18 yo male never had sex.It's becoming a problem I think about it always.
I'm a presentable male,1.85 m 74 KGs and quite clever (IQ=138) I have friends and all this stuff but my love life doesn't seem to be that good... Ok so on years 15-18 I was deeply in love with a girl -nothing happened between us- and I was always thinking about her. for these years I would spend ~2 hours a day (sometimes it was 0 hours,sometimes maybe 5 ) just lying on bed and thinking about her. I didn't have a problem for not having sex. now I'm living on my own in a big city.(I'm a university student) and I've started thinking about it all the time,feeling very bad I've never had sex. of course,I want to do it with someone I find hot. every time I see some stranger that I like on first view I just think "DAMN I HAVE TO GO AND TALK TO HER". However I feel 'afraid' or 'bored'/'unwilling' of talking to stranger girls I like. when I'm in a club I get thoughts like 'her friends will be looking strangely at me ' and other stupid stuff (of course I know it's stupid but that time it discourages me) about the 'bored'/'unwilling' thing : I'm quite a procrastinator with everything I do!-I've wanted to write this post for a month- I always wait for things too long before doing them,simply because I'm bored ! and I always do them right before the deadline,or sometimes after it. I'm afraid that something like this happens to me as far as sex is regarded (lose virginity at age of 30 ).
I've told a girl from my uni (which I don't personaly find very attractive) to study together and she didn't want to. I'm becoming more and more desperate and want useful advice of how to get it done ! I don't want to get in a serious relationship,just the sex ! thanks a lot !
Ok Floyd, I’m gonna be blunt and its gonna be for your benefit so read the entire thing for your sake.
“I didn’t have a problem not having sex.” I’m overjoyed you were fine risking the possibility of getting a young girl pregnant without thinking ahead at all the issues that might bring to her. (sarcasm) “You feel bad you have never had sex?” Really? Are you so simple minded and selfish that all you can see is sex? Chew on that for a bit.
From your post what I see here is a naïve young buck, who wants to learn how to flaunt his feathers that aren’t that impressive and who see’s women as tools for which he can use to his benefit. At the bottom of your post you said. “I've told a girl from my uni (which I don't personaly find very attractive) to study together and she didn't want to.” Can’t say I blame her! I know I sure as hell wouldn’t want too with your kind of attitude. To be frank I find folks with your attitude distasteful.
NOW THAT ALL BEING SAID. The reason I find your attitude to be offensive is because I was once just as naïve and near-sighted as you. I take no offense from YOU the person, but your attitude and current mentality. Your being run solely on emotions and testosterone. Those are going to get you nowhere decent and in the end if you do have a good head on those shoulders, you’ll come to regret it.
Temporarily cast aside this “impulsive need” and look ahead when you meet that one girl who does all the right things and makes you feel right in all the right ways. Would it not be better to reward her love with an alien type of loyalty? Wouldn’t it be incredible to be able to say “I have been loyally waiting for you all these years.” Or however long it takes? Wouldn’t it be better to make your first time unique and with your wife? Do you even believe in that concept of chivalry? Do you have a code of honor? Is it worth it to you to have one? Why? Have you even asked yourself these questions or thought this far ahead?
I also want you know it would have been better to tell you that to your face.
I agree with keekay,woman are not objects. And that's why you can't find anyone.
However, i do understand that you're am 18 y.o. boy with high testosterone and curiosity. My suggestion to you would be rather than consuming your thoughts with how and with whom can i fulfill my sexual desires. Why wouldn't you go to a brothel who are filled with woman who are there for that precise reason. You will finally get it out of your system and maybe then be able to think properly as to how to find a partner rather than a root.