Overthinking, insecurities or is this feeling right?

First of all I would like to give you a bit of a background into who I am and than go from there. I'm a 22 year old university graduate. I have recieved my nursing license as of recently and am currently working as Personal support worker while job hunting for a registered nurse. I come from a very large family who I woud like to explain as "nuclear" or "old school". The woman cook clean stay home with the kids and the men work hard to bring home the $. My family do not have friends outside of the family and tend to celebrate and get together quite often as friends and family would do. For the last two years I've had plenty of boyfriends and have dated many men. I have found it extremely difficult to keep a relationship past two weeks. For the most part it seems to be my morals and ideas of relationships vs. new generation expectations. I agree with the way I was like raised; however, it is in my personality to be open to exploring and trying new things. I've experimented with open relationships, I've experimented with women as well. After, I did realize that even though it's fun and I do enjoy all the experimenting when it comes down to it I would rather that good old fashion old school love. So here's the current issue, I have found a man who wants everything I want in a relationship. He's old fashioned and very family oriented born in new found land. It has only been a month but we are spending a lot of time together and having lots of fun and meaningful memories. The only issue is what I like to call a me issue. I jealous. I've grown up in a family where family were our friends. Anyways, here it is. My new boyfriend does not have very many friends he has two friends that happen to be girls. I'm okay and do not feel insecure about the one girl but the other is a girl he use to have a sexual relationship with. He has been honest and up front about everything since day one and has told me I have nothing to worry about. I was okay until three days ago when her and her new bf broke up. And now she seems to be calling everyday. My boyfriend talks to her strictly about her issues as he works with her bf and she calls to ask about whether or not he said anything and things along those lines. She invites us out and for the most part we already have plans but tonight I get to actually meet her for the first time and I'm afraid of how it will go as I'm not sure how comfortable I am with him even talking to her but I know that's unfair of me. He doesn't know the depth of my jealousy the only thing that I have done is ask about her and whether or not I should be worried. He treats me very well and has a good job and his own place, he sends me cute messages and gives me back rubs. Tells me I'm Beautiful and is very comforting to be around as well. Always has a way to make me feel giddy and happy even when issues arise with my family or if I had a stressful day at work. I just want to know if my family perspective is influenced by my family's old school ways and if there is a way for me to push their past behind and befriend her and not feel so anxious when she calls. I don't know what's wrong with me, usually when things like this happen I run, hence why I cannot keep a relationship longer than 2 weeks. But with him, I don't want to run. I love how giddy and cute he gets around me. Makes me feel secure that he is actually serious about me.

Ovedk, if he makes you feel secure this is the perfect time to get used to opening up to a guy about how you really feel. He may know you have nothing to worry about and so not think that there is a problem. Its all about trusting him, trusting he won't cheat and trusting him with your insecurity. Explain that its not his behaviour but that you care about him so much and you don't want to lose him. Make sure its about your feelings and that you're not asking him to lose friends, theres a difference between vulnerable and needy! Jealousy is something that comes oh so naturally but you have to get your relationship strong enough to decide to trust him and repeat the positives to yourself when you feel jealous. Once you've met her you should be able to see from their body language what they think of each other and youve heard them talking. As long as there are no pet names or comments you are uncomfortable with you should be fine.