Coping with her condition

I know we all come to a point in time in life where we reach the end of the road and I've accepted that. Currently my mother is in advanced stages of dementia and is probably getting the best care money could buy in assisted living. She's had this condition for approximately 6 years now she turned 92 two months ago. I'd noticed changes in my last visit about a week ago. At first she seemed like she was four years ago. She wasn't rolling her head back and forth mumbling to herself. She was sitting up in her bed and watching television and actually carried on a conversation with me. Then the next day it was like someone pulled the plug. She sat slumped over in her wheelchair at the dining room the caregivers tried to feed her but she just turned her head away. The last couple of days before I left she wasn't eating at the assisted care dinning room this worried me. I talked to the caring nurse on shift and she told me that they'd changed her meds. They were giving her remeron as a antidepressant so she'd eat. They were also giving her ensure as a supplement. I should also mention that my brother is POA and the staff is under his direction for her so I did know about some of these changes. Before I left as she lye in bed I kissed her goodbye and told her that I loved her. She looked at me with a cry in her voice and told me that she loved me too. Before she slipped into dementia she knew something was wrong. She said honey I'm losing my memory and my mind no matter what I say it's not your real mom you know that and I always love you. There so much more to this story but my brother and I have accepted the fact that she might not live much longer into this next year.

I know exactly what your going through :( My Grandma had Alzheimers disease, which if you know about it, their memory is pretty much lost. I really wish i was older to know her better and understand the condition she had. She lived with us, so i saw her everyday and seeing the struggle that she had to go through really struck my heart. Most days she has forgotten what our names were and who we even are at times, but nothing felt better when we would kiss and hug her and she would remember us <3 I know she struggled and fought hard everyday. She was a warrior. I loved her so much. With all this being said, When God decided it was her time to leave this earth, yes i did cry for days,and was so confused at this so called "life" we all have to go through. My family was always their for me, repeatingly saying shes in a better place now, which then, i didn't really care, i just wanted her to be here with me. As time went on, I really thought about all the pain and suffering she had been going through on daily basis, it was best if God had taken her, Now she is pain free, with my Grandpa looking down on me and my family, guiding us in this journey we must live. God bless.

Thank you AP123 for your kind words. As of Saturday the nurse informed me about her eating apparently my mother goes through these phases. She told me that she'd eaten 50% of her food that day. If things take a downturn though I'm prepared to take family medical leave of absence to be with her.

I know you're right SUSIEDQQ I have to think of my own health. I guess I have a lot on my plate right now.