What to do?

Hello everyone. I have a long story that I will try to make short. Ive tried for a long time to handle this on my own and its to the point, I cant and wanted to seek outside advice. There is an individual that I dated years ago. Probably about 18 years ago now. We dated for a total of about 3 years more or less. Were engaged to be married but never set a date. Our families have known each other all of our lives. When things ended, we never had closure. I wouldnt say it was a bad break up, in fact, I dont even know that we said those words. We left things unended if that makes sense. Both of us got married, had children, and well moved on. I wont go into the personal information of our marriages, how they ended or the status, etc. Ill jump to the fact that we reconnected after 17 years. He deployed over seas right after the connection. He kept in contact with me every three weeks and more towards the end. He has returned from over seas and we did get to see each other for the first time in 17/18 years. Both of us were nervous at first but after a few minutes, it was like we never parted. We have the emotional connection, the chemistry is there, hearts race when we even talk to each other and I wont go into detail about physical connection, that has never been a problem for us. All of a sudden, out of the blue, a couple days after he returned to my state (after being back from over seas for a month or two), he became distant. We left our conversation the last time we saw each other as we both have complicated situations. We both love each other, but cant be together at the moment. He said hed call and he would be back soon. I only receive a response from him, if I txt him. He sends a response, a positive one, but doesnt talk much. Now he says he needs to find him before he can be what I want. Im so confused and I dont get it. Im too old for this stuff, but at the same time, I dont think I can let him go again. It took too long the last time to let him go. I told him when we reconnected last year that I wanted to open up to him, but I did not want to get hurt again. I didnt want to lose him again. Our entire year was just simple phone calls and txts to one another. Sometimes those talks were serious and sometimes just a simple hello. I just want a persons opinion that doesnt know either of us. Do I let go or just wait?

Hmm, this is not a simple situation to handle and I can see why it is difficult for you to manage. I must say I admire your patience and perseverance and I appreciate how important he is to you. Based only on what you've shared, I would say just wait. Like you said it is too painful for you to let him go, having him as a part of your life is better than not having him in it at all. As long as you do not shut the door to him while he tries to find whatever it is that he needs to find, there is always a possibility that something will happen. At the very least, you won't lose this important connection in your life. You should know how rare and hard it is to find such connections. If however you wish to have a deeper understanding of how things will turn out and the best thing to do in your situation, please visit my site http://hanofharmony.com. There, I would be happy to discuss your situation in greater detail and do my best to help you achieve your goals.

Dear Cakes This sounds like history repeating itself. Are you sure that this is more than a physical attraction? In my experience hearts racing when you talk to each other is infatuation not grown up love. He seems to have a problem with commitment in your case. I'd leave him alone and see if he gets back. But don't wait by the phone-try to enjoy yourself. I know, easy to say but hard to do-Good luck Rosie?