Adoption advice

First off, I'm 41 and take seizure medication so my pregnancy days are behind me. However I would absolutely love to have another baby and so would my husband. My kids are 15 and 6, my husband missed just about all their important "firsts", first steps, first birthdays, first everything due to being in the military. He is retired from the military now, has a very good job, we have a new house and we would be in a wonderful position to have another baby, but I doubt an adoption agency would consider us with my seizure history. Which brings me to my question. I know someone through a friend who is in a mess. She is married, has a 3 year old and her husband is divorcing her, she is about 4 months pregnant by someone else. She has been kicked out of her house, her parents don't want her and she is living with a friend, but only for a short while. She has no job and lives on the little money her husband gives her. She was going to have an abortion until my friend talked her out of it. Do you think it would be out of line to ask her if she would consider adoption? I'm the type of person who usually isn't this forward, I'm not even sure how to approach her. Should I have my friend (who she is staying with for now) feel her out about it? Or should I be more straight forward?

Wow! That's a hard one. Maybe you should talk to your husband first and see what he says and then talk to the friend who knows her to see if she would be willing to discuss it. You never know unless you try.

My husband has already said he is willing. We just aren't sure how to go about this or if we even should. We had talked about offering her our spare bedroom, but decided that wouldn't be a good idea, we could think of to many problems that would come from that arrangement.