Should I move on?

Over 5 years ago I met up with my daughter's friend and her dad for playdates. It was fun for the kids and he was so easy to talk to. He told me he had recently separated from his wife and that they were getting a divorce. After a few play dates I noticed that he was checking me out when he got the chance. I knew to put the barriers up, never flirted with him (I'm married) because of him rebounding. However, I also found that I had developed feelings for him too. I kept as much distance between because I didn't want to develop more feelings. Eventually, he went back to his wife. Still, over the years, he has found ways to keep in contact with me and then started hanging out with my husband. One day, we were at a restaurant with him and his family and he was smiling and looking at me. I found myself wrapped up in his gaze - I've never felt that way before and it scared me. After that, I stopped all contact with him and made excuses not to be where he was. This past weekend was the first time I saw him in a long time and all those feelings I'd bottled up came pouring out again. I could tell that he wanted to hang out with me and be with me and it hurts because, if I am honest, I want to spend time with him. I feel like I need to move on one way or the other. Do I just stay away from him and or do we confront the feelings we have for each other?

I believe that given your situation, you're not really in love with this person just yet, but that he might be a good match for your lovemap and that's why you feel a strong sense of attraction towards him. Tell me, do you still love your husband? Are you willing to risk your relationship with him and your family to spend a little bit of time with this guy? You need to make a decision here on whether you want to risk it all for this guy or if you want to maintain the status quo. Now if you want to maintain the status quo, then I would suggest analyzing things from a down-to-Earth perspective. Just how good is this guy? Put it all on a piece of paper. Write down his pros and cons (including the cons of getting together with him). Once you've done this, take a good long look at the things that you have written down and then see if that helps you decide on what action to take any better.

the question that you need to ask is Is it worth giving that man that type of attention putting your own family that you created with your husband at risk for the sake of ones self happiness? & is it cause you havent had that secretive type of feelings in a very long time with a guy where yous flirt with yours eyes n no one knows but the pair of yous? (I can imagine how interesting it can be, but a risk at the same time) put it this way for a man to claim to be seperated & having a divorce then all of a sudden a miracle happened where they end up back together, don't you think he was talking alot of crap just have that affair with you???? you really should be careful, you dont want to take that risk & get busted and lose everyone you love all because of that one guy. And it also doesnt mean to give your husband a sour vibe (if you are) cause that means your just trying to find faults so you can persue a relationship with that guy knowing that your husband is unaware of all this.