Will she leave me?

Hi all, my fiance and I were having a rocky relationship for the last two years. She was really lovable to me and our kids. But suddenly she asked me for a breakup and left home with her belongings at the end of December. I was totally down and confused, but she came back after one week and asked me genuinely sorry for being a “stupid girl”. I felt much happiness as I was thinking that she couldn’t leave me ever. She has loved me like never before throughout the month of January.

But I discovered that a couple of exes had reached out to her by texts and she used to delete all the texts unlike before, which made me more doubtful. She again started to make arguments with me which obviously turned into fights. I explained to her that I was feeling down and insecure due to our fight and needed to repair and we had fixed a date night. She agreed, but that evening she cancelled it and said me that we might fight and it wouldn’t be good. Last week I again asked her when we might reschedule the date and she said may be this Friday if she’s not tired.

I am feared so she is going to make her exit again. How can I make this relationship work better? Will a relationship therapy repair this? My friend suggested me to go to CBT counselling. What do you guys think? I am totally depressed. Help me, please.

Hello. If I had to offer my opinion, your relationship needs a proper shake up. People tend to get used to good way too fast. And then, a lot of times without knowing, take the good for granted. You yourself could try and start behaving outside of your usual character. What I mean is, if you let's say the one who always initiates dates, talks, problem solving ec.. Then give yourself a break from all that. You could call some of your old friends, go out alone and show that you can be happy outside this relationship. I'm talking from my personal experience. My husband left me but he came back running when he saw I'm my own person. Sometimes we can start to look boring in someone's eyes. So we just need to get back that respect. I hope it helps. And wish you all the best with your fiance.

yes i would try couples therapy attempt to figure out why she is cheating on you a nutural third party could help, and if not then cut tyes at least you have closer and you rried to send it off on a possitive note. take your buddy's help.