Middle aged and frustrated

There is a film out about a 40 year old virgin. Im a bit older than that. I feel lonely and frustrated. My problem is I am not the sort of person who is attractive in any way, I am clumsy, overweight and I get the feeling if I was the last man on earth the last woman would become gay. My self-esteem is rock bottom, I live alone, have little money, dont go out much and holidays are history. I have trouble talking to women WITHOUT sex in mind. I have tried dating sites but I feel that the women are looking for someone with money, looks, posessions and I simply cannot hope to compete. I dont do clubs because I dont wish to be deafened or embarrassed and would be very out of place. I am not a "modern" person(apart from the computer) and I have surrendered to middle age as i wasnt very good at being young. I just find myself out of place in society as it is now. I am most definitely NOT a 48 year old teenager, far from it. But I feel I willl go to my grave never having enjoyed anything in life. Some of my problems would fit into other categories but sexual frustration gets me down. And I havent to confidence to go out and pay for it because id make a hash of it and problbly get arrested! I am only interested in adults but I feel as though Id be pilloried for even attempting a relationship with a woman of similar age to me. I just feel I have missed out on so much in life. In this post i obviously cannot tell the whole story but this is as near as it gets Paul141

Hey Paul, There's no nice way to say this, but stop feeling sorry for yourself and do something about it. Women can smell desperation a mile off. You say you're overweight, everybody thinks they are overweight. This won't stop you from finding the right woman, or from the right woman finding you. If you're concerned about being overweight then joining a gym will help you to lose the weight, and at the same time gain confidence in yourself. It's amazing how good you feel, once you've been working out. Plus by getting involved in the classes will help you to meet the ladies. So the question is: Are you going to fight or are you going to give up? If you put your mind to it, you will accomplish anything.

i argree totally what dr. nightshade said dont sit at home on your computer at night go to the pub or try speed dating.