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Happily married, but my husband has changed

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I met the man who is now my husband through a dating site. One of the first things that attracted me to him was his interest in dominance and submission. Throughout the time that we dated (a little over one year) and were engaged (another year), we enjoyed it, and we began to love and be attracted to each other for other reasons, too. We got married a few months ago, and about the time we got married, he converted from atheism to Christianity. Generally, I am very happy with this change, since that's what I believe too. However, his new religious views and perhaps other changes have caused him to stop wanting to be dominant in bed. We have perfectly fine and satisfying "vanilla" sex now, but I keep wanting the kind we used to have. I finally brought up the subject yesterday, and we ended up arguing. He just doesn't think it's a good idea to have dominant/submissive sex anymore, and will not change his mind. I don't know what to do. Should I just try to forget about d/s, since the normal sex we have is good anyway? Should I try to convince him to change his mind? I am unwilling to try to get d/s from somewhere else- I am unwilling to see anyone else, and porn doesn't interest me at all. What should I do?

Happily married, but my husband has changed

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Hello... These sort of issues are never easy to solve.. and must be a approached softly.. you say he has changed... maybe he hasnt maybe this is the way he is in this situation...if i were in your shoes i wouldn't try to convince him as that would only raise arguments and move the argument to other issues that are irrelevant to the original topic. the best thing to do is hold it as a conversation.. and do not pressurise him into doing what he doesnt what.. put your self in his shoes.. how would you react to it.. give him time and he might come to understand your request and adopt to your wantings aswell as his.. marriage is something people should work on together in all aspects to maintain..so dont let such a small issue effect the bond and raise bigger issues that are not needed..Mr A x

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