How long will it take to get through this?

Everything is hitting so hard right now. I'm a young man who got married for love and to start a family. A couple of months after having my first child and joining the military to take care of my family; I find out that my wife wants a divorce. It came out of nowhere. After finishing basic I went home hoping to talk things out but I was met with complete apathy. It turned out she was cheating on me with multiple men. This was the beginning of my emotional decline. All I need to know is how to stop loving her; if I can manage that I think everything else will fall in line.

This must be so hard for you ,the mental torture of knowing such huge betrayal from the one you trusted.Nothing can take away your pain right now,its all too raw.all you must do now is to focus on yourself and this includes reminding yourself that love ,true love between 2 people is about being loyal having trust and with your job this is so essential .love isn't about someone cheating on you ,be good to yourself now and keep looking to the future ,throw yourself into putting plenty of distance between you and your partner.soon you will begin to get stronger and you will heal and be redy to find a love worthy of giving your all to,good luck

Break ups are awful and it takes time and part of it is sitting with your feelings and accepting things as they are. With every sad thought that comes to your mind, remember that you should be loved for who you are and you deserve someone that will be there for you during the good and bad times. Lying is not love. Always remember that! Lying is not love.

I feel for ya. You didnt say how long you were in the relationship but they say it takes half that time to get over them. Never allow a bad relationship to define who you are. First thing is to realize that you cant make someone love you and you dont want to. This crazy world is hard enough without having a good home life. Right now you need some ME time and totally without any thoughts of a rebound relationship that would only make things worse. When people take away chunks of your soul its hard to find a direction. I found if I help someone else through volunteering, helping an elderly person fix their house or whatever..there is a gratitude that slowly fills that void with happiness, being needed, and appreciated. You need to be around people who want to be around you. Go out to an ethnic restaurant that you always wanted to go to, hit the beach for a weekend, go mountain climbing. Life is too short to waste and know that no matter what..you need to take care of you. Love who you are..pat yourself on the back when you deserve it.. Best of luck