Obsession with stepmom beauty

Hii, Im Sam twenty one years male.. I have a stepmother aged Thirty-nine.. She is very very beautiful n hot.. .. Fair skin n thick long hair till hips.. You can call her 'beauty Queen' . I often get hardon seeing her.. She visits beauty parlor every week and ties hair in different buns n styles at home.. She's trying to be more beautiful n sexy which I hate.. Dad totally supports her.. Even if I request her not to visit beauty parlor and not tie hair bun, she won't agree to it.. She's becoming more n more hot.. What can be done..

21 year old boy/men have been known to be "Young, Dumb and Full of Come" The dumb part fits because you said "I requested her not to visit the beauty parlor and not tie a hair bun and she won't agree to it" (as if she would) and "She's trying to be more beautiful n sexy which I hate". Time to rain in your third leg and practice self control lusting over your step mom is not a good look.

What's wrong with my restrictions.. I'm having problems with her bunning hair n beautyparlors.. Why do u support her actions..

How's about, because she's a free and independent grown woman who can do what the heck she chooses with her own appearance for whatever reasons, without having to take responsibility for any of-age men who even at that advanced age refuse to learn to take responsibility for their own call to control/suppress their urges in the face of whatever temptation life might (i.e. will - constantly) typically put in their path. I.e. your restrictions aren't rightful. In fact, they'd downright ludicrous and over-entitled to the hilt. If you said she were deliberately flaunting her cleavage at you all the time or wandering around in a see-through negligee, timed 'just right', i.e. *deliberately* trying to turn you on, then you'd have a point. But right now you don't. You're just, in a way, saying, 'I can't control myself so you should do it FOR me', which is tantamount to you complaining to your local council about their placing lampposts along your street or along the pavement instead of the grass verges because you can't resist climbing up them and then falling off and hurting yourself....or fully expecting your stepmum to cut up your dinner for you to save you having to use a knife. The adult, gentlemanly and sensible thing to do would be to move out and find your own place *and/or your own girlfriend* so that you don't HAVE to keep reining in that lust-with-nowhere-to-go (because you'll no longer fancy, this case, literally *anything accessible* in a skirt...or a bun). What would you be thinking if the tables were turned and it were her, asking your dad to instruct you not to keep walking around the house without a face-mask on because otherwise SHE found you too hot? Would you comply or would you think, DO ME A FAVOUR, LUV, AND GET REAL?!

I mean - 21 and you in all seriousness (??) pick "Children" as your thread topic?

See soulmate, the actual problem is not with her beautifying herself.. I also like it very much when she bleaches her face and ties hair buns... In fact, secretly, I support.. Who doesn't like it when his mom/stepmom becomes a matter of sexual fantasy.. Even you too would have liked if you were in same place.. But my point is- I feel guilty for getting erections n masturbating.. So I force her to avoid it..

what do yu mean by "I feel guilty for getting erections n masturbating..So I force her to avoid it" what do you mean? But when you say "Who doesn't like it when his MOM/stepmom becomes a matter of sexual fantasy? Who would not like it.. Let's start with your MOM/STEPMOM!! YOUR FATHER !!! There are core and moral boundaries that as civilize human being we value and live by. Don't brand anyone as being the same as you in an attempt to make your inappropriate-way-over-the line seem normal. There is a thin line between fantasy and being perverted..

(Whoops - bit harsh?) Sam, I *understand* she's not related to you thus viewable as and affects as a sexual object. But you still can't expect HER to have to do what is YOUR workload when it comes to not finding yourself turned-on in the first place. Try, whenever you look at her from now on, imagining her on the loo, straining to do a really big poo (as in, "Gnnnnn!"). Or picking her nose and eating it. Or, p*ss-simpler and better yet, YOUR DAD HAVING S*X WITH HER. Yep, that ought to do it. If it doesn't then you're just going to have to put up and shut-up, so to speak, or think about renting your own place now (assuming you have a job?) and in the meantime remember that you should show your dad a bit more respect. You obviously *do* need a girlfriend, though, if you're that frustrated that you can even MANAGE to fancy someone who's label involves the word 'mum'. Fair statement?

