So confused - husband

I have been in a relationship for 10 years. 2 years ago me & my husband starting saving money for a wedding thinking, we've been together this long, this is it! Over the two years lots of things have happened that have changed my life dramatically, 3 losses that were 3 people I was extremely close to. This has changed me, it has made me realize that I am not happy with my husband, not as much as I know I can be with someone else, or atleast I think. I am extremely confused. I feel like a liar & like shit about feeling this way. My husband is over the top obsessed with me. I love him dearly, he has the sweetest soul & is easy to love. The natural chemistry is not there in this relationship, I do not & never did enjoy kissing him. I am a really nice & down to earth person, very honest person. I just need some advice as to what to do? Should I stay & battle with myself everyday. Or should I tell him we need a break? I am extremely worried if I tell him I need some time. He seems to have no direction or motive if I am not in his life, I feel terrible. I pray for answers. Any advice please!! Thank you!

I think you should not stay in this relationship. You feel that it holds nothing for you. You don't want it anymore. Sometimes when you go through difficult times, you grow and learn new things. You have a different perspective now than you did before, and that is okay to have. I would tell your husband how you feel and talk to him about where you are right now. Tell him that you don't want to hurt him, but it will hurt him more if you two are living a lie. You don't want to hurt him anymore, and staying in a relationship you no longer want will hurt both you and him. If he threatens you or threatens to hurt himself, those are his choices, not yours, so don't let him make you feel responsible for how he takes this. If he truly loves you, he should care about your feelings like you care about his. He may not understand them, but he should respect them. TILES

Yeah, he is a master manipulator with an inoccent act. He has no interests at all, besides being feminine and sleeping at 9pm everyday except when he bowls. Those innocent acts kill people that have a ton of heart. Thanks TILES appreciate it! Really do!

I am in a very similar situation, except it is more confused by the fact we also run a business together. I have been debating what I should do and would love to know what you decided to do and how it has ended up. Did you stay or go? Are you happier now?