What are some for me to ask someone on a date if I have social anxiety?

I consider myself to be a loving and caring person, but because of my social anxiety, I don’t think I could handle the emotional stress of being in a relationship. I also have a very hard time showing my personality in front of strangers. It’s been something I’ve been trying to improve for years, but with no luck. It feels like I'm in a rut. I’m also short and awkward looking, so I’m in a lose-lose situation. Any advice?