The stranded man!

Ok so here is my situation my girlfriend and I have our moments we have both hurt each other and made each other mad just like any couple do throughout time and almost always it is never on purpose. We need to start seeing eye to eye a little better on something’s in my opinion but ultimately I think we do ok compared to past relationships I have had and have witnessed others having. Sometimes its awesome and when its good its great sometimes it blows and makes us both really unhappy. The reason for putting this up is that I want to get advice from outside our circle of friend and family and see what other people’s opinions are and most importantly advice from people we don’t know that might have good input. If you cannot look at this and be real with the situation I only ask that you do not respond or comment as I think this can be helpful and I don’t want to make joke out of this. The other day I got a call from a friend asking for help. His neighbor’s computer was screwed up with viruses and he wanted me to help fix it. I work out of the house as a computer repair tech and sometimes have to do in house calls to fix machines already so, I told him my fee and set the appointment. I have an employee that works for me as well he had and a few friends as of late been helping me with transportation as my truck has some serious issues at the moment and repairs are over what my budget can afford. I plan on fixing this soon though. I asked my girl what she was doing that evening and she said going to her moms for dinner and wanted me to go. I responded that I couldn’t as I had a job to go to and told her that I was sorry but money is short so I have to work. Later, her plans got postponed for dinner and she wanted to make new ones. She asked what time I was going to be done and I told her I don’t know it’s up to the machine I would be working on and asked why. She then informed me that her cousin Trisha wanted to go out with her and do something tonight. I said I want to go also but still don’t know what time I would be finished. In the brief conversation about this we spoke of another buddy of mine that wanted to go out with us also and then planned on this: She would take me to the job drop me off then go get her cousin and eat something and when I was finished she would pick me up after I called her sometime that evening around 8-9ish as I was unsure of the exact time. Following the job we would head out somewhere have a drink and head home after a nice night out. Next is the part we have a problem with. Halfway through the job I get a text asking when I will be done I said should be soon. But, I was not really focusing on this as I am working and fighting a crappy computer that’s infected fairly well. About ¾ through it I get a call. It’s my girlfriend. She wants to know what time I will finish I tell her again with customers there in front of me I do not know and that it will be finished soon but I am still working on it, it’s just being difficult. She asks “ok so what time” I tell her again I don’t know. She reply’s I know you don’t know but how long do you think if you had to say a time because where out front. I said once again I have no idea it could be another 15 minutes or it could be as long as another 40. She gets a little huffy and says fine well were here waiting. I said ok and hung up NOW mind you I am a little frustrated with this machine and now a little with her as I felt I made it clear that I don’t have any clue what time I would be done but will call her. Now she has gotten a time frame from me when I was unsure and I now felt pressured to finish quick. ALSO since my customers where right behind and in front of me watching what was going down on there machine as I was explaining what is what, bad, good and ugly they say to me after hanging up if you need to go you can come back tomorrow. I tell them thanks but I may not even be able to finish it here anyhow. I might have to take the hard drive and connect it to another machine to clean and equipment to do so was not there. Another 15-25 minutes go by and eventually I pull the drive. Now felling a little rushed seemed like the best solution and would make everyone happy as was getting late and the customers seemed like early birds so were probably getting tired of looking at me anyhow. I say thanks and setup the next day appt. with them and leave. I walk outside after shaking hands and look around for my girl friend I could not see her car but she said she was there so I try to call her. NO answer. I look around a minute and walk out to the street to get a better view and no sign of her. I look at the time and temperature on my phone and it is about 830 pm and its about 39-41 degrees out. I call her cousin as she is with her and she picks up. I think to myself awesome. I say where are you guys I cant find you guys laughing. She says oh … were up at the bar (about 7 miles down the road). I INSTANTLY get ENRAGED. First I am cold, tired, hungry, need to take a leak and to top it off out of smokes. I instantly say well that is great and hang up on the cousin as I have NOTHING nice to say at this point and don’t want to pick get mad at her as she I felt was not responsible. My girlfriend calls me I am FURIOUS. I felt lied to and let down. I go off what the @#$T% I thought you were here. Why did you lie to me? She starts saying I can come get you now I say screw it Ill walk. I hang up start walking and she calls again telling me there is no reason to be upset she can come right over and be here in 5 minutes. I hang up again I once again have nothing nice to say. Over the next 3-5 minutes it feels like 10-15 as I am mentally blown away as to the reason of why I am walking, she calls a couple more times and I don’t answer. I finally on the 4th or 5th call I pick up. She says I can come get you can stop being mad. I hang up as she is still at the bar and I can hear people in the back round. I am thinking to myself I would have never of done this to her how can she leave me stranded we have been together 6 #$#@ing years. I get a text of her telling me she can come get me and to stop hanging up on her. I reply back f___ you. At this point I feel freezing and walking is the only warmth I am getting. I am headed up to a store any store to just get a pack of smokes and then I will find a ride as I am back in a neighborhood and not sure of the street names to tell people to turn on to get to me. I get about 20 minutes up the road and she calls again saying that she can come get me but needs to either close out her card and or know if I am coming back there with them and will leave it open and that I need to stop being a dick! I hang up again to me just the thought of her at the bar still makes me sad and even more hurt and angry! I finally calm down little ask what the hell is wrong with her and why she did this to me. She gets defensive and states that I said it was going to be 40 minutes and that she can be here in 5 F____ing minutes if I would stop hanging up on her and tell her where I was. FIRST this baffles me if it only would take you 5 minutes then first why was she not there yet? Second if you thought it was going to be 40 minutes EVEN after I said I don’t know to the time about 10 times prior to the non pickup. Why on hell would she OPEN a TAB at a bar? First it takes 10 minutes to drive there roughly with lights and minimal traffic. And that means about 10 back as well there is roughly 15-20 minutes out of the 40 so called I don’t know timeframe. Next it takes about 2-3 minutes to open a tab and get some drinks. This leaves 18-22 minutes to drink that drink close the tab and get out the door to just come pick me back up. Third WHY would you tell someone your there and then not tell them you left? Ok so a HUGE EFFING fight proceeds about her not liking the way I acted and how I am mad because she could care less that she stranded me. In the details my problems listed above and the other obvious ones including a anger issue are pretty well explained. I am shocked and feel let down! She feels like I overreacted and that I am a dick for calling her selfish. Along with this she has admitted afterwards that she didn’t call me and say she was leaving as she felt like I was being a dick and cursed at her when she called and I was in front of my customers “trust me I would never do this as it is highly inappropriate and would make me look like a complete douche in their eyes”. Also she said that she was in no hurry to come get me as I was being an ass and she didn’t leave me stranded that I am overreacting still. Am I just a dick? Or is there really something wrong with this picture? Please respond as to what you think as I am at a loss for words and please be real in your response I need to get a little closure on this as we are both standing our separate ground on it.

Also she did eventually pick me up from safeway. about 38 minutes after i left there home.