Suffering in silence and could sure use a friend!

Hello; and thank you in advance for reading :) I found my way to this forum in hopes to connect with people anywhere in the world for honest friendship. I am 42 years old and a gay man. I am having trouble fining open minded people in real life which is why I'm look towards the internet now. I'm very lonely and really hope to meet guys that I could possibly become good friends with and enjoy/share good times. I'm a kind and sincere friend; and will never turn my back on my friends if they are having a rough day. I can be casual at times; serious and thoughtful other times as well. I'm always understanding and I care deeply for my friends and give my heat and soul. Again, thanks for reading and I hope you will message me, I just hope you won't abandon me without giving me a reason; I don't know that my heart is broken from so much rejection. Take care and be well :)

HI, lets call me Anika for now. I am a very open-minded individual and my best friend was a transgender named Jackie I loved her dearly and she was killed (a hate crime) and the case is still unsolved in NY. I would and am willing to get to know you and befriend you. I like people in general and am myself a little lonely since my partner is a bit reclusive and to theirself.

Thank you, ANIKA - for taking time to respond. To be honest, its a harsh wake-up-call when I am reminded of what the LGBT is going through (enduring) in some areas of the world, let alone right here in the USA where we are supposed to have freedom(s) and rights. To be clear, I did say I have a hard time meeting open minded people, but luckily I've also not run into all that many bigots either in caparison to what others are faced with, I don't socialize that much anymore and pretty much stay isolated from people. I am sorry for the loss of your friend, and to such a horrific and tragic way. Again, thank you for caring, and when I can figure out how, I will get in touch with you, and hopefully we can get to know one another better as it sounds like we both could use a friend right now. I don't see a Private Message window so maybe we have to use the chat room or something.

Well I am 61 and married but have 2 gay sons and 2 straight. If you want a friend we can write. I am on the computer all day and take a lot of breaks.

Thank you so much for your posting. I've been combing through the forum and for the life of me, I can't figure out how to message someone yet Lol :) When I can, I will write to you. I already feel less alone now.

I'm sorry, if possible, could somebody kindly explain how to send or reply to a message here? I don't see where the message center is here other than the open forum. Again, I'm new here and learning as I go to understand how this site works. Thank you...

Until someone has a better idea you can talk to us by posting on this site. The notice goes directly to my email- just write it is for me-Alice I am not allowed to give my full name or gmail I think. You might ask the site manager what can be done and tell me. Maybe I can give this to you on the chat site.

Hi Alice :) Yeah, I don't think we can give out our email on here or full name. Don't want to get us in trouble. I get nervous sometimes I guess. OK I will try the chat side when I can and my email is for anybody at all. I thought this was like anxiety forum (I'm new there too); If you are also a member there, you could send me a PM - I have the same screen name. I'd even give my phone number to talk to someone I'm so painfully lonely, but first-things-first. I suppose I should take things a bit slower and try to help out others for now.

If anybody is looking for a good friend, please don't hesitate to let me know, I will talk to you about anything you want, and I will never judge you for anything. Please let know I'm not all alone, I really care about you and will never hurt you or abandon you. Again, I will gladly listen to you what you are going through and you can really trust me. I'm so lonely and really would like some new friends. I hope you will allow me to be your friend. Please give me a chance.

Thank you so much, Alice for sharing you site. I want a chance to read it over and educate myself on what you are interested in - It look interesting and I enjoy learning new things. I'll hopefully write you next week and I'm excited to meet you :)

Hey Salvatore, How are you today? I am well and still trying to find a way for us to pm privately (personally) I am very interested in getting to know you and being friends. You seem to be a genuine and caring individual who I'd love to be friends with. Laters...

Hi All, Please note that a private messaging service isn't available on this site, and the forum exists to support the anonymous discussion of problems. Feel free to continue your discussion, but recognise that this forum is not the place for making friends / pen-pals / dating or sharing personal contact details such as e-mail addresses, phone numbers, mail addresses, social media profiles. There are many other websites offering services that facilitate the building of new connections. Failure to constrain the thread to the above guidance will result in it being closed / removed by the moderator team. Thanks in advance for your co-operation.

My apologies to the staff, I understand now and will follow the guidelines in the future by helping out by being a supportive member of the community. No worries, Anika, hopefully we will chat sometime in the chat section :)

I Tried the chat room here only to be totally ignored like I'm not there. Obviously this place is not meant for me. Bye!

Don't be sad. There are a lot of other sites.

Thank you Alice. I think I overreacted because I really needed to chat with people tonight, but its ok, I realize the forum in not (directly) connect to the IRC Chat and maybe I gave up to easily. I'm not really having much luck on the other site I'm on either, so it makes me wonder what is wrong with me. I have a hard time connecting with people now and I really give my all. I'm a great friend, I never turn my back on people, never make people feel bad, and I've been known to stay up all night long if somebody needs me. I'm alright though and thank you for the reply.

Salvator, one can chat about ones problems and make *virtual* board-wide friendships (that continue for as long as liked), but only as a SIDE bonus to the ongoing main business, i.e. only if said problems aren't just a cover for a truer agenda of trying to make friendships specifically to take into 'the real world', or, worse, attempting (albeit, not in your case) to solicit lovers from a place where currently vulnerable people with affected judgement and not all normal self-protectiveness cylinders firing logically, tend to amass. Operative word - soliciting. Richard (myself too) was just concerned about where the conversation MIGHT head if you and all respondents weren't made aware of this tacit rule of forum conduct for the purposes of visitor/member protection, because we've seen that situation develop too many times before. It's just a preventative notice, not a chastisement. Does that help explain it better? As Richard said, please do continue. "!!!"/Alice, what is unquestionably clear-cut unacceptable, I'm afraid, is any forum or blog owner attempting to persuade visitors away from this one and to their own. It counts as soliciting, specifically, visitor-poaching. So that's why that particular post of yours got deleted, sorry about that. But, again, please feel free to continue chatting otherwise.