Skinnygirl, U may not understand it.. I have a friend, he fantasizes on his own mom in several ways.. This is not unnatural as u say. But I on my part feel guilty for it. My conscience doesn't allow it.. In spite of myself, I do masturbation.. And Soulmate, Im atrrafted to aunties of ladies of 35-45.. Not younger one's.. And I enjoy seeing or fantasizing these ladies pampering themselves..

Please anyone give me a Solution....

It is unnatural (your friend), albeit just not uncommon. Or it is if one is no longer a toddler and the fixation has grown to include the sexual, in line with one becoming a sexual being. It's known as Oedipus Complex, whether or not it includes jealousy of and an urge to exclude ones own father (go Google). I already did suggest a solution: move out and get a girlfriend (no-one mentioned age). Is that out of the question (I note you didn't respond to the job query)? But, meantime, you do have to ask yourself WHY you're attracted to middle-aged women rather than more naturally nearer your own age-group. Do you have a child-mother relationship deficit that you're trying to satisfy in BOGOF fashion? Where is your real mum these days? How come your father (I'm presuming) got main custody of you?

*TO: SAMO28: Agree with SOULMATE "too harsh". After educating myself on Oedipus Complex I have a better understanding of what may be unnatural may not be uncommon, so my apologies. I must remember everything is not always black and white (I took only two psych courses in college :( Maybe once you have a better understanding of the psychology behind Oedipus Complex and believe this may apply to you, why not take SOULMATE's advice by moving out and get a girlfriend? Have you ever had a girlfriend?.

(You are such a classy, consistently conscientious and well-meaning Lady, I actually can't get over how much! Thank-you [in case I get run over by a big fat truck tomorrow...you never know] for being such a boon and positive example, SK, to the point where I feel I can count you in with Susiedqq and Manalone as my 'constant dependables'. :-))

Im not getting what you people are speaking in last 2 posts....

Wow! I would consider being one of your 'constant dependables' an honor (Y) :=|. I have learned so much from this site and your "OH SO INTELLIGENT ADVICE" Thank You Again

SAMO28 In my response to you I believe I was being a bit judgmental my words were somewhat insensitive and for that I apologize. You were right I didn't understand your point of view. So back to my question have you ever had a girlfriend?

Its okay... I never had any girlfriend.. Not even interested to have one.. Im not interested in having physical with stepmother.. I just masturbate and satisfy my lust.. And worst part is she "might" be aware that she's the object of my satisfaction...

What has happen to give you that indication?

I didn't reveal it.. She herself found it perhaps when she saw me masturbating see her photo of Hair bun n facepack on her face... I really feel weird that I have fetish to see "ladies in facepack"...

I have questions unanswered as well, Sam (post timed May 31 14:56) - if you could? After all, your 'fetish' has come from SOMEWHERE. So let's see if we can find out where.

Real mom is no more.. I'm not interested in Girlfriend or even developing sexual relationship with any... Let me be very clear.. I enjoy my fantasy with mom n satisfy with masturbation.. I like it / get hard on when my stepmother applies bleach/facepack on her face.. I know its perverted n uncommon.

How old-sorry, YOUNG were you when your mother passed away (sincerest condolences and sympathy, btw)? And did your dad and/or other fave adult rellies help you cope with it all by letting you repeatedly talk and fire whatever questions you felt the urge to ask? I'm now thinking, actually it's normal - in your circumstance and as a reaction, I mean. It's not workable, though. Nor necessary. It can easily be 'removed' whereby you then *do* feel like getting yourself a girlfriend (which doesn't automatically mean you have to right away start having sex with her if you don't want to at that early point). How close are you and your dad, can you talk to him or ask him absolutely anything? Or the opposite? PS: I doubt she was too fazed when she realised she were your source of fantasising. I imagine she just saw it as par for the course of being a hottie, wholly non-blood-related one at that, and you being 'at that age'.

I don't know how old.. Do u feel masturbation seeing a woman in facepack is normal?? She seemed unhappy for few days n then was normal.. Now she again applies n sleeps in front of me, which gives me a big hardon...

Well, no, not the facepack bit. That's obviously to do with your first sexual imprint and is only a problem (for you) if you can't experience arousal unless the facepack features. But we'll get to that in a minute because I'm more interested in why you say you don't know how old you were when your own mother died? And what do you mean, stepmum 'sleeps in front of you' and 'now she again [applies]'? Are you now suddenly telling me your stepmum, having worked out your little fetish, *is* deliberately trying to wind you up?