Taking too long to move on

Ok so I was with my ex for 5 1/2 yrs, got a 4 yr old son together, and we were happy (I thought) then out of the blue, a week before Christmas she announces she didn't love me anymore,and that she wanted someone at work, it didn't hit me at first, I thought she was joking, well after a couple of days it hit me, hard, and I begged her to reconsider. when she almost admitted she'd been cheating me for months, it all fell into place, the late nights in from work, the strip of condoms in the washing basket that she made a point of jokingly asking me if I had anything to tell her. I'm finding it impossible to forgive her for how she treated me, and I don't want to live the rest of my life consumed by revenge, but I also feel like I might do something stupid like get her evicted/sacked. It's been four months now, why do I still feel like this? I'm not quite back on my feet yet re accommodation/employment, but I do get to see my son a couple of times a week.

HI Sean,I am very sorry that happened to u.You need to ask ur self why she did what she did? It is no excuse, but it must be a reason she went to someone else. However, she should have been honest with u. I know it hurt a lot. I use time think that males are the bad guys, but u seem different. Just take care of ur child and be happy that she confessed when she did. I promise u will not be hurt forever. Trust me, be thankful that u have one child with her and not more. Take it one day at a time. One day u will find some who wants u. Let her be gone. I know it hurt as hell. We never may understand why some cheat or leave, but u should b strong. One day u will find someone who wants u. Best of luck

Thanks for the quick response, I do ask myself constantly why she did what she did, there is a 9yr age gap, and she did say she was in love with me very early on. I used to be able to talk to women no problem, but it's like she's taken my confidence away. But thank you for the kind words, I will try to focus more on my son (til she tries to take him away to be primarily with her and her new family unit she so hastily set up)