NADA, no foreplay!

I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now, and still deeply in love with him. I know he loves me just as much! We have a little baby boy, and we are happy (other than normal disagreements and small arguments that are prone to happen). But when it comes to our sex life? There seems to be nothing but "him" involved. I want to have sex, I want to please him and to please myself, but he treats it as if it is nothing but a stress relief for him. I normally have to lie about having an orgasim, if I don't he feels guilty and it tears my heart up. But I have to constantly request foreplay, it's as if I'm asking for a organ transplant, which I may be quicker to get! He wants me, sexual and emotionally, it's not like he treats me like a robot, but he does get upset with me when I can't just get wet for him. A females body needs arousal, a man's junk just seems to pop up when requested... I want to have a good healthy sex life with him. I love his body, he is sexy all the time, he turns me on. But he doesn't want anything to do with foreplay and it's making me upset. He acts like I don't want him, though I always do. This is ridiculous and it drives me insane! He will go down on me with no problem, but won't have anything to do with foreplay and a little fun. What do you think i should do? How do I get through to him?

As with all relationships, you need a combination of factors for them to thrive. Your relationship lacks communication on your behalf and lack of respect on his which is the result of his ignorance. Your post portrays a very good relationship and you simply need to communicate your needs to him because if he truly loves you he will respond to you. If he feels guilty that you don't orgasm, then teach him how to satisfy you completely. When you achieve this, you will be bonding together stronger because you will be sharing and solving a relationship issue...together.

1. Did he used to give you more foreplay? 2. Did you or the midwife warn him about post-natally abstaining and then being penetratively careful (which he's interpreted as meaning, quick in and out) as allowed him to get into this new attidinal habit? 3. Are the niggles over the new baby's care? 4. Is he feeling stressed and tired about work and earning enough now that he has greater responsibility? 5. Does he tend to play ball when other non-sex related issues demand discussion? 6. Does he see the baby as your new ball-and-chain and that he's now got you where he wants you thus doesn't have to try half as hard as before to woo/impress? Or have you been sliding into a "hand that rocks the cradle" attitude?