Confused over recent break up - please advise
HOST14 - Aug 15 2014 at 02:50
Hi there, my gf and I recently split as she had a hard time with work, her friends and her housing situation. I supported her all the way giving her my advice and encouraging her to change jobs and house and to speak to her closest friend who she felt had no time for her. All a lot to bear for her over the last few months and it too it's toll on us and we weren't sleeping together as much which itself led her to believe we weren't as close and we drifted apart. Now I have to say that when I found myself always having to comfort or reassure her that wasn't exactly setting the mood for sex. Bottom line we get on like a house on fire and we do love each other but she said she needs to address herself first before she can give me and us what I deserve. I told her I love her and want to be with her and unless she could say the same to me then we can't go on Like this. I have her a passionate kiss before I left and we broke up. A few days later after no contact aside from texts that night we broke up. She texted and called me several times on the wed night and the thurs morn and we spoke as I answered her third call. She'd been upset on the wed and thought I'd blocked her on Facebook when I'd only deactivated my account. The thurs night she had been out with work as had I but I woke fri morning to a few missed calls and texts again asking me to call her. I did and she was upset saying she was upset and thinking of me when she was out and when she got home. I'd said on the wed when we spoke that maybe we could meet on the sat for a coffee which she said she would. I was thinking this would give her time to think about her and us. Then we happened to speak on the Friday morning and I said I'd love to meet if it meant we'd something to work with given she knows how I feel and how I can't keep being contacted by her for no reason. Anyway back to the Friday, she texted later that night saying if I didn't see the point in meeting then we wouldn't, she said she makes mistakes and that's who she is, things get complicated in her life and she messes things up and she could never be the gf I deserve owing to her track record. I dismissed all that and said I knew who she and we were but it was out of my control now. She replied saying personally she needs to see what in her life has been making her unhappy and question things, not only us. She said were entitled to see others and she couldn't expect me. To wait for her etc and if we're meant to be we'll be back stronger. I love this girl, I never pressurised her. We've bother been badly hurt in the past and we respect each other and had a great relationship till work, friends and living situations took over us. I'm 35 and she is 31, there's been no contact for 6 days, we're friends in FB still but I don't know how to read it. Is she confused? Am I simply blind to the fact that she may be using all this as a cop out? I don't believe there is anyone else owing to her calls and texts last week. Any advice or opinion is welcome as I'm hurting badly right now. Thanks in advance