Possessiveness

Okay now you've beem chatting with someone, have got close and now a couple or not, you've incubated all this time a feeling of possessiveness with questions like 'Why is she talking to that scoundrel (suddenly a good friend becomes a scoundrel)?' clogging your head. And then you doubt your calibre and your qualifications that actually made the relationship fit for the other person. And more often than not, you don't jump over the wall of your ego and express yourself. This person needs ways to methodically handle the feeling well. Someone please complete the story with suggestions and solutions.

Now a couple or not is too vague for proper context and frames of reference, sorry. Are you a couple or aren't you?

We were a couple for 2 days and then we chose to break up happily because the relationship thing did not suit us, I suppose. We are still very good friends like we used to be earlier. But a LOVE still exists. And I know it is reciprocated. But why on earth this possessiveness?

Why it did not suit is hard to describe. Probably, the fun element went missing a day after we entered into. It's really vague. I was the one who called it off and she reciprocated similarly when I told her that, That she too was having a suffocated feeling being in it. But we have been in close contact everyday since and she has even told me once that she needed attention from me. I don't know where this bond is heading to. But I need to find ways to deal with the possessiveness that sits on my head.

Sounds to me like you two are too chemically compatible and that if you allow yourselves to get close enough for it to spark, neither of you can take it (too intense and heavy = "soffocating"), so back you both step for some air. With nowhere for that unspent energy to go, thereby becoming negative energy, it's expressing as jealousy through you using the attention/potential attention of other men as your mere excuse to discharge it through... particularly as you haven't even made up your mind yet not to be her boyfriend. I don't know how she's discharging her own now-negative energy, but it's pretty damn obvious that you two are still circling each other warily. It's called, get having a damn good sh*g over with already. LOL