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Is letting go the right thing to do? Or is that me just giving up

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So ive been in a relationship for 1yr and 6months.of course like any other relationship it was soo perfect in the beggining.but as time went by i got him multipe times in lies. The first was him messaging a girl on fb the old fashioned flirting it hurted so bad but i found a way to forgive him.this is when we were About 4 months into out relationship.i ended up trusting him again and it ended up biting me in the but because he ended up physically cheating on me with someone esle no we're 6months with eachother i eneded up forgiving him for that. It wasnt easy but i did. Trying to make this long story short and simple he cheated on me with her twice yet im still with him which sounds crazy..there has been so many times where i told him i was done with him but seeing the look on his face him crying getting on his knees begging me to not go keeps me from leaving him. All the good memories and all the places we been all that going through my head nd makes it impossible for me to let go. This is the longest relationship ive been in ive ractially went to bed and woke up next to him every sinle day we've been togehter and to have what im so used to be tooken away hurts.. Idk what to do please someone shine some light towards my direction

Is letting go the right thing to do? Or is that me just giving up

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Trust is the easiest thing lose and the hardest thing to get back. As much as it hurts, he violated your trust. We often get into routine and get content. The fact that you are concerned about this and bummed out just shows me that you know you are better than this relationship and as much as it sucks, it's time to end it and move on. It is okay to keep the good memories. I still laugh about things from old relationships, but I know that they were not right for me. It may take you a while to move on and my goodness, it hurts so much at first, but you have to do what is right for you. You will feel better and be more confident in the long run. Hope this helps you out!

Is letting go the right thing to do? Or is that me just giving up

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I always hear people say "is the relationship/he worth it?" Like how in the world do you know if it is..i always think well yea i love him hes hurt me but i care so much for him..is that enough?

Is letting go the right thing to do? Or is that me just giving up

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You can love and care for someone but it doesn't mean that they are necessarily worth staying in a relationship with. You will know in your heart if someone is worth it or not. If they are not willing to change or rectify the situation, then I would say it's not enough. But cheating with me has always been a deal breaker because it will always be on the back of your mind even if things get better in time.

Is letting go the right thing to do? Or is that me just giving up

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Thank you! You really help alot its tough to hear but i know its the truth i just dont know how to actually say enough is enough

Is letting go the right thing to do? Or is that me just giving up

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While he cheats and you forgive him, he'll keep on cheating. If he thought your relationship was good enough and worth developing than he wouldn't go elsewhere. He needs to realize that he can't have you and then somebody when he feels like it and you need to realize that you basically enable it while you forgive him no matter how hard it is to do it. You lose another piece of your heart every time you forgive him. At the end of the day, you shouldn't have to do it...it's that simple. You deserve someone who respects you and has respect for himself; someone who will put you on a pedestal.

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