and he was serious. He turned around once to look at me. He observed me and I got nervous. AFter that, he was quiet. I have never seen him like that. We flew back and I dispatched him to La Paz. A few days later he flew to my city and I dispatched him and I was totally not in a mood. Denis looked at me and I looked at him very seriously. He smiled at me and I did not even paid attention to him. He asked me if I was ok and I just ignored him. I was not in a mood and I felt tired and confused. After they left I had to fly to Tarija and the captain who I was flying with surprised me with this: Hey...Denis says hi to you. What do you want to say to him? I asked the captain how he spoke to him and he told me that Denis asked for me by frecuency. I didn`t know if to be happy or confused. I don`t know how to act. I am very very confused. It seems that he ignores me but at the same time he doesn`t. What can I do?? I wanted to talk to him. Should I? I don`t know if he really is interested on me. I don`t know if he felt jealous when the captain asked my co worker if he was going out with me. I don`t know if Denis is hiding his feelings or probably he is unsecure....

I cannot understand his behaviour and I do not know if he has feelings for me

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I think a lot of the time women do a lot of guessing. Does he like me does he not. Is he jealous? Does he need more time? The only person who has those answers is him, Dennis. You should pin him down and ask him some serious questions. I know a lot of the time women want to wait, not rush, not push. And a lot of the time the man is waiting for the woman to take action. So if both are waiting for the other then nothing happens. I suggest you pin him down and ask him what the deal is.

I cannot understand his behaviour and I do not know if he has feelings for me

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thank you both for your feedbacks

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